So disappointed; having to push date back...

[DansBride2009]

Hey everyone. I was so excited earlier because my wedding was only 6 months away.

I still have 2 credit cards that would have been just about paid off by then but not in full (it would have been just 2 more months), and my fiance is having a REALLY hard time finding a job.

My mom claims she 'has a right to know' about where we are going to live and what are finances will be after we get married because she's afraid she's going to have to bail us out, and sort of talked us into getting married January 2010.

Now, I have a nice little career going and my fiance has certification in the medical field ... but I will have to go back to school, and he has joined a few temp agencies to help him but nothing yet.

I'm just disappointed. I don't want to wait ANOTHER 5 months at this point. I really don't want to get married in January, and I don't want to wait until September 2010 to get married, that's just TOO long for me right now.

I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Is it REALLY that bad a thing to push it back another few months? Thanks. I'd appreciate it.

 

[NikkiPants]

I'm kind of confused by your post.
You need to push the date back because your fiance is having a hard time finding a job, thus, financial issues?
Or you need to push the date back because you are concerned about finances and where you will live?

Pushing the date back isn't that big of a deal. Though, I can understand you are excited and want to make it happen sooner rather than later. I think I would feel the same way.

Are you guys paying for your own wedding and that's why it may have to be pushed back?

 

[Bride-to-be]

Our cruise leaves Jan 31 2010, I keep thinking of it as a Jan wedding even though the date is Feb 2. Don't worry - time will fly by. It gives you more time to think about everything - to come up with new ideas and little additions to your wedding.

If you are going to be married for the rest of your life then 6 months is really no big deal!

 

[NikkiPants]

Our cruise leaves Jan 31 2010, I keep thinking of it as a Jan wedding even though the date is Feb 2. Don't worry - time will fly by. It gives you more time to think about everything - to come up with new ideas and little additions to your wedding.

If you are going to be married for the rest of your life then 6 months is really no big deal!

This is so true! Smarty pants

 

[Bride-to-be]

Think of it this way, if you have an extra six months and you spend an extra six months thinking about the details and theming it will become so much more evolved and your wedding will have your stamp on it so much more.

Plus its always nice to start to settle without any debt. Also if you are pushing it off that much farther you could prolly spend more on the little details =)

I would be happy about it - as long as your guests don't mind the change I think its great!

Many worse things could be happening to your wedding, so keep your chin up!

 

[CharacterFan]

I'm sorry you're having to push your date back. I've been with DFi for almost 5 years, but we're not getting married until September 6, 2010. We wanted to get married sooner, but couldn't afford to. Maybe if you live together or something it won't seem like a big deal. It's just a legal thing.

 

[DansBride2009]

Thank you ladies ! Oh, I meant 'our' not 'are' in the earlier post, lol. I was so upset, I'm sorry if it didn't make sense.


Yes, it's mostly financial reasons we're considering pushing the date back; we were getting ready to sign the contract this weekend and he's having such a tough time finding a job.

I have 3 jobs now; so maybe I can get my credit cards paid off a little faster. I'm a substitute teacher, I tutor after school, and I may be working part time as an AC for Clinique ( which will really be more of a hobby than a job, lol, something fun).

So, it is mostly financial reasons. And my mom doesn't want us to have to start with any debt; he has no debt, I have my car (which I don't consider a debt, but a necessity where I live) and my CCs.

That is true that the time will fly by. I have about a week to consider, as that's when we told Joe when we'd get the contract in. I'm just disappointed because I was sooo happy, but he's the one I want to be with, so I know it'll last.

I really appreciate everyone's comments !! I was a little embarrassed to ask for advice on this since I just posted a thread about how happy I was that my wedding was only 6 months away, lol.

I guess a few more months isn't that bad a thing, if it will really help us out.

 

[NikkiPants]

That makes sense that you would push it back, then.
I would probably feel the same way. Just try and keep your head up and keep yourself busy with planning
Don't feel so bad

 

[dakcp2001]

These things happen It happened to me as well! I got accepted to nursing school a year earlier than planned (thought id get waitlisted) and thus wedding has to wait until after I graduate, May 2010 or the following fall.

I know it will be ok, but I cant help but still be bummed about it, so I feel your pain! its dissapointing to have to prolong the excitement!

BUT it has really helped me find little tweaks to our plan, and frankly with so much less income all the little tips I have picked up on the boards are going to be VERY helpful!

SO keep planning along & keep reading the boards, you mihgt learn somthing that youd like to add or change Hang in there!


I LOVE Disney in Jan, your hotel costs will be less, no crowds at all, and the holiday decorations may still be up !!! So for the same money, you can prob have a nicer hotel or room

 

[PrincessShea]

I agree with your mom. Get the $$ situation in order first. You'll be able to do a lot more and you won't have as much stress if you can plan for things and not have to worry about the money.

 

[gemmybear83]

I agree too - you dont want to be starting married life with more debt. A few months isnt a long time to wait, and it always helps to have a little more tiem to save .

 

[DCLbrideSept2009]

I feel your pain... DF and I had our wedding scheduled on The Wonder cruise 9/20/09. Then honeymoon in WDW for 5 nights after the cruise. It was just going to be the two of us. This is a second marriage for both of us, though, although neither one of us had great weddings the first time around. We have 4 kids between us. We want to take the kids to WDW in June (so they're not too upset about not going with us in September!) and we're also moving next month. With all those costs, we just couldn't squeeze everything in, so we had to cut something... so we decided to cut the cruise/wedding... the plan right now is a simple ceremony in Destin, FL, on our way to WDW... DF suggested postponing the wedding, but I didn't want to do that. We're hoping for a vow renewal possibly on our 1-year anniversary...

 

[pink_tink8i8]

I'm so sorry to hear about having to push back your date. I personally have had to do this several times for many different reasons so I completely understand.

 

[disprincessatheart]

DH and I postponed our wedding for an entire year - 370 days to be exact! Ours was for other reasons (dh freaked out ) but I do know about how hard it is to have your heart set on your wedding and then to have to change it. I'd make a list of all the positives about changing to January (less debt, lower crowds, cheaper rooms, etc) and post it somewhere in your house to remind you regularly. It'll still be here in no time!

 

[DansBride2009]

Thank you so much everyone. I really appreciate it. Things have been a little too stressed, lol. My fiance's father has lymph node infection so we're kind of worried about that, though he says he's better ... so that's another factor.

I have one more week to decide, but now I know it's not such a bad thing to push the date back if I had too.

A year - wow, I don't know how you waited that long !

Thanks again everyone, I really appreciate the support very much. :-D

 

[FutureMrsBane]

Don't worry the time will fly by!!! Plus think of it this way, without the financial problems you will definently get the wedding you really want!! And if you don't want a January wedding this postpone it another month or two when it is Spring time and much prettier!

We just had to postpone our wedding for financial issues also and are waiting until May of 2011 now.