Should DF and I have a reveal before the ceremony??

[tiggersam00]

I have been toying with the idea of doing a "reveal" before the ceremony with just the 2 of us (where the bride and groom see each other for the 1st time)... I think it will make me not cry as much at the actual ceremoy, and also make it much more personal and private.

Now, when I mentioned this to my MOH she was shocked to think that I would want to see my DF before the ceremony (she even wants me to stay in a seperate room and be super traditional, now I have lived with my DF for 3 years and I cannot imagine waking up without him next to me on such an important day, so I promptly put her in her place, nicely of course )

Now I am not going to let her "run the show" by any means, but I wonder if it will be better to do a "reveal" with just us and Misty (our photographer) before the ceremony or should we 1st see each other at the alter??

What are you going to do/did you do, for all of your big days??

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I was very old school and didn't see DF until the ceremony. The last time I saw him was at our rehearsal the day before BUT I think the 1st reveal has just the same effect as seeing each other at the ceremony. Actually, I think its better since its more intimate with only the two of you, and of course the photographer! I say go for the reveal!

 

[gemmybear83]

I say go with whatever you want - I've lived with my df for nearly four years but we are going to do the traditional stay in seperate tooms dont see each other until the wedding, we did debate about a sneak peak but I think that would make me cry more! Go with whatever will make you before more comfortable and happy!

 

[BaBeeCee14]

In the beginning I went back and forth about if we should do the reveal or not. In the end I decided to do one because I knew I would be less nervous if we got the chance to see each other for the first time alone than in front of all our guests. I also really wanted to have pictures taken with DH at AKL and without the reveal, all we would have are pictures of us separately.

 

[dakcp2001]

we are prob going to do this for 2 reasons!

1. dont want to start crying and have all my makeup ruined on the way down the aisle, so this way if I lose it, Ill ahve time to fix it!

2. I would like to have some daylight pics before the ceremony and some dusk pics after teh ceremony.

 

[lurkyloo]

Definitely do a first look, for all the reasons you mentioned. We didn't stay together the night before, but we met in the Beach Club lobby before the wedding and it was perfect! It gave us a private moment together and was captured (unobtrusively) on film and video, and it allowed us to get lots of great pictures together before the ceremony. Plus, we got to enjoy our entire reception with our guests instead of missing the first part for pictures.

We are waaaay too verbal a couple to have met at the altar and then held in all our thoughts and feelings until after the ceremony.

 

[tiggersam00]

Thanks ladies, I think we will do a "first look", DF is very shy and I think this will take some of the pressure off if he can react with just the 2 of us... and I would not be super nervous when we get to the ceremony about seeing my handsome man lol!
Now how to tell my mom....

 

[tiggersam00]

haha, I just told my mom very casually about the "first look" idea... this lady never ceases to amaze me... she said... and i quote "Do whatever you want, and if anyone says otherwise they can talk to me" ! She totally rocks! I thought she would be horrified, but she was totally cool. Awesome!

 

[Skylarr29]

We had a reveal and it was so romantic. Heck we stayed in the same suite the night before and he got ready with us in the morning until it was time for me to put on my dress.

 

[tiggersam00]

We had a reveal and it was so romantic. Heck we stayed in the same suite the night before and he got ready with us in the morning until it was time for me to put on my dress.

Haha, I love it! I think we will seperate once I start getting my hair and makeup done... only because being around that many females will be tough for him lol!

 

[DecemberDisneyBride]

JMHO..... I did not do a reveal, due to I did not even think about it. I regret it now. I cried from the minute I got out of the limo until I saw my DH at the alter. I then proceeded to cry throughout the ceremony, and I am not an emotional person, but I was that day. So my opinion is go for the reveal. But whatever decision you make will be perfect!

 

[Skylarr29]

Haha, I love it! I think we will seperate once I start getting my hair and makeup done... only because being around that many females will be tough for him lol!

It wouldn't work for most lol, but it did for us. We kept trying to decide where and with whom he was going to get ready (we had to get ready so early) and we even had another room. In the end we decided we had this great suite, why should I send him away lol! I would have worried about what he was doing and if he was running on schedule the whole time anyways lol.

One of my fave photos is one I had no idea the photographer took, I don't know what we were saying but we were just looking at each other and I was holding his hand while my hair was being done.

 

[lpizzuro123]

Definately do whatever feels right for both of you. My DH and I did not do a reveal. Our ceremony was at 9:00am in Epcot and there was just too much going on that morning for some alone time before the ceremony.

My DH and I stayed together the night before. At 5:00am Ana showed up and started on my hair and makeup. My DH stayed there for some of it. Misty and her husband showed up and and started taking pictures of me getting ready. Misty's husband took my DH and did some getting ready shots of him. We kept my dress well covered until my DH left. DH and Nilo left to get his guys and head to Epcot for their photos. My girls and my dad arrived and we did more photos and then headed to Epcot. We did our girls shots in Epcot (our ceremony was in Italy and they kept DH hidden in Germany).

The first time my DH saw me was when I walked over the bridge in Italy for our ceremony and this was perfect for us.

Linda

 

[MegKate]

haha, I just told my mom very casually about the "first look" idea... this lady never ceases to amaze me... she said... and i quote "Do whatever you want, and if anyone says otherwise they can talk to me" ! She totally rocks! I thought she would be horrified, but she was totally cool. Awesome!

First off - your Mom rocks!!

Secondly, Rob and I have decided to have a first look. I've been begging (to no avail) for months. I decided to enlist the Roots in my campaign to persuade him. Nathan and Jensey compiled a list of first look shots for me (have I mentioned I <3 the Roots?!) and Rob finally agreed!

Rob's main objection was that it was bad luck. I asked him if he had seen his first wife before the wedding. He said no. There you go!

BTW - let me share a first look link the Roots sent. The bride is wearing my dress! http://rootphotography.blogspot.com/2009/02/bethany-adam-wedding.html YAY!!!

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

i wanted the WOW of walking through the door which I got, but Carrie's DH "first look" shot is priceless!

i was able to get dressed in another room and leave him in ours so he didn't see me from shower to aisle

 

[tiggersam00]

Thanks everyone, I love hearing your plans and reasons! That has helped tremendously! We are def doing a reveal and DF is totally up for the idea now!

And Yes Meg, my Mom does rock lol!

 

[Angela0917]

Hmm, I see you've already made up your mind, but here's my input... I would never ever consider a first look. Even though it seems everyone's got some cute pics of the groom's face or whatever, I think it takes the fun out of it. Sure, so you may not cry as much if you see him before, but it's your wedding! It's emotional, and it's ok to be nervous and cry! Like one of the biggest and best parts of the wedding is when the door opens and the bride and groom see eachother for the first time. I just don't see why anybody wouldn't want to have that moment as a part of the ceremony! Maybe I'm just traditonal about some things...

 

[Ember]

I love the idea of a reveal. It's a special, private moment just for the two of you. Then again, I also loved the look on my husband's face when he saw me for the first time walking towards him in all my finery at the wedding, so I really think you can't go wrong no matter which way you go.

 

[DisBride2007]

Well, you've already made up your mind, but I agree with everyone who said to do the reveal. We didn't do a reveal, but like Skylarr, my DH got ready in the same room as I did so it wasn't exactly a surprise. We had pictures taken together before the ceremony. My DH said that seeing each other beforehand didn't affect the emotion he felt when seeing me walk down the aisle at all - it was just as emotional an experience for him.

 

[tiggersam00]

Hmm, I see you've already made up your mind, but here's my input... I would never ever consider a first look. Even though it seems everyone's got some cute pics of the groom's face or whatever, I think it takes the fun out of it. Sure, so you may not cry as much if you see him before, but it's your wedding! It's emotional, and it's ok to be nervous and cry! Like one of the biggest and best parts of the wedding is when the door opens and the bride and groom see eachother for the first time. I just don't see why anybody wouldn't want to have that moment as a part of the ceremony! Maybe I'm just traditonal about some things...

I can def see your point on this for sure Angela I think it will make DF less nercous as well (he is super shy... not sure why he dates me actually lol!) So he wants to make it private, which I think is good for us.. although I honestly never thought I would say that, weird huh? I love the part of the wedding where the grrom sees his bride too

I love the idea of a reveal. It's a special, private moment just for the two of you. Then again, I also loved the look on my husband's face when he saw me for the first time walking towards him in all my finery at the wedding, so I really think you can't go wrong no matter which way you go.

Ahhh, thats what I want! So sweet, thanks for sharing!

Well, you've already made up your mind, but I agree with everyone who said to do the reveal. We didn't do a reveal, but like Skylarr, my DH got ready in the same room as I did so it wasn't exactly a surprise. We had pictures taken together before the ceremony. My DH said that seeing each other beforehand didn't affect the emotion he felt when seeing me walk down the aisle at all - it was just as emotional an experience for him.

I think it will be different seeing your grrom in private and at the altar... at least I hope lol! I will make sure he doesnt see me for the morning at least... absence makes the heart grow fonder I guess