Shocking wedding announcement today.

[sajetto]

My DF and I went to a family renunion today. One of his cousins who was engaged less than a month ago announced her engagement to her new boyfriend who she has only been seeing for 3 weeks and they are getting married in August! That only gives her a little over a month to plan.

When she announced it, there was a dead silence, and looks of shock. Many of these people do not approve of the new fellow because he has trouble holding a job, is obviously taking steroids (its not natural to build muscle in some areas at the rate he is), and he doesn't just have one or two tatoos, but is covered from his neck to his calves.

How on earth can someone go from one fiance to the next in a month and get married so soon to boot?!

 

[TiggersPal]

My DF and I went to a family renunion today. One of his cousins who was engaged less than a month ago announced her engagement to her new boyfriend who she has only been seeing for 3 weeks and they are getting married in August! That only gives her a little over a month to plan.

When she announced it, there was a dead silence, and looks of shock. Many of these people do not approve of the new fellow because he has trouble holding a job, is obviously taking steroids (its not natural to build muscle in some areas at the rate he is), and he doesn't just have one or two tatoos, but is covered from his neck to his calves.

How on earth can someone go from one fiance to the next in a month and get married so soon to boot?!

Is she pregnant?

 

[sajetto]

Is she pregnant?

No, this is what is so bizarre. When there was silence she said "I'm not pregnant" and started nervously laughing. It took a few seconds and then to break the ice someone said congrats and started to clap to get the rest of the crowd to chime in.

 

[ANTSS2001]

maybe she is just in love

 

[anewvance]

Some people just do this... I haven't known anyone personally but i've heard lots of stories. And funny enough, many of them have been happily married for a number of years after doing it.

But a month to plan a wedding... wow, hope she is planning SMALL!

LoL, my first thought was she was pregnant too.

 

[sajetto]

I guess this was everyone else's first thought too. Then she started making excuses for why they were getting married so soon (she's starting school the week after, he can take off work for a honeymoon then, its a Sunday so lots of people can come, yada yada yada)

My DF says that his cousins are very competitive and he thinks she's doing this so that she can get married first. There are 5 couples engaged. Still seems strange though and I can tell her dad is furious.

 

[Stacerita]

Some people just need to be with someone. I have a friend who was getting a divorce from her husband of 5 years because she felt she "settled" for him. While going through the divorce, she became engaged to someone else and was moving cross country to be with him. Right before she was to move, she broke up with him. Within a couple of weeks, she met someone new and moved to another state to be with him. She once again became engaged. That was all within a month or so. Her divorce was still not final and she had been engaged twice. A month after her divorce became final, she remarried. She just needed to be with someone. Maybe thats the cousin. I dont think a quick proposal and a short engagement is the way to go. I find it odd and it says a lot about the couple. And I dont find that to be a good thing. Although I am sure there are some couples it works out for, most of them it don't.

 

[Stacerita]

maybe she is just in love

Maybe she is. But why the need to be engaged in 3 weeks?

 

[sajetto]

I would think that someone needs more than 3 weeks to get to know someone they're going to spend the rest of their life with My Lord, I doubt they've even had a fight yet. It just takes so long to see the good, bad, and the ugly that I'd want some time before I said "I take this man to be my husband until death" in front of God.

 

[TiggersPal]

Come on... she was engaged a month ago to someone else... that's not love - she doesn't even know him yet... lust maybe or "fantasy" but not love. Can I ask - how old she is? Is she the type that requires external validation by having a "man" in her life...at all times? Just curious now.

 

[sajetto]

Come on... she was engaged a month ago to someone else... that's not love - she doesn't even know him yet... lust maybe or "fantasy" but not love. Can I ask - how old she is? Is she the type that requires external validation by having a "man" in her life...at all times? Just curious now.

She's 27. The guy she broke up with a month ago was in his 40's. The new guy is in his mid 30's. She was with the last fiance for about 2- 3 years off and on (they'd get engaged and split, then again, etc).

 

[TiggersPal]

Let's just all say a prayer... not much else we can do...eh?

 

[sajetto]

Let's just all say a prayer... not much else we can do...eh?

You're right. This is just something so bizarre I had to share.

 

[scoobndolliesmom]

I think maybe your cousin is just trying not to deal with the pain of the first break up.. maybe she just wants to be married.. just a guess

 

[sajetto]

The thing that bothers me is the thought of "just wanting to be married." Its not like playing house, its a legal union that is very difficult to undo. I'm sorry, but I'm getting on my soapbox here.....


The way I was raised was that marriage is the biggest commitment that you can make and its not "for as long as we shall love, but for as long as we shall live" I'm not happy, is not an excuse to break a marriage. Marriages are full of happy and unhappy times. I know that my DF and I will have times when we just feel like throwing in the towel, but our beliefs are such that we feel that you just have to suck it up and deal with the problems you have. I witnessed my own parents go through some VERY rough patches in their marriage that some feel are unforgivable, but they're still together 38 years later. My grandparents were married for 58 years and its like you have a black mark on you if you just "give up."

I'm just not sure this girl gets what those vows that she is going to say, mean.

 

[drgnfly30]

Sounds like my SIL.. she absolutely cannot be without a man... I know of, not one but, two occasions where she left her fiance, hooked up with a new guy & moved in with him all in the SAME night!!! She owns at least 5 different engagement rings, has made it the alter twice, neither lasted.

 

[sajetto]

Sounds like my SIL.. she absolutely cannot be without a man... I know of, not one but, two occasions where she left her fiance, hooked up with a new guy & moved in with him all in the SAME night!!! She owns at least 5 different engagement rings, has made it the alter twice, neither lasted.

This is just sad to me. This cousin moved in with this new guy a WEEK after ending a relationship. Doesn't anyone value the relationships they have anymore?

 

[babytrees]

My mother met, got engaged and was married to her husband in just under three months....13 years ago(they are still married, but I am not sure it's all that happily). I think it's too fast but what are you going to tell your mother.

 

[momrek06]

OP: My nephew (18yo) met his DGF Nov 1, 2005..left for IRAQ on Thanksgiving...turned 19yo in Jan....returned home May 27th, married his DGF June 3rd and went back to IRAQ on June 10th.....

MY ENTIRE FAMILY HAS BASICALLY BEEN SAYING "WTH"......

On and BTW nephew will not be home until Dec 2006!!! DGF is NOT pregnant and has been and will remain living at home with her parents!!!


STRANGE BEHAVIOR....

 

[DISUNC]

Love is Blind!!!!

Anyhow...just wish them luck.

Many years ago my cousin was engaged to a real 'nice guy' for 2 years. She met another guy (who sounds the same as your cousin new fiancee) in May...were Married in September! Wow did this cause some family gossip! They delivered their first baby the following September. They now have been married 24 years with 7 sons....And everyone is Happy, Healthy & Wonderful!!!

ps the original fiancee...is doing time for beating his 3rd wife!!!!!!

Ya never know!