OneLittleSpark
A Michaelmusophobia Sufferer (please don't hate me
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Hi everyone, I need some advice, and thought this might be the place to get it. I'm considering applying for a service dog, and wanted to 'talk it through' with all you lovely DISers who have SDs. I think that a dog would make a huge difference to my life, but I'm worried about whether I would be able to give them all the care they needed and deserved.
OK, quick background on me, for those who don't know. I've had Fibromyalgia for about four years now, which comes with all the fun of constant pain, weakness and extremely low energy levels
. I use a wheelchair outside the house, and walking aids at home. I just about manage to get through a full week at work (thankfully, I studied a subject which allows me to work a sedentary desk job), but that's pretty much all I can handle. I've got pretty much no social life to speak of; rely heavily on my partner to manage all the household chores; and can't even pop out to the shops, less than a minute away, on my own. I feel like my life and independence are slowly being eroded away.
I think that having a SD to help me with the day-to-day tasks of life, that I used to take for granted (picking things up, opening doors, etc), would make a real difference to my energy and pain levels. I also have fairly poor balance when I'm walking, and have narrowly missed a number of nasty falls, when my head suddenly forgets which way is up.
Also, my partner is currently looking for a job (he graduated a few months ago, but this isn't the easiest time for anyone to find work
). At the moment, he is at home most of the day, so can handle the cleaning, shopping, cooking, washing up, laundry etc, but I can't expect him to continue doing all this once he gets a job. He says he'll be able to manage it, but I don't think he will, especially as starting a new job is always tiring. Besides, I wouldn't feel right asking so much of him.
My biggest worry with having a SD, is whether I'd be able to give them all the exercise they would need to stay happy and healthy. I think I could manage to take him / her out to the park before and after work, but I'm worried about the bad days. I know I could ask the fella to push me to and from the park if necessary, but I don't want to have to ask him too often. I'm sure that having a dog relying on me to take them out, would give me an extra boost of energy and an incentive to push myself on, but I can't be certain whether this would be enough or not, until I actually had a dog at home.
So, how well do those of you with limited energy cope with caring for your SD (or pet dog, for those without SDs)? Can you still exercise, groom, feed and clean up after them on the bad days? How much do you have to rely on others to help with their care? Basically, it all boils down to whether I'd be able to look after a dog, and whether their help would outweight this extra energy 'cost'. I feel it would, but I've never had a dog (SD or otherwise) before, so can't be sure.
Any opinions, advice, experience or pointers would be really helpful to me right now, even if what you're saying isn't what I want to hear.
Thank you for reading this long post everyone, and thanks in advance of anything you can tell me!
OK, quick background on me, for those who don't know. I've had Fibromyalgia for about four years now, which comes with all the fun of constant pain, weakness and extremely low energy levels

I think that having a SD to help me with the day-to-day tasks of life, that I used to take for granted (picking things up, opening doors, etc), would make a real difference to my energy and pain levels. I also have fairly poor balance when I'm walking, and have narrowly missed a number of nasty falls, when my head suddenly forgets which way is up.
Also, my partner is currently looking for a job (he graduated a few months ago, but this isn't the easiest time for anyone to find work

My biggest worry with having a SD, is whether I'd be able to give them all the exercise they would need to stay happy and healthy. I think I could manage to take him / her out to the park before and after work, but I'm worried about the bad days. I know I could ask the fella to push me to and from the park if necessary, but I don't want to have to ask him too often. I'm sure that having a dog relying on me to take them out, would give me an extra boost of energy and an incentive to push myself on, but I can't be certain whether this would be enough or not, until I actually had a dog at home.
So, how well do those of you with limited energy cope with caring for your SD (or pet dog, for those without SDs)? Can you still exercise, groom, feed and clean up after them on the bad days? How much do you have to rely on others to help with their care? Basically, it all boils down to whether I'd be able to look after a dog, and whether their help would outweight this extra energy 'cost'. I feel it would, but I've never had a dog (SD or otherwise) before, so can't be sure.
Any opinions, advice, experience or pointers would be really helpful to me right now, even if what you're saying isn't what I want to hear.
Thank you for reading this long post everyone, and thanks in advance of anything you can tell me!
