rules in your house??

[pyrxtc]

I have a student staying with me fromanother country. It is just for a few weeks but he thinks my rules are outrageous and that we are too strict. he went to spend the night with another student from his home country and that family he said had no rules at all. I'm sure he is exaggerating but still. I think our rules are fair for someone his age. he will be 17 in October.

What kind fo rules do you have in your house regarding the internet and gaming systems?

Do you have a bedtime?

Do you have to finish homework before you do anything else?

Also TV ?? We jusyt ahve the one in the living room besides my bedroom that has cable and the teen thinks he should be able to watch what he wants when he wants.

What other rules do you have?

 

[hidmickey:myantidrug]

I have a student staying with me fromanother country. It is just for a few weeks but he thinks my rules are outrageous and that we are too strict. he went to spend the night with another student from his home country and that family he said had no rules at all. I'm sure he is exaggerating but still. I think our rules are fair for someone his age. he will be 17 in October.

What kind fo rules do you have in your house regarding the internet and gaming systems? The Internet my mom doesn't want me on all the time but for school it's usually inevitable. As for gaming systems, I have Super Nintendo that I got when I was 6. Let's just say it's pretty old with 2 games that I only play when friends are around, yes, we are losers. I have my mom's old Atari that I play sometimes.

Do you have a bedtime?
Yup, 10:30 on weekdays, none on weekends but can be stretched depending. I usually go to bed earlier because I like my sleep and know how I get in the morning. If I didn't go to bed early I wouldn't have any friends!

Do you have to finish homework before you do anything else? I'm not really sure if I have to since I always have anyway, it's just the kind of person I am.

Also TV ?? We jusyt ahve the one in the living room besides my bedroom that has cable and the teen thinks he should be able to watch what he wants when he wants.
This is a copy/paste of what I wrote on another board, I just didn't feel like retyping it so if some things don't seem to make sense, that's why.
Here at my house (It's me, 16, and my mom, 37) we have the tv on from the time we wake up to the time we go to bed. I do hw in front of the tv that I start as soon as I get home. I work better with noise, silence makes me paranoid-ish for some reason so it's easier to work for me in noise, I don't know why. I do very well in school, straight As, all advanced classes. I am active in after school clubs and take part in sports so it's not as if I go home, plop on the couch and never get up. TV watching doesn't affect me in that way. We watch tv during dinner, too. I know people say that dinner at a dining table is better for family time but my mom and I communicate well anyway but we still talk during the show and we can also communiate about what is on the tv and start conversations about that. We no longer have a dining table; we converted our dining room into a family room. I know there are a lot of people against this but it doesn't hurt us and it's how we live but I can certainly understand why parents would want to restrict it.

In your situation, cutting cable out may be the best to wein them from the channels that you won't get without it but I'm sure you won't want to deprive yourself or DH of it as well. It's a tough case.

I'm also totally with you when it comes to kid's shows straying away from being good, quality shows teaching good behavior, etc.. As an example, I babysat my cousins (6, 4, 3) all summer and the older 2 asked to watch Spongebob Square Pants (which my aunt and uncle do not allow them to watch so they must hear from school or another such place) and I absolutly would not allow it. I hate it with such a passion. Talk about no manners, rude, talking back, etc.! It's unbelievable. It's no wonder your kids are sneeking out of bed (no offense to you here), preteen/kid shows that they show on Disney shows show kids doing these actions! When I was their age, I was watchin Barney, Sesame Street, Blue's Clues (which you may still find me watching now ) and the worst thing on (which I still happened to love) was Rugrats with Angelica which I wasn't allowed to watch until I was 8 or 10 (I can't remember which). I'm with you in seeing a decline in what is stressed in children's shows.

here is the link to the thread if you want to see other parent's rules on tv watching. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1212300

What other rules do you have?

My rules in regard to these things are within the quote. Btw-how very rude of him.

 

[Babyjustrun]

Bedtime:

Weekends - 11 -12
School - 10
Summer - 11-1

of course, all of this would be different for him, because I'm 13.

I always do homework after supper. I do whatever I want with my homework. As long as it gets done.

We have two tv's in my house. It's cable. I'm allowed to watch for as long as I want. Whatever I want as well. But if my dad or mum wants the tv, they get it. However, it's not hard to get the tv, because usually everyone in my family is doing something different at the same time.

 

[Loves Disney]

I'm 17. I don't have a limit on the computer, I have a TV in my room and I can watch what and whenever I want, I don't have a bedtime. I go to bed depending on when I get tired and I am not ignorant to school, so I keep it rather respected. In the summer I'd go to bed around 2-3 am. weekends, 12-1. School nights, 10-11.

We don't really have rules at my house...everything is kind of implied. My sister and I respect our parents greatly. If they don't want us going out for any reason, they'll let us know why and we'll understand that.

If I were to go into anyone's house that isn't my own, I would certainly respect and obey the rules and expectations. I would yield to all the members of the house. That's just me.

 

[Mara]

What kind fo rules do you have in your house regarding the internet and gaming systems?

Do you have a bedtime?
No. Admittedly, I probably should... but there's no rules concerning what time I go to bed. It's my choice. If there's something I need to be up for at 7:00 in the morning, and I don't go to sleep 'til past midnight... It's my own fault, and I am quite aware of it (so I don't complain).

Do you have to finish homework before you do anything else?
Well... I am home-schooled, so, technically, my 'homework' is my schoolwork, there is no homework. Again, my parents have not laid down any rules concerning that for me, because they trust me to get my work done. It depends on the person, though, 'cause most of my younger siblings (7, 10, 13) are told to not watch any TV until they have their work done.

Also TV ?? We just have the one in the living room besides my bedroom that has cable and the teen thinks he should be able to watch what he wants when he wants.
No rules here... maybe implied (no TV on during dinner, or at least until 2+ people are finished).

 

[2HOT2touch]

Well, I go to a boarding school, so this is kind of different. but when I am at home(which is normally vacation anyway)
no bed time
the only computer that works in the house is mine, so i can use it whenever I want
well since it is vacation i dont have homework, but if it is the summer and I have to read or something I do it whenever I want, as long as I get it done.
we only have one working TV in the house and I live with my mom and her bf and we used to fight over the TV so my mom set up a system everyone has a day of the week that they can watch tv. my moms bf and I have 3 days and my mom has one. and that day we are aloud to watch whatever we want whenever we want.

at school.
techincally I have to be in my room at 11. but knowing that I have school the next morning thats just normally when I go to sleep, also because the internet shuts off then.
I do my homework during studyhall and whenever I want as long as it is done before that class.
we only have one tv in the dorm and it is only aloud on after classes and before and after studyhall. there is also a TV in the student center which also has the same rules. but what sucks about it, is that you normally have to watch what everyone else is watching.
At school I have my own computer and I can use it whenever I want(except during class and sports obviously). but technically we arent allowed to use AIM during studyhall, but I do anyway. I do really well in school and I know when I cant talk to people.

i think that is all.And by the way I also think it is very rude for him to disrespect your house rules so much, seeing as he is a gues in your home.

 

[MissPotatoHead]

Hey...just thought i'd post my rules...they are in summer and school times...

Internet and Video games: hm, chores and (summer) reading has to be done

Bedtime: summer: no bed time school nights: for me (14) 9:30-10:00

TV: hm, chores, and/or reading has to be done...

...it's all pretty easy to get outt of...lol

- steph -

 

[disneyfanatic3166]

My afternoons and nights are pretty crazy because I do professional theater all year round, so Im pretty good at time managment... but, I usually try to get my homework done before I watch tv/go to rehersals or shows. On a regular night w/ no rehersals or shows I usually go to bed around 10, 10:30. My parents dont really have to nag me to go to bed though, cause im usually pretty tired. If the kids staying with you is 17, hes nearly an adult so you should give him some more freedom... maybe suggest going to bed around 10:30 on a school night, but I wouldn't force him to do anything... Also, if he is watching TV, you might want to ask him if he has already finished his HW or not...

 

[Sparx]

no real bedtime, but I usually get up at 4:30 am, so I'm usually in bed before midnight.

I am alwasy online with my IM, but I set myself to away and do my homework if I have any. Thats no real rule, but I know myself and if I don't do that, I'll never get anything done.

 

[AmoDolphin]

What kind fo rules do you have in your house regarding the internet and gaming systems?
No real rules here, but if a parent wants the internet, you have to get off.

Do you have a bedtime?
Generally when you're tired, so for me during the school year, it's around 9:30 or 10. Weekends, I stay up much later, sometimes until 1:00 to watch the Twilight Zone. Summer is basically the same as weekends, but I go to an early swim team, so sometimes it's earlier.

Do you have to finish homework before you do anything else?
Not really. I listen to music or have the TV on while I'm doing homework. I get my sister off the bus ten or fifteen minutes after I get off the bus, so there's not really a point to starting something and having to stop that shortly after.

Also TV ?? We jusyt have the one in the living room besides my bedroom that has cable and the teen thinks he should be able to watch what he wants when he wants.
We have cable in the living room, basement, and in my mom and dad's bedroom, so if someone is watching something someone else doesn't want to see, they just find somewhere else to watch it. If a parent wants to watch something and there's on other tv, the original tv watcher is just out of luck.

What other rules do you have?
-Everyone with a cell phone is to have it charged, on, and with them at all times.
-Don't wake up a naping person unless it's an emergancy
-If someone has a migrane, don't bother them.
-If you annoy someone, expect to be annoyed back.
-When you know dinner's soon, don't eat (unless you're starving, have a migrane, or have some good reason to)
-Keep your backpack/musical istrument out of the kitchen.

 

[pigletgirl]

What kind fo rules do you have in your house regarding the internet and gaming systems? - As much time as I want because my parents know I can stop, unlike my brothers lol

Do you have a bedtime? - I turn my light out by 10pm on school nights, but on breaks and weekends it can be whatever I want. (once the baby comes though, I'll be the one up, because I'm a night owl....its guaranteed!)

Do you have to finish homework before you do anything else? - I do, so it isn't lurking over my head, but I wouldn't have to finish it to do something else

Also TV - Again, I can watch what I want

What other rules do you have? - No boys over unless parents are home (learned that the hard way sophomore year), no co-ed sleepovers, things like that. My parents have been more leniant with me, because I am almost 18, and they can trust me as well.

 

[CrazyChik]

theres no real rules except if you want the computer or TV you have to finished your homework and bed is at half 9 for school days and we have to get up at 6 but other than that no rules