rsvp reminder, how?

[groomtb]

what are some of the proper ways to remind people to return their rsvp, like now.

*what should I say really lol

 

[sarah_n_brian2006]

You can call, it does not look bad. In fact they will understand

 

[Rustyflwr3]

hmm, that's a tough one, as you don't want to be rude! If you need to know now, i would say just to call them and check on whether or not they are interested in coming! I know if someone called me and asked me if I was planning on coming, I wouldn't be offended at all! Good Luck!

Jessica

 

[sajetto]

I would just give them a ring to find out. It is so much easier that way (that is for intimates like us ) Now, for customs thats a whole 'nother ball game

 

[toniijolou]

Here is an idea that you can use

 

[groomtb]

Thanks everyone I think I know what to say now.
toniijolou thanks for the example too, might want to black out the phone numbers though

 

[twojo21]

i made a few phone calls with our rsvps, i also sent out an email from our website on theknot.com with the option to rsvp online.

 

[JandJ]

If you want to be a stickler for etiquette, the MOH or BM is supposed to call those who have not RSVP'd and ask them if they're attending. This can be done a week or so after the RSVP date has passed.

Good luck!

 

[groomtb]

I see..never read much about the etiquette since we're doing everything ourselfs lol...no MOH/BM/ETC. I'm sort of like my own wedding planner...!

 

[twojo21]

just give them a call or email & say hi this is groomtb, how are you? blah, blah. i was just giving a call to find out if you & doe were coming to our wedding at wdw?

 

[toniijolou]

I took the pic off - forgot about the numbers... if u want to use it - pm me

 

[JandJ]

I see..never read much about the etiquette since we're doing everything ourselfs lol...no MOH/BM/ETC. I'm sort of like my own wedding planner...!

Yeah, we didn't stick to etiquette either and that was fine with me, I know the stuff but I don't practice it My MOH was my 17-year-old niece and we didn't have a BM because DH's best friend, who would have been BM, was too sick to travel. So, we joked that my niece was MOH, Bridesmaid, BM, Usher, Flower Girl, and Ring Barer. I forgot to cancel the BM bout so she wore it the next day around MK

 

[Codie]

I felt real awkward about doing this. I did have MIL to be call the people on their side and my parents call their friends. Mine I called. I kept in mind that I wasn't being rude by calling and asking if they would be attending my very expensive wedding--they were the ones being rude by not having responded so that I could budget and plan accordingly. Obviously I wasn't mean about it--but that helped me put it in perspective so that I didn't feel so uncomfortable about calling.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

I sent a newsletter either just before or just after the official invite or maybe with LOL I don't remember but I what I do remember is that I pretty much made it clear that if there was no RSVP I would be assuming they weren't coming as Disney needed strict numbers.

Anytime I wanted my guests to do anything I would always blame Disney and it worked a treat, I think they were scared of the Big Guy

 

[DisneyDiva74]

LOL, Sam, I just started planning and I'm already doing the same thing. If someone wants to do something that I don't want, I am just saying, "oh sorry, Disney doesn't allow that!"
Its a great excuse.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

LOL, Sam, I just started planning and I'm already doing the same thing. If someone wants to do something that I don't want, I am just saying, "oh sorry, Disney doesn't allow that!"
Its a great excuse.

And it will work, you watch LOL

On another note, it just really infuriates me that wedding guests can be so rude not to reply, why do people think they can just "turn-up" to a wedding without letting the Bride & Groom that they will be attending, I mean seriously what are they thinking!!! Or I read about those last minute family who say 2 days before the wedding, "oh yeah we're coming now!" - I mean that can be great news but it's a nightmare when you have made all the place cards and done all the table assignments etc and given numbers to the caterer.... OK vent over

 

[SyrCinderella]

When DH and I married, his dad refused to send the response card back. DH called him and asked if he and his second wife, and 8 step brothers would be attending the wedding. He still said "I don't know, we'll see." Mind you, the wedding was in the same town in which they live, about 10 miles from their home.

The poor caterer set up a table (after all, he was the father of the groom), and when they didnt show up, had to make the table disappear without calling attention to the fact that DH's dad wasnt there.

Fast forward 25 yrs, and now DD is planning her DFW. We called DH's dad and told him the plan - WP, LS, sit down dinner. He says - oh, we might be spending that month in FL, so maybe we'll drop by. Seriously! Not as a joke! Now this is probably rude, but Im not going to go thru this all over again. I sent him a nice note and said that we need to have an answer, b/c Disney is magical but they have their rules. He still hasnt given us a yes or no. I am going to assume he's not coming this time. Moral of the story - some people will just not commit themselves.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

OMG how funny - I guess there really are some people that just won't commit even to a formal affair like this, too funny, thanks for sharing that story