Rob and Scott's Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding-TR Pg 92; Photo Update pg 133

[wallyb]

Some people are in your life to provide "moral support". I'm here to provide "Immoral Support". It's a dirty job, but someone's got to do it!

Oh, but Lindsay and Paris? EW! I wouldn't go anywhere near them! I have my standards!

Well I'm coming out ahead of Lindsay and Paris - that's good.
But - What is this "dirty job"? Special equipment needed?

 

[OrlandoMike]

Well I'm coming out ahead of Lindsay and Paris - that's good.
But - What is this "dirty job"? Special equipment needed?

Looks like you "came out" just in time!

http://www.news.com.au/couriermail/story/0,23739,23521854-5012980,00.html

 

[wallyb]

Looks like you "came out" just in time!

http://www.news.com.au/couriermail/story/0,23739,23521854-5012980,00.html

Don't make me act out Mike -
Do we really want another round of L'enfant terrible?

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

The centerpieces are wicked! What an unexpected touch.

I really like the sounds of the suits too. It is still seriously hot in September. You are really nice to consider your guest!

At the Disney wedding I attended, there was a point during the dinner where the lights dimmed and the servers (all in black suits with white shirts) entered with glass (ice) slippers on their trays (with blue lights embedded) that had sorbet on the "toe" of the slipper. What a stunning presentation and great entertainment for the guests. Oh, the music they entered to, was "Be Our Guest."

I know you are having a buffet, but are you planning on any sort of dramatic moment like that?

I love the music choices. Do you mind my asking what the list for the first dance includes? (Just nosey, but I'm mushy too. I'm loving the sensitivity in your ceremony).

 

[wallyb]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?

The book?
Accusations?

 

[OrlandoMike]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?

The book?
Accusations?

Hello! PIXIE DUST!

 

[rpmdfw]

The centerpieces are wicked! What an unexpected touch.

Yeah, we really like that they're something that most people won't have seen before.

I know you are having a buffet, but are you planning on any sort of dramatic moment like that?

More dramatic than Rob & Scott fighting on the dancefloor over who's going to lead?

No, no big over the top thing. Just not really our style.

I love the music choices. Do you mind my asking what the list for the first dance includes? (Just nosey, but I'm mushy too. I'm loving the sensitivity in your ceremony).

Would you believe "I'll Make a Man Out of You" from Mulan?

Okay, not really. On the music choices, I haven't even discussed them with Scott yet. And I've got no idea what songs he might have in mind. Out of respect for him, I won't discuss them until we've at leased narrowed it down.
But when we do, I'll be sure to post them.

 

[rpmdfw]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?

The book?
Accusations?

What's being thrown?

Caution. To the wind.

 

[rpmdfw]

Hello! PIXIE DUST!

No need to throw pixie dust at a couple of fairies!

In all honesty, we're not doing a staged departure, and nothing tossed, etc.

All of those concepts are traced back to people throwing rice on the newlyweds to ensure fertility. That's a symbolism we're not interested in. We don't want children (Tolliver is PLENTY) and we're doing everything we can to eliminate any "bride/groom" or "male/female" symbols from the ceremony. (which ain't easy!)

That's a big part of why we're not having the ceremony at the Wedding Pavillion--It's screams "bride and groom". It also is a big part of why we're walking down the aisle together too. That way one of us isn't there first waiting for the other. It avoids the symbolism of the "groom" waiting for the "bride".

I know it's really nit-picky, but we're trying to avoid being what we're not, and as I said before, symbols are powerful things. By avoiding them, we're sending a clear message that Scott and I are equals, partners, and family to each other.

Okay, stepping off of my soapbox now.

 

[wallyb]

No need to throw pixie dust at a couple of fairies!

In all honesty, we're not doing a staged departure, and nothing tossed, etc.

All of those concepts are traced back to people throwing rice on the newlyweds to ensure fertility. That's a symbolism we're not interested in. We don't want children (Tolliver is PLENTY) and we're doing everything we can to eliminate any "bride/groom" or "male/female" symbols from the ceremony. (which ain't easy!)

That's a big part of why we're not having the ceremony at the Wedding Pavillion--It's screams "bride and groom". It also is a big part of why we're walking down the aisle together too. That way one of us isn't there first waiting for the other. It avoids the symbolism of the "groom" waiting for the "bride".

I know it's really nit-picky, but we're trying to avoid being what we're not, and as I said before, symbols are powerful things. By avoiding them, we're sending a clear message that Scott and I are equals, partners, and family to each other.

Okay, stepping off of my soapbox now.

Well thanks

Professor Homonuptial.
Darn - and I so did not want to learn anthing today.

 

[rpmdfw]

Well thanks

Professor Homonuptial.
Darn - and I so did not want to learn anthing today.

You actually learned something?

So, I guess it's not true what they say about old dogs, huh?

Not sure what you could have learned from my little rant, other than the fact that I'm over-thinking EVERYTHING!

 

[wallyb]

You actually learned something?

Yes, I feel you forced me to LEARN.
I feel violated. And not in a good way.

 

[turkygurl]

I love all your choices. The cake looks amazing! I'm sure you'll have a blast.

And I love the song choice for the last dance. My husband, brother, and I always sing along as we walk around Epcot after Illuminations.

 

[rpmdfw]

I love all your choices. The cake looks amazing! I'm sure you'll have a blast.

And I love the song choice for the last dance. My husband, brother, and I always sing along as we walk around Epcot after Illuminations.

I can't listen to "Promise" without getting all teary eyed. We had originally discussed using it for a first dance song until we decided that we really wanted a male vocal. That's when we started pulling suggestions together.

It really is such a beautiful song. We decided to make it the last dance so that everyone can dance with us.

For those of you who don't know the words, you can read them here.

 

[wallyb]

Can our dance be..
The Glamorous Life?

She wears a long fur coat of mink
Even in the summer time
Everybody knows from the coy little wink
The girl's got a lot on her mind

She's got big thoughts, big dreams
And a big brown Mercedes sedan
What I think this girl
She really wants
Is to be in love with a man

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

She saw him standing in the section marked
If you have to ask you can't afford it lingerie
She threw him bread and said make me scream
In the dark what could he say

Boys with small talk and small minds
Really don't impress me in bed
She said, I need a man's man, baby
Diamonds and furs
Love would only conquer my head

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

They made haste in the brown sedan
They drove to 55 Secret street
They made love and by the seventh wave
She knew she had a problem
She thought real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

 

[rpmdfw]

Can our dance be..
The Glamorous Life?

She wears a long fur coat of mink
Even in the summer time
Everybody knows from the coy little wink
The girl's got a lot on her mind

She's got big thoughts, big dreams
And a big brown Mercedes sedan
What I think this girl
She really wants
Is to be in love with a man

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

She saw him standing in the section marked
If you have to ask you can't afford it lingerie
She threw him bread and said make me scream
In the dark what could he say

Boys with small talk and small minds
Really don't impress me in bed
She said, I need a man's man, baby
Diamonds and furs
Love would only conquer my head

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

They made haste in the brown sedan
They drove to 55 Secret street
They made love and by the seventh wave
She knew she had a problem
She thought real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

Okay, who let WallyB have caffiene and sugar?

Whose turn was it to watch him today?

 

[zulemara]

When my eldest daughter got married, she said absolutely no.. without a doubt no, Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman.. what does he play, you got it Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman... I thought my daughter was going to rip his eyes out, but the place went wild and everyone was dancing. Go figure..and yet the ones that the family had picked up to be played, he did not play. Needless to say, we would never recommend this DJ or his company....

[soapbox]
So there was a song the bride didn't want. The DJ played it(perhaps it was requested) and everyone went wild. So the DJ had people dancing, which is his job, and you say you wouldn't recommend that DJ or his company to others. What exactly, then, do you expect from a DJ? Do you want him to make sure your crowd is dancing and having a good time or do you want him to play songs for people to listen to and have an empty dance floor?

Now that I've stated my side, I see yours as well. There are different ways the situation could have been handled based on what you said happened. Personally I have had a few times where I have "do not play" songs as well as a list of songs they want played. If I have a request for a do not play song, I check with the bride before playing it. 9/10 times the bride will approve it. As far as having a playlist, if there are 20 songs down and only 60 total songs are played in a 4 hour dance, that's 1/3 of the songs being scripted. It is a delicate balance to try and play all the songs on a "playlist" while also taking requests and keeping a dance floor dancing. I try to get as many of the playlist songs in as I can and as long as the customer is patient, I can usually get quite a few of them in. Obviously it is the bride and groom's day and that should never be overlooked, but how much fun are the bride and groom really going to have if no one else is being entertained and having fun on the dance floor? A night should be measured based on how many people overall are having fun, not one or two songs being played, and that is why we no longer ask people about interactive songs like the chicken dance. It is our job to read the crowd and figure out if it'll work or not.
[/soapbox]


rpmdfw none of that was directed at you and I have a playlist for you, but I just moved yesterday and I need to find it and type it up because it is slightly incomplete. I will PM it to you or email it when it's ready.

In an attempt to keep from hijacking the thread, I also wanted to say awesome choice on promise That will be a great end to the night

And the whole thing about bride/groom is awesome. I think it's fantastic that you're getting away from all that symbolism that exists and there's nothing wrong with that. These are all mental notes I'm making for when my ceremony comes some day down the line.

 

[rpmdfw]

I have a playlist for you, but I just moved yesterday and I need to find it and type it up because it is slightly incomplete. I will PM it to you or email it when it's ready.

Take your time. No real rush.

I can totally sympathize with you for having recentlly moved. Nothing sends my life into disarray like moving does. Ugh! I don't envy you that at all. Hopefully it was as painless as possible and a good move for you.

 

[zulemara]

Take your time. No real rush.

I can totally sympathize with you for having recentlly moved. Nothing sends my life into disarray like moving does. Ugh! I don't envy you that at all. Hopefully it was as painless as possible and a good move for you.

It wasn't too bad. The 50 dollars for a Uhaul truck to drive 8 miles in town is a little price gouging IMO, but what can ya do?

Some of the playlist is different than usual because of some out of the ordinary events. For example, I played Piano man at the request of the bride and groom, the entire wedding party came to dance floor(this is at about 10:30) formed a circle and started sing the song when... All the guys on the floor in the circle DROP THEIR PANTS!!! Oh the jokes that could have been made....
"I hope you guys have buttons on those boxers"
"I'd make a crack, but you showed me one"

That will truly go down as one of the most shocking, amazing, and downright awesome things I've ever seen at a wedding

 

[rpmdfw]

I played Piano man at the request of the bride and groom, the entire wedding party came to dance floor(this is at about 10:30) formed a circle and started sing the song when... All the guys on the floor in the circle DROP THEIR PANTS!!! Oh the jokes that could have been made....
"I hope you guys have buttons on those boxers"
"I'd make a crack, but you showed me one"

That will truly go down as one of the most shocking, amazing, and downright awesome things I've ever seen at a wedding

I . . .

. . . that's . . .

. . . I have no words.