I'm having a little trouble understanding your question. OK, I did just get up and I haven't had much caffeine yet.
Have you started a thread or made a post that didn't show up? I'm not aware of that happening recently. It has in the past, but it was usually just a delay. They would show up eventually.
I have some posts, that done show in the list in my user cp and I don't get email notification on. But when I see the post with the blck dot my post is there.