Yes, I'm aware that the deluxe resorts don't have lines...and they should. All the resorts should. But I think that Disney feels it takes away from the deluxe ambiance!! I guess they prefer all that pushing and shoving.
In all reality? If you have a family group, stay together and walk to the bus door. If there are two adults, or even an adult and a child, walking side by side, it's going to be hard to shove through. I know, I know..people do it. And I hate having to come up with a strategy for getting on a bus as a family.
That's why I usually just stand in a spot close to where the bus is going to load. IF that means I have to stand there for 20 mins, so be it.
Last Sept my mom and I stayed at AKL. We had a rental car, but decided to use the bus one morning to avoid the TTT getting to MK. She was sitting in her
ECV in the designated spot for WC/
ECVs. However, because the bus picks up first at Kidani, we had to sit through two other buses before there was finally space for her ECV. When that third bus finally came, the driver opened the front door for a minute to tell everyone he was loading my mom first, then would open the front door for them. Immediately we started hearing comments about how it wasn't fair that ECVs were loaded first (yeah, like we hadn't already waited through two other buses for space to become available, while others arriving after us got right on the previous buses.

Then you wouldn't believe the people (who were in the back of that line--not the front), who immediately turned and tried to crawl over my mom and her ECV, rushing to try to enter that back door when he opened it, then got mad when the driver told them only the ECV party could load through the back door and for them to get back in line. They were literally trying to crawl over my mom's ECV to cut in front of us. Once she had pulled on, I saw the driver look behind me and then ask the party standing right behind me, if they were with us. The man pointed to me and my mom and said, "yeah, we're with them". I told the driver they most certainly were not with us and I had no idea who they were. The man then proceeded to call me a 'b-tch, because I wouldn't agree that they were with us and the driver made them get in the back of the line, up by the front door.

Once on the bus we heard a couple of people saying it wasn't fair that the ECV was loaded first and took up as much space as it did, when other people had to stand. They felt the ECV should have been made to wait, so the driver could squeeze more people on the bus. After that experience, we just chose to drive everyday, including the other times we went to MK.
For both our Oct/Nov trip and our upcoming May trips, we chose to stay offsite. It's not worth dealing with the rude people at the bus stops. In May we will be in a one bedroom condo at Wyndham Bonnet Creek, so will be closer to the parks than alot of the onsite resorts. We don't do the DDP and could care less about EMH. We are getting alot more space, than we'd get in a deluxe resort and paying less than we would at a Value, even with an AP discount (we are paying $89.60/night for a one bedroom villa). I have an AP, so parking is free at the parks anyway. While I wouldn't want to be very far from the Disney gates, I can't think of a single reason for actually staying onsite anymore.