Quarantine and chill and kindness chatty clubhouse: Jump in and join the conversation! All is welcome!

[PollyannaMom]

No need to apologize for talking to us, @Snowysmom! Missing someone can come from little reminders for anyone. Have you ever seen this theory? ~

 

[PollyannaMom]

Yesterday was crafting day at my house. My cousin's family was over because we were supposed to go apple-picking, but got rained out.

Her girls (1st & 3rd grade) love crafts, so we made paper pumpkins to send to my Dad, attempted to photocopy... marbles , and cut up lots of confetti.

They did my nails in 10 different sparkly colors, and we played about 10 minutes of Christmas Monopoly.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Dear SnowysmomAs our Dear PollyannaMom said, please never apologize for how you feel. Thank you always for trusting in us to care, pray for, and love you. Sending extra sunshine outside and in your way.

Dear PollyannaMomI would have loved helping with yesterday's craft project--how fun and special time for all of you

It's pouringhere at the moment. Dad, I pray, is going to stay home and rest. I'm going to try and get a little more sleep right now. I will check in later. Happy Tuesday to all.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning. Cloudy now, but sun by afternoon. Temp will be 72, I can live with that.

I don't like how early it starts getting dark, last night it was just a little after 6:30. A couple more weeks and we'll change the clocks and it will be dark out even earlier. It makes the days seem so much longer when I'm all alone here.

Summer texted me last night, a picture of a car she wants, and a text that read "I wish someone would give us a chance at a loan."
If it was directed at me, I'm not doing it. First of all, it's a 16 year old car with 160,000 miles on it. Second, I've gone down the loan road with her before, and I'm the one who loses at the end. I didn't reply to the text, made no comment at all, hoping she'll get the hint that it won't be me.

As bad as I feel for her, this has been going on for their 20 something years of being married. They either need to find a way to save money for a car, or he needs to get a job much closer to home. She can't be driving that distance every 2 or 3 weeks, that's insane.

Off to do morning chores. Have a good day everyone

 

[Snowysmom]

PollyannaMom Thank you. The box theory is a good explanation of grief. I can go for a while OK and then something can blindside me or just a time of year can bring it on.

Thank you everyone for understanding.

 

[lynxstch]

I need to vent- thanks to anyone who reads this

Here we go again. I was on the phone with the bank an hour or so ago, when Summer called. I couldn't answer because the guy was helping me open an account and we were right in the middle of it. She sends me a text asking if she can borrow my car for the trip to take him to work. Her truck is shot, it's on the side of the road not too far from her house with transmission fluid pouring out.

I felt bad, but I had to say no. She's used to driving a big truck with 8 cylinders, not my little 4 cylinder car. And she speeds and talks on her phone while driving. If something happened to my car while she had it, I'd be the one on the losing end having to pay for it. I just can't do it. She's probably not going to talk to me again, but it is what it is.

She said she can't rent a car because she doesn't have the money. I told her to ask her mother.

It's gotten so that she only texts or calls when she wants something, and I am up to my limit with it.
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Update, she just texted and said it's fixed. That someone stopped to help and it was a hose that came loose. The guy took her husband to buy a lot of transmission fluid. I hope that's the only problem she has on this long trip!

 

[easyas123]

I need to vent- thanks to anyone who reads this

Of course! Vent away, it does the mind good to release some of this 'stuff' we deal with.
For what it's worth I think your Tough Love stance w/ Summer is the correct one, especially if you feel the relationship
has become one-sided. Your fortitude is a good example for us all.

Hello all - hope you are well.
@Pea - I hope your treatment sessions are not to difficult on you this week and you find some comfort in those things that you hold close.
@FlyingDumbo - I may have missed it, have you worked out your situation at the facility you are in and gotten a plan in place for your move home/new flooring installed?
@Snowysmom - I can't wait to hear about your next trip!
@Bobbie-will you guys be hosting CG kids this Thanksgiving?
@tazdev3225 - I hope your folks wedding celebration went well!
@Judique -enjoy your WDW planning. We are headed down in early Feb.

Down at the NC office at the moment, thinking I will head back up tomorrow. I've got some paperwork waiting for my signature up at the main office I have to get taken care of. Down here meeting with and onboarding a new employee, who happens to be a lawyer. Or she will be once she takes the bar in Feb. She & her husband just moved from CA to NC. Dang if she's not smart as a whip and really seems up for the position/office I hired her for (Compliance Coordinator) which is great as it is a new position within our Company and one she's going to be shaping. Having a lawyer on staff is going to be a game changer to say the least

Got the somewhat sobering news that a elderly family member who had been showing signs of questionable decisions is actually suffering from brain tumors, which are mets from somewhere else in her body. Turns out its in her spine, lung and liver too. So that is a smack in the face. Still meeting with all the Dr.'s and whatnot before she decides on a treatment course, if there is any course to be taken at this point. Ad difficult as it may be, I think several of us are of one opinion in terms of treatment and she is of the other mind. Of course it's up to her and she'll be supported no matter what. I think it's going to be a rough 6-12 months for her.

Get to see the grandbaby this weekend, between vacation & being sick its been 4 or 5 weeks. Been trying to think of Christmas gifts but what, really does a 6 month old need? Now next year - watch out! Of course we will get her something fun and probably wholly inappropriate for a kid that age Grandparent prerogative, right!?!?!

Lets see...trying to think if anything else is going on w/ us. I think just the usual...Oh! I have decided to sift thru and get rid of some older and less used holiday decor and treat myself to a few new pieces. Which means I gotta drag all my stuff out I guess because I've given myself the strict rule that nothing new comes in unless something old went out beforehand!

Back to work, have a good afternoon everyone!

 

[Snowysmom]

Lynn Vent away. This is a good place to vent.

EasyAs So sorry about your family member. That is tough for everyone. I hope you get to see your grandbaby this weekend.

I have been on a cleaning mission today. I even took some time from work to go through a few small storage boxes I had from my move from my house. It is hard because the memories just come rushing back. But, it needs to be done. I found a picture of Chris and I at Disney in 2016 when Jeff, Aimee, and 11 month old Ellie were with us. There is a picture of them too. Such a great trip. Chris would do the Donald Duck quack to Ellie and Ellie would laugh hysterically. She danced her way through Small World while sitting on Mommy's lap. She had her first Mickey bar sitting on the grass on front of the castle. What a cute mess she was afterwards. I have also bookcases set up better with CDs on the small one and some books on the bigger one. Time to rest now.

Have a good evening.