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[flyingdumbo127]

Judique, not an easy decision for sure. My initial thought is asking yourself and keeping in prayer whether the painting still bring you a smile and joy to look at. For me, that answer would help determine my choice. I do also like B&B's suggestion of looking at it an opportunity to refresh your space. Also, to consider is could you donate the paintings? If so, you would have the blessing and peace of mind knowing that someone else was enjoying the art

Wam afternoon hereMy phone right now says 97! AuntieMe3, I truly hope you are keeping cool and feeling much better as well!

 

[AuntieMe3]

Happy Saturday.

It's been HOT HOT HOT here. On my way to a Dr appt yesterday my car said it was 109° but a bank I passed had the temp at 113° so it was somewhere between two temps at 2pm. We went swimming at our friends in the evening, the guys grilled some steaks and lobster tails and it was delicious. When we got home at 9:30p, it was still 91° out. Yuck. Today is  only supposed to be 102.

We had a beautiful sunset last night...


DH and I went out to this morning/afternoon and are planning to go swimming again at our friends later.


@Breezy_Carol and @Snowysmom I hope you both are feeling better soon. I felt like it took me awhile to get my energy back up after I had Covid.

@lynxstch glad you were able to get most of your handyman list finished before he's off for awhile.

@Judique What do your kids think? Do they think you should give the painting to their dad? We have a painting from my grandparents, apparently they had loaned my uncle and his then wife some money and they never fully paid my grandparents back. When they split up, they gave my grandparents this painting. We still have it hanging in our front room where they(my grandparents) had it hanging when we moved in with them(eventually buying the house from them). Anyway, every time my uncle and his now wife visit(which isn't often) they comment on the painting. I always feel like they want us to say "oh you should take it." As far as I know it's not really worth anything but it's nice and I like it so we're keeping it. LOL

@Bianca and Bernard love thos souvenirs you brought home. They are beautiful.

@Pea-n-Me glad your DHs surgery went well. Hoping for a speedy recovery for him.

@tazdev3225 DH always wants to go bigger with our TV. Our current one is 84 inches...it's ridiculous. LoL Luckily we have the room for it, our family room is long so our couches are pushed back quite a ways. Glad Crystal is enjoying her job.

@flyingdumbo127 hope you're staying cool. I think the heat might feel worse for you because of the humidity down there.... our heart is dry and you can really feel the difference between the two.

Hmmm....can't remember what else I wanted to say. If I didn't mention you, I'm still thinking of you and hope you all are doing ok.

 

[lynxstch]

Stepdaughter is very worried. She got the results of some of her bloodwork (including an 'anion gap' that isn't close to what it's supposed to be, according to her) and she's reading all of them as that she has thryoid cancer. We are trying to talk her down and telling her not to think the worst until she talks to her Dr. Which of course will be at least Tuesday , since Monday is a holiday. She's trying to prepare herself for the worst I guess. But she's not an expert and she isn't necessarily understanding all the test results by just reading them on her patient portal.

Its hot and 94 degrees outside. Just fed the cats and got them fresh cold water. I did all the laundry, passed the vacuum through the house and did a beauty treatment.
Stepson and partner said they will come tonite if the reception doesn't go too late, or else will be here tomorrow morning before heading home. Will be so nice to see them , just wish the girls could have come down with them. They could have stayed here while their parents went to the wedding!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

WWMIL do, @Judique ?

MIL and I stayed friendly as we had always been. She would come to visit fairly often. I hung her art in my home and she loved that. She had also created craft items that I still enjoy to this day.

Based on this, I think she would want you to continue to enjoy it. Thirty years is a long time.

They had the chance to take it and they didn’t.

I might consider trying to make them a copy, if that is even possible. And leave word that when I go, they can have it then.

I’m glad you took the artwork before it went in the trash heap and put it to good use!

 

[tazdev3225]

Just a bump up from the bottom of the page. Have a good night.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good night dear friends. Prayers it is cooler for you!

AuntieMe3, YIKES! That is hotter than here for sure. Thank you for thinking extra of me, my friend. Humidity is the worst for me, TMJ-wise. Right, now it's simply TOO hot to honestly tell whether it is humid or not. Must be because earlier I was feeling a little heat-too -much! Not sick at all just well hot. But that could also be because the A/C has been on most all day. So blessed to have two working A/C's just not good for any of us to have them on all the time, Of course, doesn't help that I'm wearing huge, fleecy PJ pants either. I do have the lighter pair I got on Amazon. Anyone hem? I need them a good inch shorter but tomorrow may just wear them rolled up! Remember I am almost 5'9" so these are LONG. No complaints, blessing to have them as a choice! Beautiful sunset picture! So glad you got to Please take care and keep well and cool!
Bigdear Lynn. cheer that you got to visit with your stepson and his partner. Much continuing for your stepdaughter. Always loving prayers for YOU. Keep cool and please get some rest.

Continuing for your DH, Pea. I truly hope you are enjoying some R&R this weekend as well.

and dear Taz!

Sweet dreams to all with love.

 

[Kirby]

@Judique , giving it to your ex-relatives would be a nice gesture but they had the opportunity years ago to take it themselves and they weren't interested. They may feel that since you are not technically "family" that their mother's painting should stay in the "family". But your children are still "family" and therefore it and all the other paintings your ex MIL did can go to them if they want them. I agree with Pea-n-Me, your ex MIL liked seeing it in your home and it should stay there as long as your want it to.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Good early morning, all!

I can't seem to switch to sleeping in when I'm just out of routine for one day. So I'm awake at the hotel, trying to be quiet for DH.

It was good to see DS yesterday. He was grateful for the stuff we brought up and excited to show us his new place. We took him out to lunch, then he showed us around the touristy area of the town, and we went a little further up the coast to get some iconic Maine lighthouse pics:







(and some flowers)



Today we'll take DS (and any roommates that are up) out for breakfast and then be on our way home. I'm sure the cats will be happy!

 

[Snowysmom]

@PollyannaMom Love the light house pictures. Growing up I lived near the ocean and there was a lighthouse within walking distance of my house. I loved to go visit it. Have a nice breakfast this morning and a safe ride home.

@Judique Not sure about the picture. I am in the camp of they had their chance to take it and didn't. And if it brings you happiness and good memories then keep it. You can always put it in your will for the person who wants it.

@Pea-n-Me Hope DH is doing well.

Cool morning but getting warmer later. Talked with younger DS yesterday. He is feeling better, just a slight cough. He did some yardwork, cleaned out the car we are donating to Make A Wish, and cleaned his basement. I did alot of housework yesterday too as I feel better. I cleaned both bathrooms including the tubs, vacuumed half the condo, washed the balcony railing and floor which had so much dirt on it, and did a laundry. Today I am off quarantine so I can venture into stores with a mask. I did go out yesterday to drop off a bag of clothes at the Salvation Army bin. No one was there as it is located in the back of a parking lot. It was making me crazy having it in my car. I am waiting to her from my therapist about how she wants to handle my appt on Tuesday. I am fine with whatever she wants to do. I just want to be cautious.

Have a good day. Where the temps are so hot, try to stay cool.

 

[Judique]

Good morning all! Thanks for all your replies concerning the painting.

I'm still conflicted and found a reasonable answer from all of you.

Yes, they had their chance. On the other hand, just being 'done' has its merits also.

There are quite a few framed and unframed canvases in my basement in storage. Maybe 5 or 6 although I'm not really sure as my kids have had the opportunity to take what they wanted. So maybe I can offer up those.

The specificity of the request still puzzles me, and the indirect manner of asking. Why put my kids in the middle?

One item I will share with you: back in the 90ties the child of someone I worked with was diagnosed with leukemia. Back then this was a financial nightmare for the parents so at work we got together and collected items to sell at a giant yard sale. We made several thousand for the family. I gave up my old skis, ski boots and jacket, which surprisingly were scooped up by a friend that I would have given them to if I'd known they could use them. Then I brought down one of my MIL's paintings. A big canvas with flowers in a flowerpot that I honestly thought was fairly ugly! Several of the older ladies were attracted to it and were trying to buy it in advance of the sale. Maybe they liked the frame.

I stepped back and eventually they raffled it off and the lucky winner was a friend of mine who promptly hung it in her living room.

Money was made on the raffle but I'm not sure how much, but I think everyone bought a ticket.

I've always felt good about that. About the situation, I'm sort of detached from it, but puzzled.

 

[easyas123]

Judique - I think what I would do is first ask your children if there are any of the paintings that they would like now, or in the future. After that I'd contact the person directly and tell them what you have available if they'd like to choose from the leftover paintings. I think it's just very odd and a bit passive aggressive for them to indirectly go thru a third person to ask you. If it was important to them...while not approach you in a adult manner?

Well, good morning everyone. Long day of work outside yesterday, my left shoulder and arm are killing me from handling the hedge trimmers and chain saw half the day, but I got a lot done! I'm being lazy this morning, meandering over a cup of coffee and the news/computer. I'm going to do a bit of straightening up around here and head up to the outlets that are about 15 minutes up the road at 11 to pick up a few things. Might go out for a boat ride later, we will see what the afternoon brings. If not going out on boat I'll probably climb up in the tractor and start on some of the fields. Husband & both sons are out fishing this morning down near the Bay Bridge, so maybe we will have fresh fish for dinner. If not - leftovers will be on the menu!

Enjoy the reminder of your holiday weekend everyone -

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning all. One more hot day , then cooling off, hopefully!
I got all my chores done yesterday, and am not planning on doing much today, other than visiting with stepson and GF. I was so tired last nite, from the last 4 days of everything I did around here, that I was in bed by 9:30 and didn't get up till almost 7:30, when one of the cats must have been really hungry , as she kept sticking her head under the pillow I had over my head, and trying to lick my hand, lol.
I just put a pork roast in the crockpot for dinner tonite. SIL and niece stopped by yesterday and brought us fresh corn, squash, honeycrisp apples, and 2 baby something (can't remember the name) cantaloupes. I will cook outside on the grill tomorrow if it's not too hot. We have plenty in the freezer to choose from.
@PollyannaMom beautiful pictures, thanks for sharing them with us--have a safe drive home
@mona, If you can't sew to hem the bottoms, try getting some of that iron on tape and use that. I am a little far away to come and hem them for you, lol
@Snowysmom --glad you are feeling better,,just don't overdo it!
@Judique --glad that you found some of our answers about the painting reasonable. Like others said, if they wanted them , they should have come directly to you. I think you offer of giving them a choice of 'available' ones is a good option!

Have a nice Sunday--stay cool

 

[tazdev3225]

Good morning.

@Judique - I personally would keep the picture. Pet peeve is people being indirect like that. If you want something ask me, and we can discuss the reasons. Put people in the middle and you won't get what you want. I do not like other people being used to ask me something. In the end it is your decision and if the picture has sentimental value to you keep it. If you can live without it give it to them. I think it's a little rude though since it was gifted to you by your former MIL.

@PollyannaMom - LOVE the lighthouse pictures. DO you know what one it is. I have been to Maine a couple of times just for the lighthouses and always pick the worst weather.

Not much going on here. Crystal wants to go to church today so I am off to pick her up in a couple of minutes. Then I will drop her off at work and do a few errands. I may go out for dinner tonight since I will have to pick her up and I can make my husband happy that way. I have been in the mood for Cracker Barrel and there is a restaurant about a mile from where she works.

Please continue to keep my daughter from another mother's husband in your prayers. He is looking at 2 more surgeries this week and last night he started spiking a fever. That is never good. She is very appreciative that you all would pray for him. His name is "Z", at least that is what we call him, his name is actually Isai,. I thought you might like a name to have for your prayers.

Have a great sunday and I'll try and update later.

 

[lynxstch]

@tazdev3225 --Many more prayers sent for 'Z'

 

[Snowysmom]

@tazdev3225 Sending prayers for Z.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

and Good Morning to all,

It's going to be 103 today! For AuntieMe3, it may be warmer you are keeping cool, AuntieMe3 and all of you as well. I know it is warm in other parts of the country, too.

Gorgeous lighthouse and flower pictures, PollyannaMom, especially the rocky sunset. truly so glad you got to help your son move in and meet some of his roommates as well. How kind of you to treat them to breakfast. for safe travelshome.

for Mr. Z Taz. That's wonderful that you are taking Crystal to She is blessed to have you in her life all-around.

dear Lynn, I know you would, my friend. Extra to you for it. I wish you did live closer for so many reasons. One day in God's time and way, I do believe if it is His Will, we and other members of our Quacker family will get to meet. How fun that will be!
Praise God! wonderful news to hear dear Snowysmom that you got out yesterday (thank you for making the donation, as well) and will today, too. Continued healthy prayers for you and your family that's for sure.
Wonderful kind advice to Judique Kirby and Easyas, too. Easyas, enjoy your

Big dear Judique and that whatever you decide brings you muchand closure. I do agree with others that I also have zero desire or time for negativity or drams. I'm truly sorry you have been put in this awkward position. I would suggest calling your kids (and/or other family) and asking them if they would like to come look at the paintings. Should that not be a safe option right now, send them pictures! Tell them you need to know by X date whether they would like any of them. Are there any you would like to especially gift to anyone? If so, now is the time I think to pray on and then ask about that. Go from there. Know all of us are here and in support of you!

Huge prayers for you Carol and your DH to be feeling much better today, AuntieMe3, and B&B as well. Dad, thank God, is now safely home from Pavilions. Hooray he stays home until laundry on Tuesday. On a sewing note, dad said he will attempt to do something later to the pajamas. I had said we could just use lol! They don't work rolled up because the material is too slippery. I'll keep all of you posted.

to all. I'll check back later.

 

[PollyannaMom]

@PollyannaMom - LOVE the lighthouse pictures. DO you know what one it is. I have been to Maine a couple of times just for the lighthouses and always pick the worst weather.

It is called Bug Light Park, and is in South Portland. In addition to the little lighthouse, they have a WWII shipbuilding memorial.

We had a safe drive back, and it feels about 20 degrees hotter here!

 

[AuntieMe3]

Happy Sunday....spent another afternoon/evening swimming at our friends to beat the heat. It was so nice and relaxing. They made street tacos on the flat top grill plus some beans and rice....soo yummy. We're supposed to go over again today for an actual party...lol They're doing a brisket on the smoker but DH said he might just want to stay home and relax, which sounds fine to me too. I love to swim but not feeling party-ish today...lol We'll see what happens.

Hope you all have a nice day.

 

[bobbiwoz]

@AuntieMe3 you have good choices for today!

We are just unwinding and putting things away after our wonderful WDW 5 night stay.

I have a quick summery of our trip in VWL Groupies thread.
https://www.disboards.com/threads/v...1-august-2022.3242976/page-1059#post-64281762

 

[Judique]

Judique - I think what I would do is first ask your children if there are any of the paintings that they would like now, or in the future. After that I'd contact the person directly and tell them what you have available if they'd like to choose from the leftover paintings. I think it's just very odd and a bit passive aggressive for them to indirectly go thru a third person to ask you. If it was important to them...while not approach you in a adult manner?

@Judique - I personally would keep the picture. Pet peeve is people being indirect like that. If you want something ask me, and we can discuss the reasons. Put people in the middle and you won't get what you want. I do not like other people being used to ask me something. In the end it is your decision and if the picture has sentimental value to you keep it. If you can live without it give it to them. I think it's a little rude though since it was gifted to you by your former MIL.

You have both nicely summarized my feelings. I've decided to ignore the communication and just wait and see what happens. If I get asked directly, I'll probably let it go and move on.

Meanwhile, I want to share one of my favorite paintings with you. No, not by MIL! It's a Bierstadt and the original hangs in the Boston Museum of Fine Arts. At least it did when I saw it there a few years ago. This is my copy hanging over my sofa. I love the light in it, although my cell phone pic doesn't do it justice. It makes me dream. It's called The Buffalo Trail. You can see better representations elsewhere on the web.


That's also my daughters cat sitting on one of the throws I keep around to keep the cat hair off my stuff. The throw on the back of the sofa is one my DD brought back for me when she visited the Galapagos Islands last year. The cat sits on that also. . The threadbare silk cushion came from a friend, so despite deterioration will be kept.