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[lynxstch]

Good morning all,,it is morning right? I woke up almost every hour last nite, couldn't sleep well. This virus, cabin fever, having hubby home 24/7, feeling like I am under a microscope all the time, is wearing thin with me. So glad to come to this thread and read about all of your lives. I feel bad for those of you dealing with parents in nursing homes/hospice..feeling bad for those of you having issues with teenagers, smiling with those of you posting memories and pics of Disney trips..this seriously gets me through a lot of tough spots in my day, so thank you!

Nothing new going on here,,he's getting used to his glasses, getting used to mine a little more, but not liking that I can't see more than 2 feet clearly while wearing them. I don't like taking them off and on constantly. I may just go back to my OTC reading ones which I can leave on all the time if I want.

Planning on chic fil A for dinner tonite, I am also tired of cooking..3 meals a day, 7 days a week, just too much.

Stepdaughter still has not called here (in fact she hasn't talked to her Dad since his birthday Nov 5 (and she lives 15 min away), so we don't know anymore about what happened with Lily than we did. We won't hear anything until the next crisis with one of the grandkids I guess.

Sorry to be on such a downer today, but it's just been one of those weeks. The place hubby worked at till he retired in Dec, claims they cancelled his BCBS insurance but we found out it's still active and has had money added to his HRA..so they have to straighten that out. The check we sent for his life ins..still hasn't cleared our bank, and we sent it Dec 16. Its just been one thing after the other. At least I know I can vent on here, and most of you will understand!

Have a great day,,will try to be in a better frame of mind when I come back here later to read posts!

 

[tazdev3225]

Pea N Me I remember Disney after 9/11. My aunt turned 50 in October and we had a trip planned to celebrate. My kids begged me not to go but I went anyway to show them we can't live in fear. Stayed at the Grand Floridian for 7 or 8 days and the entire trip cost me $500. My aunt and her partner had me pay the extra person in the room cost. My first trip on property but not a great trip. My aunt was not a lot of fun to travel with. I will have the QOTD later though. I have a few great trips and a few not so great trips just sorting out the best of them all.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Good morning all,,it is morning right? I woke up almost every hour last nite, couldn't sleep well. This virus, cabin fever, having hubby home 24/7, feeling like I am under a microscope all the time, is wearing thin with me. So glad to come to this thread and read about all of your lives. I feel bad for those of you dealing with parents in nursing homes/hospice..feeling bad for those of you having issues with teenagers, smiling with those of you posting memories and pics of Disney trips..this seriously gets me through a lot of tough spots in my day, so thank you!

Nothing new going on here,,he's getting used to his glasses, getting used to mine a little more, but not liking that I can't see more than 2 feet clearly while wearing them. I don't like taking them off and on constantly. I may just go back to my OTC reading ones which I can leave on all the time if I want.

Planning on chic fil A for dinner tonite, I am also tired of cooking..3 meals a day, 7 days a week, just too much.

Stepdaughter still has not called here (in fact she hasn't talked to her Dad since his birthday Nov 5 (and she lives 15 min away), so we don't know anymore about what happened with Lily than we did. We won't hear anything until the next crisis with one of the grandkids I guess.

Sorry to be on such a downer today, but it's just been one of those weeks. The place hubby worked at till he retired in Dec, claims they cancelled his BCBS insurance but we found out it's still active and has had money added to his HRA..so they have to straighten that out. The check we sent for his life ins..still hasn't cleared our bank, and we sent it Dec 16. Its just been one thing after the other. At least I know I can vent on here, and most of you will understand!
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Have a great day,,will try to be in a better frame of mind when I come back here later to read posts!

Ugh! I can relate to the sleepless nights! My sleep has been off too! I feel like we all had hopes that 2021 was going to be a better year and already we’ve had a crazy amount of stuff going on locally, regionally and nationally, along with the personal challenges we all have going on in our families, our homes and our jobs, etc. Our reserves may be low since we’ve already been at this for so long, and we’ve put up with so much this past year, like job difficulties, worries about health, seeing friends and loved ones get sick, lost graduations, remote learning, businesses closing, mask wearing, not being able to enjoy our usual pleasures in life, worries about our kids in risky jobs, political strife, and all that. (Paul Simon comes to mind: “It’s a wonder I can think at all!” )

For me, I’ve been worried about my son, who, not sure I mentioned here, was threatened on his job last week. Work has been tremendously stressful. And the losses of two parents after so many years of caregiving. I also had an upsetting incident yesterday that I won’t even get into here. I’m sure many of us are feeling the stress of it all. I could tell here by people not even feeling up to post, or by their sharing so many tough situations they’re dealing with, etc. But I feel like we’re all in this together, as humans (and as Americans), and we’ll all come out the other side, as well. Here I’ve really been enjoying a little TV which I don’t usually watch. We’re still working our way through Season 2 of Dr Quinn and my complete set came in the mail yesterday so no more library worries. Yay. And the All Creatures Great and Small was enjoyable, so we have that to look forward to. With my sleep being off I didn’t get the things I wanted to accomplish done this week, but I think an afternoon nap is probably more important for me at this point, anyway, headed into a long work weekend and trying to keep my head on straight. It’s good that we can come together here and know that we’re all dealing with things as best we can and we all have xxxx going on! I guess we are just in one of those really challenging periods of life right now, as others have been before us, and will be after us. Keeping things in perspective, and counting our blessings is probably the best we can do right now while things settle out. Hang in there. Praying for us all.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Pea N Me I remember Disney after 9/11. My aunt turned 50 in October and we had a trip planned to celebrate. My kids begged me not to go but I went anyway to show them we can't live in fear. Stayed at the Grand Floridian for 7 or 8 days and the entire trip cost me $500. My aunt and her partner had me pay the extra person in the room cost. My first trip on property but not a great trip. My aunt was not a lot of fun to travel with. I will have the QOTD later though. I have a few great trips and a few not so great trips just sorting out the best of them all.

Can’t wait to hear about that trip!

Maybe that will make a good QOTD for today. Have you had any not-so-great Disney trips?

Hopefully people will continue to answer both QOTDs, as it’s such a great subject that we can probably all relate to!

Please share more of your Disney stories!

 

[easyas123]

signed the paperwork for my mom to be on hospice this afternoon

That must have been a difficult decision, but knowing it's what your mother wants does - I hope - help bring you some peace in making the decision.

Sorry to be on such a downer today, but it's just been one of those weeks.

It didn't start that way for me, but it sure feels like it's ending that way now!

We have neighbor drama as of last night, and a delicate situation in the office that has been brewing that I think I am going to have to deal with. I don't do drama. I don't shy away from it, I just don't engage in it, do not want to live my life in that cloud of BS. I've been thinking of asking you all your opinions on how to go about dealing with my office situation, so here goes:

We have a dept. that is notoriously hard for us to keep good, long term people in. But we've managed to get two qualified, pleasant people in this dept., and it's working. Except....one of the ladies is morbidly obese. Obviously this doesn't have anything to do with her personality and work abilities, and shouldn't. Our problem is that she is of such a size that it has become readily apparent that it impedes her ability to tidy up after herself in the bathroom. I'll spare you the gory details and just leave it at that. The other 4 ladies in the office have all come to us to mention their discomfort with the situation, and it's not uncommon for one of us to have to clean up the toilet/floor around it once or twice a day. We have decided to add additional bathrooms - it won't keep the bathroom clean, but it will offer other options to those who don't want to have to clean up after her....we have a cleaning service that comes once a week and up until now we've never had this issue. We've left cleaning products in bathroom as well. We have to re configure the office to accommodate the other bathroom and so that isn't happening tomorrow. I'm facing a situation where I may have to discuss the situation with her. If so, I'm searching for a compassionate way to do so, and a way so as not to let on that others have made mention of it - that last thing I want her to feel is as if everyone is talking about her and her bathroom habits behind her back. How do you have this conversation???? Do I simply lay it out or????
Not gonna lie, I hope we can hold out on the new bathroom before things come to a head and I have to have this discussion!!!!

Other than that, small bit of good news in the midst of neighbor drama last night, youngest is not being sent to the capital w/ Nat'l Guard because of some orders he has for another situation. Not sure of the verbiage, but that was the jist of it. He did say he was glad, and made mention that the photos of the guard sleeping in the capital was probably along the lines of the more comfortable accommodations they'd have over the next week or so!

 

[easyas123]

Our reserves may be low since we’ve already been at this for so long, and we’ve put up with so much this past year

I think that is a excellent way to phrase it -

Keeping things in perspective, and counting our blessings is probably the best we can do right now while things settle out.

Agreed. Sometimes I find I need to give myself a refresher on what is going right for me at the moment, in the midst of all this, when I get down.

QOTD for today. Have you had any not-so-great Disney trips?

Our first trip to WDW...My grandmother decided that this was one of those important childhood things we should experience, and so booked my herself, mother and my two brothers & I into the Contemporary. I was in 6th grade I think. We were in one of the stores on main street in Magic Kingdom, it was crowded. Gram decided to buy us each these odd stuffed animal puppet things that had velcro on feet and hands and you were supposed to put them on your hip and velcro the feet around your waist. Kinda like if you were carrying a small kid. So she paid for these items and whatever else we got and went outside to sit and wait while we continued to browse. I walked out of the store and was followed by some 'suits'. I was then, on Main Street, told I had stole the puppet thing, and had to go back into the store. I started freaking out and crying, and they tried to pull me back in the store, and so I started screaming that my grandmother had bought it for me and I wasn't stealing. Let's just say a crowd started to gather. Some lady in the crowd yelled at them to at least let me get the receipt and not to manhandle me... Then the crowd parted, and my grandmother entered the fray! Lets just say somewhere there are some former CM's who are probably still reminiscing about the talking down they got from from a 4"10" old lady who yelled at them while pointing her cane at them.
That was my first trip to WDW, and I really don't recall much more than that!
Didn't go back again until my honeymoon in 1993!
My brothers STILL on occasion ask me what I've stole from Magic Kingdom anytime lately

 

[theluckyrabbit]

That must have been a difficult decision, but knowing it's what your mother wants does - I hope - help bring you some peace in making the decision.



It didn't start that way for me, but it sure feels like it's ending that way now!

We have neighbor drama as of last night, and a delicate situation in the office that has been brewing that I think I am going to have to deal with. I don't do drama. I don't shy away from it, I just don't engage in it, do not want to live my life in that cloud of BS. I've been thinking of asking you all your opinions on how to go about dealing with my office situation, so here goes:

We have a dept. that is notoriously hard for us to keep good, long term people in. But we've managed to get two qualified, pleasant people in this dept., and it's working. Except....one of the ladies is morbidly obese. Obviously this doesn't have anything to do with her personality and work abilities, and shouldn't. Our problem is that she is of such a size that it has become readily apparent that it impedes her ability to tidy up after herself in the bathroom. I'll spare you the gory details and just leave it at that. The other 4 ladies in the office have all come to us to mention their discomfort with the situation, and it's not uncommon for one of us to have to clean up the toilet/floor around it once or twice a day. We have decided to add additional bathrooms - it won't keep the bathroom clean, but it will offer other options to those who don't want to have to clean up after her....we have a cleaning service that comes once a week and up until now we've never had this issue. We've left cleaning products in bathroom as well. We have to re configure the office to accommodate the other bathroom and so that isn't happening tomorrow. I'm facing a situation where I may have to discuss the situation with her. If so, I'm searching for a compassionate way to do so, and a way so as not to let on that others have made mention of it - that last thing I want her to feel is as if everyone is talking about her and her bathroom habits behind her back. How do you have this conversation???? Do I simply lay it out or????
Not gonna lie, I hope we can hold out on the new bathroom before things come to a head and I have to have this discussion!!!!

Other than that, small bit of good news in the midst of neighbor drama last night, youngest is not being sent to the capital w/ Nat'l Guard because of some orders he has for another situation. Not sure of the verbiage, but that was the jist of it. He did say he was glad, and made mention that the photos of the guard sleeping in the capital was probably along the lines of the more comfortable accommodations they'd have over the next week or so!

Yay for your good news! As for your office situation, one of my doctor's offices had a similar situation. They share a restroom with other offices and figured out that it was an employee, not a patient, who was leaving the daily mess (very unsanitary and unpleasant). Since they didn't actually know her personally, it was difficult to know how to approach her or her manager. So they asked the building manager to put up signs in the restroom asking everyone to please do their best to keep the restrooms clean in consideration of others. At first, that didn't make much difference. So the signs had to get more specific and go up in each stall, on each paper towel dispenser, over each sink, over each trash can, on the door. (Hopefully, you won't need to go to such lengths -- there were a lot of people sharing this particular restroom.) And as management made clear that the signs were not a joke, things in the restrooms improved. It's still not perfect, but it is much better. At least there is an awareness of the problem and an attempt to keep things clean. As far as I know, no one has yet actually spoken with the person in question. I don't know if she knows that the signs went up because of her. The word on the floor was that the cleaning staff was complaining that the restrooms were too dirty and took too much time to clean -- so that was a diplomatic excuse, anyway. Maybe the pandemic can be conveniently used in this case? Like a sign saying something like, "Due to the current pandemic, please clean the restroom after each use to make it safe for the next person." Or something like that. And cleaning supplies can be left on a shelf for that purpose?

 

[lovemygoofy]

Good Morning All,

P.S. I really really need a quick hug emoji reaction!

@Kirby I am thinking about you and holding you and your family up in prayer for peace during this difficult time. I always admire people that make difficult decisions because they are putting someone/something above their own wants/needs especially in a time with other family involved.

Everything has settled down with my mom's insurance finally. What a mess but I guess necessary evil. Sometimes I think it's all about who will be advocate for those in nursing home, which upsets me greatly. My mom's home is really small and very hands on with all the residents from the cleaning crew to the director. They all know the residents names and family and do their best to help support. I had a good call with the director of the home and the director of nursing and the insurance company. We had a continuum of care meeting with insurance company and all settled and most important my mom none the wiser about all of this.

QOTD yesterday about best trip: I would say probably our 2nd trip to WDW after Matt's second deployment and 18 months apart. It was fall and near my birthday. It was just relaxed and easy going and magical to have 10 days of non rushed time to see and do. We had dinner at California Grill and they put us in semi private room. This was around sun down and towards time of fireworks. The staff encouraged us to go out on balcony and see the fireworks and have break before dessert. We came back to the table to find all new table settings and beautiful plates of desserts with champagne and coffee and candlelight on the table. It was incredible surprise. All of our trips have been special of course but that trip really stands out in my mind.

QOTD today: not so great Disney trip: Our first trip heads and above anything else. It wasn't because of anything Disney did. It was in 2003 during Matt's first deployment. This was when R&R wasn't automatic because no one knew that the deployments would turn into 12 months+ and we lucked into Matt wining lotto for a 2 week trip home. He came home and we went to Disney. We were both overwhelmed with him being home and emotions and we got really sick. We flew home both of us on verge of pneumonia (mostly from stress I think and breaking points) and spent the last 5 days taking care of each other before he left to go back. I won't remember much about the firs trip truth be told but it wasn't anything bad just emotion overload. I didn't make the mistake of doing major vacation during R&R after that.

I'm sorry so many are stressed and hurting and things on hearts and minds. I think of you all and pray for you all and everyone else right now, I think we are just at the end of our emotional reserves and it seems like constant bee stings from all sides. We are going to make this.

 

[lynxstch]

That must have been a difficult decision, but knowing it's what your mother wants does - I hope - help bring you some peace in making the decision.



It didn't start that way for me, but it sure feels like it's ending that way now!

We have neighbor drama as of last night, and a delicate situation in the office that has been brewing that I think I am going to have to deal with. I don't do drama. I don't shy away from it, I just don't engage in it, do not want to live my life in that cloud of BS. I've been thinking of asking you all your opinions on how to go about dealing with my office situation, so here goes:

We have a dept. that is notoriously hard for us to keep good, long term people in. But we've managed to get two qualified, pleasant people in this dept., and it's working. Except....one of the ladies is morbidly obese. Obviously this doesn't have anything to do with her personality and work abilities, and shouldn't. Our problem is that she is of such a size that it has become readily apparent that it impedes her ability to tidy up after herself in the bathroom. I'll spare you the gory details and just leave it at that. The other 4 ladies in the office have all come to us to mention their discomfort with the situation, and it's not uncommon for one of us to have to clean up the toilet/floor around it once or twice a day. We have decided to add additional bathrooms - it won't keep the bathroom clean, but it will offer other options to those who don't want to have to clean up after her....we have a cleaning service that comes once a week and up until now we've never had this issue. We've left cleaning products in bathroom as well. We have to re configure the office to accommodate the other bathroom and so that isn't happening tomorrow. I'm facing a situation where I may have to discuss the situation with her. If so, I'm searching for a compassionate way to do so, and a way so as not to let on that others have made mention of it - that last thing I want her to feel is as if everyone is talking about her and her bathroom habits behind her back. How do you have this conversation???? Do I simply lay it out or????
Not gonna lie, I hope we can hold out on the new bathroom before things come to a head and I have to have this discussion!!!!

Other than that, small bit of good news in the midst of neighbor drama last night, youngest is not being sent to the capital w/ Nat'l Guard because of some orders he has for another situation. Not sure of the verbiage, but that was the jist of it. He did say he was glad, and made mention that the photos of the guard sleeping in the capital was probably along the lines of the more comfortable accommodations they'd have over the next week or so!

Do you have an HR department, or person,,or are you it? Hubby had the same issue with one of the workers at one of his houses, (when he was still working). Not quite as bad as what you are trying so hard not to describe (but you got your point across clearly to me). He had to talk to her a couple of times, she would get better, and then get worse again. He finally had to get HR to talk to her about it, and she finally got the message. I don't think there is really a 'nice way' to do it, I would just take her aside, and try to gently get the message across to her. I say gently, because I don't know the lady, or what kind of person she is. But some people would try and say it's discrimination or harrassment these days. If she's making it uncomfortable for everyone else,,then there is definitely a problem that needs to be addressed and taken care of quickly. How would you keep her out of a 'new bathroom' anyhow? I would not be cleaning up after her, and that would just be adding more work for the once a week cleaning company?

I am so glad we have very little neighbor drama around this neighborhood..I am not the type to shy away from it either..I will come right out and deal with it, before it gets out of hand!

On your good news..so glad your youngest son is not being sent to the capital, and being sent somewhere else! I say prayers for him and for breezy_carols son along with the others that I pray for daily, and will continue to do so.

 

[theluckyrabbit]

Good Morning All,

@Kirby I am thinking about you and holding you and your family up in prayer for peace during this difficult time. I always admire people that make difficult decisions because they are putting someone/something above their own wants/needs especially in a time with other family involved.

Everything has settled down with my mom's insurance finally. What a mess but I guess necessary evil. Sometimes I think it's all about who will be advocate for those in nursing home, which upsets me greatly. My mom's home is really small and very hands on with all the residents from the cleaning crew to the director. They all know the residents names and family and do their best to help support. I had a good call with the director of the home and the director of nursing and the insurance company. We had a continuum of care meeting with insurance company and all settled and most important my mom none the wiser about all of this...

So glad that things worked out and that your mom didn't have to be upset by any of it! And so relieved for you. Good for you for being strong and persevering through it all.

 

[lovemygoofy]

That must have been a difficult decision, but knowing it's what your mother wants does - I hope - help bring you some peace in making the decision.



It didn't start that way for me, but it sure feels like it's ending that way now!

We have neighbor drama as of last night, and a delicate situation in the office that has been brewing that I think I am going to have to deal with. I don't do drama. I don't shy away from it, I just don't engage in it, do not want to live my life in that cloud of BS. I've been thinking of asking you all your opinions on how to go about dealing with my office situation, so here goes:

We have a dept. that is notoriously hard for us to keep good, long term people in. But we've managed to get two qualified, pleasant people in this dept., and it's working. Except....one of the ladies is morbidly obese. Obviously this doesn't have anything to do with her personality and work abilities, and shouldn't. Our problem is that she is of such a size that it has become readily apparent that it impedes her ability to tidy up after herself in the bathroom. I'll spare you the gory details and just leave it at that. The other 4 ladies in the office have all come to us to mention their discomfort with the situation, and it's not uncommon for one of us to have to clean up the toilet/floor around it once or twice a day. We have decided to add additional bathrooms - it won't keep the bathroom clean, but it will offer other options to those who don't want to have to clean up after her....we have a cleaning service that comes once a week and up until now we've never had this issue. We've left cleaning products in bathroom as well. We have to re configure the office to accommodate the other bathroom and so that isn't happening tomorrow. I'm facing a situation where I may have to discuss the situation with her. If so, I'm searching for a compassionate way to do so, and a way so as not to let on that others have made mention of it - that last thing I want her to feel is as if everyone is talking about her and her bathroom habits behind her back. How do you have this conversation???? Do I simply lay it out or????
Not gonna lie, I hope we can hold out on the new bathroom before things come to a head and I have to have this discussion!!!!

Other than that, small bit of good news in the midst of neighbor drama last night, youngest is not being sent to the capital w/ Nat'l Guard because of some orders he has for another situation. Not sure of the verbiage, but that was the jist of it. He did say he was glad, and made mention that the photos of the guard sleeping in the capital was probably along the lines of the more comfortable accommodations they'd have over the next week or so!

What about a cleaning schedule between the ladies or departments that is need be daily? I would also post signs in the bathroom to look after the stall when finished because no one wants to have finish the job that someone else started. (in a different job, I worked with bunch of guys *insert my eye roll* and there was a barely female latrine in the building)
When I started my last job, there was 1 bathroom(1 door, 1 toilet, 1 sink) for about 8 or 9 of us ladies with no cleaning crew and no schedule. I wasn't having it because some ladies aren't quite cleanly as others so we made internal schedule for bathroom and kitchen. It wasn't in any of our job descriptions but it was necessary evil to have decent work environment.

 

[lynxstch]

QOTD..I've only been to WDW 2x and Disneyland once..so haven't had the misfortune to have any bad trips, lol!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning.

So many phrases I quoted to remember to reply.

I signed the paperwork for my mom to be on hospice this afternoon.

Both MIL and FIL as well as my mom, were all on hospice. It is a wonderful service but hard to know what is coming.

Almost 16 year old decided she needed to make me feel like trash again with telling me everything that I do wrong as a parent

That is a teenager's job. I can say from experience that they come out as humans on the other side.

I am also tired of cooking..3 meals a day, 7 days a week, just too much.

Me too. This double retirement is hard to get used to.

The check we sent for his life ins..still hasn't cleared our bank, and we sent it Dec 16. Its just been one thing after the other

I am afraid to pay bills by mail for this reason. I took a payment to my MD to the office and hand deliverd. We got a piece of First Class mail (a contract we needed to sign for work being done) that took a month to come about 20 miles. Also got a letter from church about the upcoming Christmas experience.

Here I’ve really been enjoying a little TV which I don’t usually watch.

I've gone the opposite way. Nothing engages my interest.

QOTD for today. Have you had any not-so-great Disney trips?

I really can't remember any. There was when DS was 4 and we did 12 hours straight in EPCOT, no stroller and no complaining. Got back to the Poly and got him in the tub. He had 3 blisters on each foot. I felt like a terrible mom. He never complained. DH went to the gift shop and bought the world's most expensive ever band aids and antibiotic cream. I still have the box.

How do you have this conversation????

Maybe something on the line of we noticed some trouble cleaning up in the bathroom. Is there anything we can do to make this easier for you. An offer to help solve the problem.

Backyard is done and seeded. Today is supposed to be 50 so going to try to go on a life renewing visit to nature.

 

[easyas123]

Do you have an HR department

We do have a HR Dept., it's just one person. We aren't a big company, total of 40 of us and majority of them aren't in the office. It would be a lot easier if we were bigger and it would be a more anonymous thing, but with so few of us in here, it's more close knit than at arms length. Still, HR is HR and this is one of those situations where it's going to be touchy. But doable, just need to find the right doable.

I feel, and I may be wrong, that putting up signs in bathroom would be a bit of a slap in the face and seen as directed to a particular person. That I think may help if we had 20 or so ladies in here, but with only 4 or 5 of us total I'm hesitant to try such a public way of calling out that may make her feel venerable or shamed...it would be a lot easier if I could do that though! I have put cleaning products in the bathroom and so we will see if maybe the obvious cleaning of the bathroom between cleaning company days hits home.

Maybe something on the line of we noticed some trouble cleaning up in the bathroom. Is there anything we can do to make this easier for you. An offer to help solve the problem.

Backyard is done and seeded. Today is supposed to be 50 so going to try to go on a life renewing visit to nature.

Thanks, that is a good way of phrasing it. I'm going to jot that down in case I need it in the future!

and

I love seeing new grass seed come up, it's very satisfying!

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning.

So many phrases I quoted to remember to reply.

Both MIL and FIL as well as my mom, were all on hospice. It is a wonderful service but hard to know what is coming.

That is a teenager's job. I can say from experience that they come out as humans on the other side.

Me too. This double retirement is hard to get used to.

I am afraid to pay bills by mail for this reason. I took a payment to my MD to the office and hand deliverd. We got a piece of First Class mail (a contract we needed to sign for work being done) that took a month to come about 20 miles. Also got a letter from church about the upcoming Christmas experience.


We had no choice..you had to sign a paper saying you wanted to continue it now that it was no longer being payroll deducted. Their only options were to send a check for 3 months payment, or to send a voided check to have them auto deduct it every month. So either way, the mail wouldn't have gotten there. He is going to call again tomorrow. I will stop payment and issue a new check if they still haven't received it. I wish they would just let you pay by visa or something..all of our other bills are paid online.

I've gone the opposite way. Nothing engages my interest.

I really can't remember any. There was when DS was 4 and we did 12 hours straight in EPCOT, no stroller and no complaining. Got back to the Poly and got him in the tub. He had 3 blisters on each foot. I felt like a terrible mom. He never complained. DH went to the gift shop and bought the world's most expensive ever band aids and antibiotic cream. I still have the box.

Maybe something on the line of we noticed some trouble cleaning up in the bathroom. Is there anything we can do to make this easier for you. An offer to help solve the problem.

Backyard is done and seeded. Today is supposed to be 50 so going to try to go on a life renewing visit to nature.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

@easyas123 It reminds me of a situation DH had as a manager when one guy they worked with had very strong BO. People were threatening to do things like leave nasty notes and deodorant at his desk and such unless DH said something, so he basically said to him straight up that he needed to do something about better hygiene. Things did improve, but not 100%. I think that was just who he was, and old habits (or lack thereof) die hard.

I have to talk to people about problems sometimes, too. I have had people cry, and be angry, but most take it in stride, especially when they know you’re doing it caringly. Giving “constructive criticism” can definitely can be uncomfortable, though. Most people say they wish someone had talked to them, but when someone does, it’s hard for them. And many people don’t feel comfortable talking to people at all, they’d rather have someone do it for them. I tend to treat people the way I want to be treated, and I’d definitely appreciate someone coming to me privately than involving other people in something like this.

So I guess my advice would be to talk to her privately, as sensitively and respectfully as you can, and hope that she reacts well. It’s not an easy subject, for sure! But then you still have the problem of overall cleanliness of that bathroom (even after she “cleans up”). Sounds like you need one of these:

 

[easyas123]

I could have used one of those when my boys were young!!!!

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Morning and Quack

Extra hugs and prayers to each of you! One day at a time, we really will get through this together!

I've tried my best to reply to each of your posts. Please forgive me if I inadvertently missed anyone. Most of you have a 3 hour head start on me each morning (west coast time) I always appreciate coming on to so many new shares.

That is such a precious picture, AuntieMe3! Minnie’s house is such fun (unlike, IMO, Mickey’s which is dark, dank, and just not cute). I am so glad she was such a welcoming hostess to your DD.

Hug, Sweetpeama, I’m so sorry

Hug to you as well, Pea. Prayers all-around indeed! Aww, thank you for sharing your WDW memories! Love that your Mom helped get you and your family into the magic. I am so thankful she got to go with you. Yikes, MUCH prayer for your son! How terrible.

Much prayer and hug to you Lynxstch. Go be cozy with a movie or just rest! I’m sorry about both your and your DH’s new glasses. They shouldn’t still be bothering you both I know a plague is not a time to go back to a doctor (or anywhere) but maybe you do need to call in to let the eye doctor know the lenses are not working for either of you and what will he do to remedy the situation? Dad wore Dollar Tree readers briefly following his cataract surgery. Continued prayers for Lily.

TazDev, I look forward to hearing about your trip!

What an awkward situation, Easyas123! Luckyrabbit gave kind and good advice! A positive to I pray come from this pandemic is that more are aware of the need to be cleaner especially around others! Try to make this a positive group effort, let’s all do our best to keep restrooms safe and clean for everyone. Hopefully this will make a difference! Sadly, should the woman in question not change her ways than I am not sure what would be the next step….hopefully it won’t come to that! I also like Tina’s cleaning schedule idea!

ETA: I saw your updated post about only having 4-5 employees. That does change the dynamics! I will pray/think on it and come back later with hopefully a suggestion. I do think as Pea said, the kindest way to go would be to somehow approach her privately. OR hand out to each employee (is it possible to do so at the same time so everyone knows everyone is getting the notice)? A notice simply saying as a company we want all areas of our work environment to be safe and clean for all! During the pandemic it is especially important that we each do our part to keep restrooms sanitary and pristine for your coworkers to use. Starting (on whatever day) there will be disinfecting wipes (or spray) on the counter. Please do your part and take a minute to wipe down your stall after use. Thank you for doing your part!

So thankful to hear things are settled with your Mom, Tina, hugs. What a relief. I am so very sorry you had to go through that!
Carol, I don’t always have much TV (sitting at one time) patience. I’m glad your backyard is done! Hope you do get out a bit today. 50 sounds very cold to me!

QOTD: I have never been to WDW. An extra reason I so enjoy reading all of your memories of it--a way for me to travel their I have always lived within a couple hours of DL. I shared yesterday about my one summer DL trip. The heat pretty much did me in. That definitely took away from the fun! I don't have a clear memory of this but one day as a camper myself I was at DL. Everyone else wanted to go on Haunted Mansion. I am not sure at that point I had ever been on the ride before. Sadly, my real childhood life was often turbulent, not always safe. The last thing I wanted was on a fun trip to potentially have something darker jump out at me! I remember finally getting through to a counselor that I did not wish to go on the ride. It was so embarrassing. Looking back, perhaps the camp should have asked each camper beforehand whether they had been to DL before. If so, what are some favorites and/or rides or whatever reason not cared for/wish to pass on. An even easier solution same as any of the coasters, would have been to have one counselor at least at each ride say I'm passing on this ride anyone who also would prefer to sit it out, come over here with me. No big deal! No singling anyone out.

Have a bright Thursday friends.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

((huggles)) to those who need them
QOTD: bad trip....DD#2's graduation trip over her senior spring break.
What didn't go wrong would be a shorter answer.

--DH got food poisoning at the POFQ food court (shrimp on burger was bad we think)
--severe storms rolled in, tornado warnings and everything...and we were all stuck in the room with the above mentioned sick DH
--DD#2 had some 'female issues' pop up, and we had to take a quick trip to urgent care. That's when we found out that she has PCOS.
--DS lost not only one but two shoes. One on a ride (why did he take it off and hold it during Pirates? so it wouldn't get wet...but then lost it when we went down the drop), and the other somewhere between the hotel room and the car when we were leaving to go home. I only brought him 2 pairs of shoes, so he was barefoot until the next day, when I could get to the store.
--Dog went to the kennel there at WDW for the first time, and it wasn't a good experience. We understand that they can't really take the dogs outside when it's storming, but (and mind you, we paid extra for extra walks and play time) I don't think they took her out once. She didn't eat any food for 3 days, and her blanket was soaked with urine when we picked her up; we just put it in a trash bag we had in the back and threw it in the first dumpster we saw. She went outside to their little water area, and drank so much water and she was so shaky when we got her. I warn people off about them every time someone asks about using the kennel.
--The car, whose brakes we had completely replaced two weeks before the trip--rotors and all, was discovered to have only had half the brakes pads replaced, and none of the rotors. (even though we paid over $400 to do them) DH thought the squeaking and the hesitation were from the new brakes settling in. Turns out, nope....The other half had failed, and then destroyed the other set of brakes in that two weeks. So fun to discover while driving down I-4 during rush hour on a Friday afternoon. We ended up with a tow to another place, who stayed open late to replace both sets of brakes and the rotors. The original place ended up forking over the money to pay for the repairs, including the OT for the mechanic and the office guy who stayed, plus the cost of the tow to that shop (as our insurance company only paid for part of the tow). Kids were tired and hungry (not to mention hurting and barefoot), dog was not happy, and we were just glad to get home and be done with that trip.

 

[bobbiwoz]

Mom’s 85th birthday, 2004, in the place she loved. I was blessed to be able to join DVC and get rooms for everyone! Everyone chipped in paying for something.

Our other son and family could not be there, DDIL was expecting, and delivered on my birthday, a few days later!!