Prego MOH?!

[OceanGdss]

Ok..so my sister (who is going to be my Matron of Honor) just sent me an email saying her and my BIL (who is coming home from Iraq for 2 weeks next month) are going through fertility treatments so that they can conceive while he is home in March....yay! Excited! right? well..her doc told her that if she were to conceive the next time she ovulates her due date would be....

yep...our wedding date!!!

Now..I am TOTALLY thrilled with this, even emailed her a pic of a potential maternity BM dress (which was totally cute btw ). However, her daughter (my neice) is the FG, my Mom is supposed to be walking me down the aisle..and my sister is supposed to be my MOH. So, what do I do if she is laying in the hospital in labor on December 18th?? Eeek! (I'm completely thrilled and excited for the possibility ...just a little scared half my wedding party will be missing! lol)

put my mind at ease please

and yes...i KNOW she isn't prego YET...but im still scared! lol

 

[Disneychix]

I'm sure so many emotions are happening for you right now. Happy for your sis and confused as to what will happen with the MOH bit and all the others. I hope everything works out. The chances that she will actually have the baby on the due date even if that is the date are very slim. So maybe you DSis won't make it to the wedding but her daughter and your mom should. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
Is everyone in the same area or will people have to travel?

 

[Rora]

Whew! Planning a wedding and possibly going to be an aunt!? That's all really exciting, but I understand your concern. First, don't get too nervous about your MIA wedding party, again, like you said, she isn't pregnant yet! IF she does get pregnant here are a few ideas of how to handle the situation:
1.I will suggest the impossible, is it possible to move your wedding date?
2. If not, talk to your sister/neice/mom, ask them what they think you guys should do about this situation. Of course, your mom and neice will want to be at the birth (and you probably do too!) but you'd like them to be in the wedding. See what they say and then figure out what you need to do. Would you have to replace them (obviously not the ideal and sentimental thing to do but it miiight be necessary)?

Keep us updated, best wishes to your sister, good luck with this situation and congrats on your wedding!!!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

best wishes for your sister! i'm sure she'll be so happy to see her husband on his leave! everything will work out for the best, don't worry!

 

[cinderella123]

I know this might sound a bit drastic but the same situation came up when my cousin got married. His sister was pregnant, and was going to be a very important person in the wedding.

My other cousin and her husband checked with the doctor to make sure it was ok, and that nothing would be wrong with the baby, and they induced labor a week or so early so that they wouldn't run into that problem.

I know it's drastic, but I just thought of it as I was reading your post, and I thought I'd offer up the suggestion.

 

[OceanGdss]

Thank you all for your best wishes..it does put my mind at ease a little bit

I'm sure so many emotions are happening for
you right now. Happy for your sis and confused as to what will happen with the MOH bit and all the others. I hope everything works out. The chances that she will actually have the baby on the due date even if that is the date are very slim. So maybe you DSis won't make it to the wedding but her daughter and your mom should. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
Is everyone in the same area or will people have to travel?

Thanks..and yes..I have a ton of emotions going on that all conflict with each other. I just know how bad my DS and BIL want another baby. They live in NC and of course the wedding being in FL would be a little bit of a distance...She's already said she'd just have the baby in FL, but I'm worried the doc won't let her travel..

Whew! Planning a wedding and possibly going to be an aunt!? That's all really exciting, but I understand your concern. First, don't get too nervous about your MIA wedding party, again, like you said, she isn't pregnant yet! IF she does get pregnant here are a few ideas of how to handle the situation:
1.I will suggest the impossible, is it possible to move your wedding date?
2. If not, talk to your sister/neice/mom, ask them what they think you guys should do about this situation. Of course, your mom and neice will want to be at the birth (and you probably do too!) but you'd like them to be in the wedding. See what they say and then figure out what you need to do. Would you have to replace them (obviously not the ideal and sentimental thing to do but it miiight be necessary)?

Keep us updated, best wishes to your sister, good luck with this situation and congrats on your wedding!!!

lol..yeah..she isnt pregnant yet..but the women in my family get prego at the drop of a hat AND they're reeeaallly trying lol.
We definately can't move the date, and if she stays in NC for the birth my DN and DM will prob both stay there (they all live there after all) to be with her. I want to be there so bad because I missed my DN's birth...don't want to miss another one, but I HAVE to get married! lol

best wishes for your sister! i'm sure she'll be so happy to see her husband on his leave! everything will work out for the best, don't worry!

She is VERY excited..I know whatever happens, it will happen for a reason, and will be the best for our family.

I know this might sound a bit drastic but the same situation came up when my cousin got married. His sister was pregnant, and was going to be a very important person in the wedding.

My other cousin and her husband checked with the doctor to make sure it was ok, and that nothing would be wrong with the baby, and they induced labor a week or so early so that they wouldn't run into that problem.

I know it's drastic, but I just thought of it as I was reading your post, and I thought I'd offer up the suggestion.

This is going to sound crazy...but thats a good idea! lol...I might have to run that by her if it comes down to it. Besides, having a planned birth would be best for my BIL since he would be able to schedule leave from his Iraq tour for the birth (he missed his first child's birth..my DN)


You guys are all the best!! I'm going to cross my fingers on one hand in hopes she gets pregnant and cross the other hand in hopes she doesn't, at least not at the moment! lol

Either way...check out this CUTE maternity bridesmaid dress!!

 

[twiu]

Woah. Deja-vu!!! This just happened to me. My sister and MOH has been trying to get pregnant for five years!!! She and her husband have a wonderful daughter who is 5. She's also my flower girl. Five years they've been trying and nothing. Suddenly. Preggers. Yup. Preggers. And.. her due date is a week after my wedding. The doctor actually told them... "oh, we should do a scheduled c-section (since they had a c-section with the first baby) a few days before your due date... on August 31"... My WEDDING DAY! ARGH! So, I know. I totally know how it feels.

I completely freaked out at first. Obviously I'm ecstatic that they're pregnant, mostly because they've been trying for so long. And then I realized that my sister, matron of honor, and best friend might miss the wedding. After days of freaking out, I realized.. we'll just have to wing it. She's going to go back to the doctor tomorrow to see what the options are. She lives in Miami so it's not that far .. so she might have the baby earlier and come to the wedding exhausted and just having given birth or she might have the csection after the wedding. Honestly, all you can do is weigh the options and it will all work out. I mean, everything happens for a reason.

I have considered changing my date. If the doctor comes back with the fact that she can't come, then I will change my date (as much as that completely sucks).

Anyway, if you just need someone to go through this with, I'd be glad to share the frustrations, worries, and concerns with you. Hang in there. We can do it!!!!

 

[OceanGdss]

omg!!! how crazy that we're both in almost the exact same situation!!!! I am totally bugging you if I need someone to vent to! lol Let me know how your situation turns out. I want to know what the doc tells her tomorrow...

 

[Rora]

Great maternity dress!! You have good taste

 

[PrincessBride010103]

Would it be selfish of you to ask her to wait til next cycle to start trying? If I were in your position I might ask her to...if they wait til next cycle then you won't have to worry!!

 

[twiu]

Would it be selfish of you to ask her to wait til next cycle to start trying? If I were in your position I might ask her to...if they wait til next cycle then you won't have to worry!!

I think it's because he's only home for 2 weeks from Iraq.

 

[OceanGdss]

Great maternity dress!! You have good taste

Thanks!! Isnt it adorable!! I kind of wish she were pregnant for the wedding, just not DUE on the wedding date!! lol....we will see

Would it be selfish of you to ask her to wait til next cycle to start trying? If I were in your position I might ask her to...if they wait til next cycle then you won't have to worry!!

Oh I wish I could do that. She would definately wait for me if it wasn't for the situation. Her husband, my BIL, is on his 3rd tour in Iraq, and this one is supposed to be 18 months long. (His last two lasted about this long too) So he isn't supposed to be back home again until after my wedding. He is getting 2 weeks to come home in March so they only have that little window. Thats why this is SO hard..I know how bad they want to have another child, and the risk of him never coming home again, so I REALLY want her to get pregnant.

 

[PrincessBride010103]

Oh I wish I could do that. She would definately wait for me if it wasn't for the situation. Her husband, my BIL, is on his 3rd tour in Iraq, and this one is supposed to be 18 months long. (His last two lasted about this long too) So he isn't supposed to be back home again until after my wedding. He is getting 2 weeks to come home in March so they only have that little window. Thats why this is SO hard..I know how bad they want to have another child, and the risk of him never coming home again, so I REALLY want her to get pregnant.

ooooooooooh i dont know how i missed that part!! wellll.......umm......i guess you're going to have a 9 months pregnant MOH! The chances of her actually going into labor on her due date are like 20%...thats what my doctor said anyway

 

[OceanGdss]

lol..i dont know why..but that made me laugh then I thought "well...i could have a pregnant bride" lol When is your due date btw??

 

[PrincessBride010103]

August 20th
Which is only 6 months away
Goodbye nights of 12 hours of sleep

 

[cp_princess]

For the record I believe Oceangdss stated how excited she is for her sister, as did Twiu. And then they were just was trying to figure out the logistics of everything. As a woman who has been told I will have trouble conceiving I'm sure that both of the sisters in the wedding party have agonized through their process. I don't think anyone on this thread has minimized that issue. It is a shame that such happy events like weddings and pregnancies are causing turmoil, but from everything I've heard both Oceangdss and Twui have and are planning on supporting their sisters through this. I think neither of them is asking too much by posting here with fellow Disney brides asking for suggestions on the smoothest way to handle the situation so that all parties can benefit and celebrate these happy events with their families as is the ideal situation. Also I'm sure their sisters would like to be able to celebrate with them as well on their days. As for Oceangdss and Twiu not a single part of the post seemed to echo a poor me vibe they were just coming here for support as they process this information.

As for the mocking of PrincessBride010103, I don't think she deserved that either. Being pregnant and planning a wedding are two very stressful events and I'm sure her body needs as much sleeps as is possible right now. I'm also sure she was trying bring a little levity to the topic of conversation - as most mom's realize that sleep is a prized commodity that doesn't happen often when children enter the picture. But it's a sacrifice I think all mothers happily give.

I'm sorry if going through tough times have colored certain readers opinions. I'm sure these woman are too classy to stoop to name calling to defend themselves. But that doesn't mean that these women deserve to be picked on. The point of this forum is to give support to our fellow Disbrides. If you disagree that's fine but that doesn't give people the right for name calling. I would recommend rereading this thread because it's evident to me that all the women here were supportive of the sisters being/trying to become pregnant.

Sorry if this has been a bit long but I too felt like "this warranted a reply!"

Oceangdss that MOH dress is gorgeous - I hope that your sister is able to celebrate with you and you with her. I wish you both the best in what is surely a happy if emotional time.

Christine

 

[KQAN]

I reported both posts.

 

[lov2b@disney]

I agree! There is no reason they shouldnt be able to share their concerns and be able to sort out their feelings without being verbally assaulted!

It wouldnt be right to not think about the whole situation- there certainly are many variables to sort out. I'm sure changing the wedding would not benefit anyone at this point-and I believe I read it isnt an option. I personally know what fertility treatments are like and the odds of conception-I struggled for many YEARS without getting pregnant so to change things on a hope of success who be rediculous! I pray it works for your sister the first time! And if it does you cross that bridge-traveling late in pregnancy is usually not advised-induction-? maybe-my doctor was willing-I had my DS 3 weeks early so I didnt make it to an induction date. But it'll work out for you!

I hope for your sister she gets the baby she wants and I hope you get the magical day you deserve, surrounded by those you love

 

[PrincessBride010103]

bahhhhhhhhhh i missed the drama..someone pm me!!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

bahhhhhhhhhh i missed the drama..someone pm me!!

i love amanda!

that bm dress is great! it's SO MUCH BETTER than a lot of the other maternity dresses out there for bm's!