I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It was this time last year that we were going through the same thing. Ivillage has an amazing support board where I found a tremendous amount of information and support. You should check it out when you are ready. As other posters have mentioned, we now have a beautiful son.
You sound as if you have amazing support in your family life to be able to share such a personal situation. You are probably helping alot of people who are on this board. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
We've been there. (a few times actually, but for some reason, the first time was the hardest for us) I wish I had incredible words of wisdom or comfort. I don't. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.