Ok ladies its easy. So easy I figured it out.
If this doesnt work, I'm tired and I'm blonde!!!
When you get done posting your updates in your TR hit submit reply like usual. Then go up and click on the post number. It will pop up in another window all by itself. Copy that link out of the address toolbar at the top. Next, go to your first post in the TR where you want the table of contents to be. Click on Edit. You might have to go advanced edit I'm not sure. Place your curser where you want the link to go and then click on the little button underneath the smiley that looks like the earth with sunglasses! WHAT IS THAT THING?

It says Insert Link when you mouse over it. A little popup will come up. I always erase the http and then paste my link from my post. Once you are done pasting click ok. Then it will post in your message but some parts of it will be highlighted. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. If you want to change the color of the link do it now just click on the color you want to change and the highlighted area will change colors. You can type over the highlighted area and name it whatever you want and it will NOT mess up your link as long as its the origional highlighted area that automatically came up. Click save and you are done.
I know that sounded complicated, it did to me at first but its easy after you do it a couple times!