Prayers Needed...UPDATE

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I would never ask for prayers for myself but I am going to ask them for my 10 year old daughter. We are going to court on Wednesday to try and get a permanent restraining order and supervised viaitation for her bio dad. He has done some not nice things and said very horrible things to my DD, myself, my family and people at her school. She has to testify on wednesday and she is scared to death. I have done everything I could to spare her this but after many years the Judge wants to hear what she has to say. She lives in fear of her father and seeing him alone sends her into hysterics. I am asking that God watches out for her on Wednesday.
Thank you very much.

 

[The Moonk's Mom]

for you and her...hope all goes well.

 

[bunny213]

and prayers coming your way....hope the judge is very very gentle with her....poor thing. Keep us posted....Barb

 

[annie1995]

Prayers and hugs for your daughter

Please let us know how everything goes

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Thank you so very much. as of today her dad doesn't have a lawyer and he did call my lawyer to arrange supervised visitation but decided to wait for the hearing since he discovered he would have to make all of the arrangements and pay for it. We go see my lawyer on Monday hopefully she will give us some good news.
Thank you, again.

 

[Snowy-girls]

Sending prayers,hugs+good wishes your way.I hope your daughter is ok,and not too frightened.Obviously i don't know the whole story,but i would like to say i am amazed what some people can do to there 'own blood',especially a child.Take care.x.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Good luck to you and your DD

 

[bellebud]

I'm sending prayers and a to you both! Please keep us posted, and I hope everything goes well for you both!

 

[mickeymel]

Please update and let us know how court goes. That is so hard on children. Keeping you in my prayers.

 

[mommytoone]

Sending prayers to you and your DD

 

[ibdamamma]

Absolutely sending prayers your way. My husband and I are also going through a difficult time with his "baby mamma" but not the extent you are. I pray your child comes out the victor in all of this. Please keep us posted! Remember you are not alone

 

[mickeymouse1017]

I am sending prayers your way. I can imagine how terrified your child is and I would not want my child to have to go through that either. On the other hand, hearing the words come straight from your daughter should make a bigger impact in the decision. Good luck and please keep us informed. Thinking of you and DD.

 

[chloe770]

Sending lots of prayers and to you and you DD. Stay strong.

 

[gracefor5]

and prayers for your entire family....

Kim

 

[RMulieri]

sending my prayers.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Thanks again to everyone. I feel better knowing I have all of you 'waiting for me at home'. I will let you know if anything is decided tomorrow at the meeting with my lawyer. I am praying that her dad decides to go ahead with supervised visitation so my daughter does not have to testify.

 

[a1tinkfans]

I would never ask for prayers for myself but I am going to ask them for my 10 year old daughter. We are going to court on Wednesday to try and get a permanent restraining order and supervised viaitation for her bio dad. He has done some not nice things and said very horrible things to my DD, myself, my family and people at her school. She has to testify on wednesday and she is scared to death. I have done everything I could to spare her this but after many years the Judge wants to hear what she has to say. She lives in fear of her father and seeing him alone sends her into hysterics. I am asking that God watches out for her on Wednesday.
Thank you very much.

 

[dizneychik]

for your princess. We will keep you all in our prayers.

Blessings!

Dizneychik

 

[AuroraBeauty]

Having to watch your DD testify will be horrible for you, but just keep saying something positive over and over in your mind. Find your mantra and keep saying it -- even if it is something like "We are strong!" or "We are brave!". It will help.

Let your daughter know that she is super brave and all she has to do is tell the truth to the judge. Explain to her that the judge won't hurt her or take her away or call her bad name or make her feel bad. Emphasize that the judge is a kind and helpful person for her and all he/she wants to do is hear what DD has to say.

That being said, if bio dad is that scary to your DD and had already been verbally/emotionally hurtful please ask your attorney if he/she would motion to the judge to have bio dad shielded just for the period that DD has to be on the stand and ask if the courtroom can be closed so that bio dad can't have his mom/dad/brother/sister/cousin/dog/etc there too. Bio dad can still be in the courtroom but maybe the judge can put up a screen (like one of those chinese room screens) or make it so your DD can turn the chair so she doesn't have to look at bio dad. Just my thoughts, if they are helpful.

You and your DD are brave and will be OK. Believe that. Also, if DD has a favorite stuffed animal or doll or toy that she just loves dearly, let her bring it with her. She may not be able to take it with her to the stand but she'll know that she has her comfort item before and after.

Also, don't let DD stay in the courtroom before or after she has to testify. If you can bring someone with you so DD can stay with that person outside the courtroom or in a conference room that would be better. She shouldn't have to know anything else that goes on.

Sending Brave thoughts! Tell her she is a brave warrior, just like Mulan!!!

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Having to watch your DD testify will be horrible for you, but just keep saying something positive over and over in your mind. Find your mantra and keep saying it -- even if it is something like "We are strong!" or "We are brave!". It will help.

Let your daughter know that she is super brave and all she has to do is tell the truth to the judge. Explain to her that the judge won't hurt her or take her away or call her bad name or make her feel bad. Emphasize that the judge is a kind and helpful person for her and all he/she wants to do is hear what DD has to say.

That being said, if bio dad is that scary to your DD and had already been verbally/emotionally hurtful please ask your attorney if he/she would motion to the judge to have bio dad shielded just for the period that DD has to be on the stand and ask if the courtroom can be closed so that bio dad can't have his mom/dad/brother/sister/cousin/dog/etc there too. Bio dad can still be in the courtroom but maybe the judge can put up a screen (like one of those chinese room screens) or make it so your DD can turn the chair so she doesn't have to look at bio dad. Just my thoughts, if they are helpful.

You and your DD are brave and will be OK. Believe that. Also, if DD has a favorite stuffed animal or doll or toy that she just loves dearly, let her bring it with her. She may not be able to take it with her to the stand but she'll know that she has her comfort item before and after.

Also, don't let DD stay in the courtroom before or after she has to testify. If you can bring someone with you so DD can stay with that person outside the courtroom or in a conference room that would be better. She shouldn't have to know anything else that goes on.

Sending Brave thoughts! Tell her she is a brave warrior, just like Mulan!!!

I just read your post and I am in tears. My DD thought it was so neat that you thought she was like Mulan. I have motioned for my DD to speak to the Judge in his chambers. Since ex will not have a lawyer there it is up to the judge. Our court system does not allow a child to be in the courtroom except when they have to testify. My MIL (my DH's mom not ex's mom) will be sitting with her outside the courtroom. I told her that there is a whole group of people there that care about her. and we also have a caseworker from CPS there to testify esp to her fear of her dad. CPS is also arranging a therapist for her. They though it would be better that they use on of theirs. Anyway thank you again. I have never been this upset before. Hopefully it will all be over Wed.