Please help..

[coolshannie]

I feel really miserable and im so unsure of what to do.
My parents were really happy yesturday, then they went to a christmas party, came home and now have started fighting.. It feels like a long while back when they had fought alot and were well i thought.. were really close to a divorce. I havent felt like this since then, and to top everything off last week my friend told me she needed to sleep over today because her parents weren't going to be home, now we had all forgotten about this until today when my friend calls me to remind me.. and now really isn't the time to go and remind my parents, I dont know what to do.. I cant have her spend the night when things are like this.. im just so scared. They arent fighting in front of me or anything but.. its just scaring me so much.. and my friend that i can talk to about anything her dad is in the hospital and so i cant talk to her about it right now and i just feel horrible and scared and if my friend has to spend the night im just might break down, because I cant tell her what is going on and I'd have to act fake because, its very hard to explain I guess she is a good friend, but she is not the kind of friend that you can just spill your guts too.. Ugghh...

-shannie

 

[Disneyland1084]

I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[RNMOM]

Oh honey, I am so sorry you are going through this. Christmas time is very stressful in so many ways for adults/parents.

I would go and remind your parents about your friend coming to stay over tonight and you just might find it will cause them to cool off a bit and stop the fighting. Once you take a break, it is much easier to have a calm discussion about what the cause is if the fight. Sometime I can't even remember why I was mad but just know I am. Does that make any sense?

You might also try saying " I know you guys are fighting about something and don't want me to know but it is really upsetting me. My friend needs us to have her sleep over here tonight and I hope you can calm down so we don't embarass ourselves." I hope it works out for you.

 

[N&B'smom]

Awwww, I'm so sorry you're so upset and that this is going on. You can talk to all of us about it whenever you want. Your DIS friends are always here for you. I agree, perhaps you should say something to them, let them know how this is making you feel. And if you need to vent more, just come on here and share your feelings. Try not to worry too much, people that love each other fight, just because they're fighting doesn't mean they'll divorce.

Shelby

 

[disneyfanatic3166]

Do you think its possible for you and your friend to team up and have a sleepover at a third friends house? I realize that it would sort of be inviting yourself over but maybe if you explain your situation to your friend, she'll be understanding and let you guys come over? If thats not a possibility maybe you could try and seperate you and your friends sleepover from where your parents are in the house. For example, you and your friend could hang out in your basement or somewhere like that, while your parents are in your family room.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. If you're nervous about talking to your parents, maybe you could write them a letter explaining your feelings and worries?

 

[coolshannie]

Thanks so much for the thoughtful words,

 

[Liberty Belle]

Aww, I'm sorry.

Sometimes we parents are so caught up in our arguments that we forget what it must look and sound like to our kids who can overhear, even if we're being careful not to fight in front of them.

It's probably not as bad as it seems. I'd wait for a break and then go calmly remind them about your friend coming over.

Take a deep breath. It probably will all blow over soon. I remember when I was a teen and hearing my parents fight, I was sure they would be getting a divorce, but here they are 20 years later still married (and still fighting every once in a while )

 

[JR6ooo4]

Not sure if it will help but how about a little perspective

my pre holiday family matters

three months ago mom is diagnosed with breast cancer, full mastectomy on one side no further treaments needed other than about half a year recovery and monitoring.

then 88 YO great aunt goes into hospital with colon growth that needs to be removed, doing well as can be after that surgury with the expected after effects.

uncle has 14 of 14 pollups(?) found in colon are cancerous, much work for him in the future

I hade trouble breathing last sunday, after blood tests and a few EKGs they kept me overnight for stress test on monday which they said was normal and sent me home. I have an appt with my general practioner to go over the results in detail on tuesday.

It is tough watching your folks argue, wheter it is parents or sis and bil or my two brothers etc... but it could be worse.


Mikeeee

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

It's scary to think that your parents might split up, but don't forget that lots of parents split up. You'll have lots of company. Don't be afraid to talk to your family and friends. They can be a big help.

 

[MsDisney23]

 

[disneyfanatic3166]

Please let us know how the night turned out.

 

[coolshannie]

right now it is alright, my parents had to go to a wedding and so it's alright right now..

 

[Pop Daddy]

It might help you get your mind off things, you will feel better tommorow

 

[coolshannie]

I sure hope so Thanks for all of the helpful words, and having my friend over did seem to mellow everything out, and now they aren't home, so everything is ok for the time being.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time. I remember when I was a teenager and I would always hear my parents fighting. They were under a lot of stress then. It seemed like they were always yelling at each other. I thought they were going to get a divorce. However, time went by and things got better between them. They have now been married over 40 years and almost never fight.
People will never agree on everything. Parents can fight and then work things out. Hopefully, that's what your parents will do. I know how you feel though. It made me very insecure when my parents were fighting.

 

[NMAmy]

I sure hope so Thanks for all of the helpful words, and having my friend over did seem to mellow everything out, and now they aren't home, so everything is ok for the time being.

I'm glad everything worked out, honey. As everybody has pointed out, parents have arguments sometimes and the holidays are a stressful time for everyone.

 

[Serena]

Shannie, I'm glad it worked out. Don't be afriad to tell your parents how it makes you feel. They love you.

In one of my worst moments me and my now ex husband were fighting. Now, I tried really hard not to fight or argue in front of them, but this was bad. My oldest came into the room and yelled at us to shut up. She then ran back down to her room, slammed the door and turned her music on full blast.
Now, normally she would have been in big trouble for that. But we both were to ashamed.
Sometimes people get so angry they don't think. Just remember, they love you and no one cares more about how you think and feel than them.