Please Don't Laugh...Women's Health Experts Needed

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Please don't make fun of me. I am in my 30's and I should know the answers to my questions. Up until the last year I have never relyed on over the counter birth control for birth control. I have either been on the pill, TTC or pregnant. Well my body started reacting horrible to hormonal BC after my DS5 was born so about a year ago I stopped taking BC and switched to over the counter. Since then my periods are running longer and slightly irregular (30-33) days. Well my last period started on the 13th of May. My DH and I were together on the 16th and his BC failed (I used a back up film...followed directions exactly). This would be day 4. This is the first time that an over the counter failed me when I relied on it for BC. Should I be worried about pregnancy? Once again I would appreciate no laughing .
Thanks again for reading this.

 

[rparmfamily]

I won't laugh, LOL...it can be so confusing!

The first day of your last period was May 13th and you and DH were intimate on the 16th? I'd think you'd be ok, that's not very far into your cycle and you would have ovulated early in order to have gotten pregnant. That is only 4 days past the start of your period, most women ovulate around days 10-14 I think.

Now this past week (including today) would be fertile times for you, if you ovulate on a regular schedule.

I went off hormonal BC in 1999 and haven't looked back. Worked great for over 6 yrs but now we have a fantastic little surprise due anytime LOL! After this is V for DH...I can't and won't do hormonal BC ever again either.

If you don't want a baby, I'd continue using protection the rest of the month and see what happens around June 13th or so, whenever you are due for your next period.

Good luck!

 

[luvmy3]

Did your period end on the 13th and you had intercourse on the 16th?
There really is only a small window in which you could get pregnant and that is when you ovulate (a few days before and after). You would not have been ovulating at that time so the chances are slim.
ETA just saw your period started on the 13th, I really don't think you have anything to worry about.

 

[Disney Doll]

If I understand your question correctly, you had sex with your DH on day 3 of your period (which also makes it day 3 of your cycle since the cycle starts with day 1 of your period) and one form of your birth control failed but you had a back-up. I don't think you have anything to worry about. That is generally not one's most fertile time. During your period is when the body is sloughing off the old uterine lining in preparation for developing a new thick uterine lining which could support a fetus. You were in the "sloughing" stage.

All things being equal, if your period runs about every 30-33 days, you should be getting your next one somewhere in the vicinity of June 13-17.

And now you will hear 100 horror stories about people who got pregnant after having sex during their period. It's possible, but fairly rare.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Thanks for the replies. DH is going in for the V when I can tie him up and drag him there. I think I will offer him a beggin strip (that's what I did with the dog for his V). Anyway thanks again. DS5 was our surprise. I can't imagine life w/o him but one surprise is enough.

 

[CajunDixie]

Thanks for the replies. DH is going in for the V when I can tie him up and drag him there. I think I will offer him a beggin strip (that's what I did with the dog for his V). Anyway thanks again. DS5 was our surprise. I can't imagine life w/o him but one surprise is enough.

I always wondered about guys that have said they've eaten a dog treat before....maybe now I know why!

 

[minkydog]

Thanks for the replies. DH is going in for the V when I can tie him up and drag him there. I think I will offer him a beggin strip (that's what I did with the dog for his V). Anyway thanks again. DS5 was our surprise. I can't imagine life w/o him but one surprise is enough.

I know it takes some men a bit of time to make that decision. I think you're probably okay for this month but I'd go ahead and set a date for the Big V if you seriously want NO MORE CHILDREN.

It might be worth exploring his resistance. Does he secretly harbor the hope that you WILL get pregnant? Is he afraid of the pain? Think it will make him impotent? Is he worried about performance issues? Embarrassed?

 

[Christine]

I know it takes some men a bit of time to make that decision. I think you're probably okay for this month but I'd go ahead and set a date for the Big V if you seriously want NO MORE CHILDREN.

It might be worth exploring his resistance. Does he secretly harbor the hope that you WILL get pregnant? Is he afraid of the pain? Think it will make him impotent? Is he worried about performance issues? Embarrassed?

I won't try to really speak for the OP's husband but I have found that most men are just selfish babies. I have a lot of male friends who have "made" their wives take care of the permanent birth control and it basically comes down to they just don't want to do it. I'm sure they are scared, but, heck, I'm scared too!

 

[mckryan]

Thanks for the replies. DH is going in for the V when I can tie him up and drag him there. I think I will offer him a beggin strip (that's what I did with the dog for his V). Anyway thanks again. DS5 was our surprise. I can't imagine life w/o him but one surprise is enough.

Okay, I have to laugh at the Beggin' Strip comment! That is too funny!

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Thanks, again, for the replies. DH does not want any more kids either. He is just being a big baby (see I already have 4). He would rather have me go get my tubes tied but I think since I already had all 3 kids (each kid was 7 months of 24/7 morning sickness and 2 months of bedrest) then he can go get this little thing done.

 

[zurgswife]

Besides the fact that I do believe having tubes tied is still major surgery and the snip in an in office procedure.

 

[SCHBR'smom]

Thanks for the replies. DH is going in for the V when I can tie him up and drag him there. I think I will offer him a beggin strip (that's what I did with the dog for his V). Anyway thanks again. DS5 was our surprise. I can't imagine life w/o him but one surprise is enough.

That's GREAT!!!

DH is finally ready to go. I just have to make the appt. The problem is that he doesn't want all the extra appts, he wants to go in one day, get it done, and forget about it.

It's definitely time for us. We've had 3 suprises. Slow learners

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

besides the fact that i do believe having tubes tied is still major surgery and the snip in an in office procedure.

exactly!!!

 

[Ohiodislover]

then he can go get this little thing done.

I wouldn't call it a little thing

All the beggin strips in the world won't fix that goof

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

I wouldn't call it a little thing

All the beggin strips in the world won't fix that goof

After one has morning sickness for 21 months out of their life (24 hours a day) and has to be induced with no pain meds then yes I can call this ONE LITTLE THING

 

[minkydog]

After one has morning sickness for 21 months out of their life (24 hours a day) and has to be induced with no pain meds then yes I can call this ONE LITTLE THING

I with you on that. I have looooong labors and lots of morning sickness. But the coup de gras was when I had to have an episiotomy cut with no anesthesia when #2 suddenly when into severe fetal distress. I cannot even begin to describe that pain.

After I did all the heavy lifting, heck yeah, DH could get the Big V.

 

[Ohiodislover]

After one has morning sickness for 21 months out of their life (24 hours a day) and has to be induced with no pain meds then yes I can call this ONE LITTLE THING

I with you on that. I have looooong labors and lots of morning sickness. But the coup de gras was when I had to have an episiotomy cut with no anesthesia when #2 suddenly when into severe fetal distress. I cannot even begin to describe that pain.

After I did all the heavy lifting, heck yeah, DH could get the Big V.

Oh- I totally agree with the procedure being a little thing. I made my hubby do it too.

I was referring to calling "IT" a little thing. OK bad joke--no one got it--sorry Didn't mean to offend.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

Oh- I totally agree with the procedure being a little thing. I made my hubby do it too.

I was referring to calling "IT" a little thing. OK bad joke--no one got it--sorry Didn't mean to offend.

OK now I just poured myself another cup of coffee..now I get it.

 

[IDoDis]

The lining of your uterus sheds during your period, and therefore would not be able to sustain a pregnancy had an egg been released-- which is also VERY unlikely on the 3rd day of your period anyway. Your period typically starts 14 days after an egg is released, so if your cycles are lasting longer than 28 days, you are most likely also ovulating later in your cycle as well (which would put you at the 16-18th day of your cycle for when you ovulate.

 

[GOOFY4DONALD]

The lining of your uterus sheds during your period, and therefore would not be able to sustain a pregnancy had an egg been released-- which is also VERY unlikely on the 3rd day of your period anyway. Your period typically starts 14 days after an egg is released, so if your cycles are lasting longer than 28 days, you are most likely also ovulating later in your cycle as well (which would put you at the 16-18th day of your cycle for when you ovulate.

Thanks for the reply. I do not know if it is stress of what but I am worrying about things lately (like this) that I would have never given a second thought about before. BTW have a great time on your vacation...I see you leave in 5 days