plan trip to erase memory of bad trip?

[HOGFAN]

have you ever done this?
short story: last trip to WDW was in May with a coworker/friend. Had the trip planned for a long time. In the interim the friendship declined but we went anyway. I was fired last week, I wont go into detail except I know she had a hand in it. Now the memory of my last Disney trip is tainted by the knowledge that it was with this you know what. Pictures and everything. DH is encouraging me to plan another trip with his mom and sister to make some better memories. Would go on the cheap. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Sorry, wasnt so short after all.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

It is probably like a really bad breKup where you dispose of pictures or cut the ex- out of it. That is really a shame that has happened to you.

The only way to erase the memory is to make a new one.

As for the trip...did it occur with her knowing that you would indeed be fired? If not try to focus on the positive moments.

Sorry for the loss of your job.

 

[Hedy]

have you ever done this?
short story: last trip to WDW was in May with a coworker/friend. Had the trip planned for a long time. In the interim the friendship declined but we went anyway. I was fired last week, I wont go into detail except I know she had a hand in it. Now the memory of my last Disney trip is tainted by the knowledge that it was with this you know what. Pictures and everything. DH is encouraging me to plan another trip with his mom and sister to make some better memories. Would go on the cheap. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Sorry, wasnt so short after all.

Sorry to hear about your loss of job. I just came back from my re-do trip to Universal, last year's was a stressfest culminating in me getting off the plane and going to put one of my cats down. I was glad I did a re do.

 

[SM81206]

i agree the only way is to make NEW memories and better memories!! obviously this person wasnt a real friend in the first place. I have helped a friend make a beautiful scrapbook out of a bad end to a relationship, so it can be done. i wish you luck, and hugs

 

[bumbershoot]

There are two people from the disneyland forum that planned trips to make up for bad trips. It worked.

And I guess I was one of them, too. Our first big DLR trip was great, but I seem to become a crazed "commando" person while DH and DS want to laze around. So it was difficult on us all. Then we went back 3 months later, and the differences were worse. When we got back home, I coudln't relax, I was unhappy and stressed. I had changed what I did so that they could be happier, but that meant that I didn't vacation the way I wanted to, and it just didn't feel good to me (we have since communicated that when I say "I'm going now so I can be early, you guys can meet me", I'm NOT being passive aggressive, they CAN sleep in, and I will be HAPPY to meet them later!). So DH told me that I should plan a quick trip, and I did. Went away for a weekend, one night two days, and it was great! I ran around following only my OWN will, sat when I wanted, etc etc...fabulous.

So I say to do it!

 

[Jennasis]

Yes I have done that. My honeymoon with my ex husband was an unmitigated nightmare. The first trip I took there with my DH helped erase the memory of that awful time. Now I can hardly remember the trip with the ex at all!

 

[GeorgeG]

That can actually work... sort of.

In June of 2001 we went on a cruise (not DCL) and our luggage was stolen at the airport on day one (long story). A cruise without clothes is a challenge, but we put enough together at the Sears in Key West and each stop to keep us in business. What should have been a great cruise was not so great and my wife kept saying we should have gone to WDW like we always did. So, in October we went to WDW for a week and felt a lot better about things even though that, too was a bit subdued by the 9/11 events the month before.

 

[themilesfamily]

In all of my trips, I've had one bad trip to Disney, (not Disney's fault -- it was the person I was with.) I was really "off" Disney for a long time. I had such bad associations with it.

But I've found:

1) You need to get back in the saddle again. Go again and make new memories. Just go with someone better.

2) Time heals all wounds. Now, when I think of Disney, I think of the wonderful times I've had with my daughter and other family members. The bad trip barely even crosses my mind.

 

[Abbie]

1) You need to get back in the saddle again. Go again and make new memories. Just go with someone better.

2) Time heals all wounds. Now, when I think of Disney, I think of the wonderful times I've had with my daughter and other family members. The bad trip barely even crosses my mind.

I hope this is true! Our last trip, in November 2008, we were in AK when I got a phone call from my sister that my dad had died. In a way, it was ok in that my immediate family was all together and we were able to comfort each other. I was so glad I didn't have to call my DH and the kids and get them gathered from work, school, etc. to deal with it.

Last week I booked a trip for the same time period for this November (just prior to Thanksgiving). In doing the planning I am starting to get nervous wondering if the sad memory of our last trip will lessen our enjoyment of this trip. DS has already firmly stated he will not go to AK. I understand his feelings and won't force him (he's 17, he can do something else if he really wants) but I know it will be hard to retrace our steps that day two years ago....in the end, if we go to AK at all, I'm pretty sure he will come too. It will be a suck-it-up, deep breaths and move on kind of day! And I'll make sure we share some favorite memories of my dad too.

I'm hoping the new memories will replace the sad ones. Hope the same for you OP!

 

[NatashaDisneyCM]

have you ever done this?
short story: last trip to WDW was in May with a coworker/friend. Had the trip planned for a long time. In the interim the friendship declined but we went anyway. I was fired last week, I wont go into detail except I know she had a hand in it. Now the memory of my last Disney trip is tainted by the knowledge that it was with this you know what. Pictures and everything. DH is encouraging me to plan another trip with his mom and sister to make some better memories. Would go on the cheap. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Sorry, wasnt so short after all.

lol, I am the AKL right now to do the exact same thing from a trip gone wrong in May for me and a coworker!! lol here two days and having a blast!!! Do it...really!! We just got in from the extra hours at epcot and even thou we had rain all day and had dinner at Bomas and hated it, we laughed at how much mac and cheese we ate for 30 bucks!!

 

[arminnie]

I did a "re-do" trip a few years ago. My first trip with friends was not bad - I loved being with them. But it was the food and wine festival and they did not want to try anything - they were very happy when we could get to the American pavillion and get "normal" food - i.e. chicken fingers.

So I went back a couple of weeks later (I'm retired) and got to do all of the stuff I didn't get to do earlier.

But I always knew the first trip was not about me (one member of the party had just been diagnosed with MS) so it was okay. I have no negative feelings about the first trip - we laughed a lot and had a good time.

 

[anna_chronistic]

I think a trip re-do is a fantastic idea. Actually, I'll copy you, if you don't mind.

I had a terrible trip in January this year. I was miserably ill, it was freezing (literally) the whole time, one of my travel companions turned out to be ... difficult, shall we say? ... and the worst part of all, I called my elder sister to chat while I was there, and caught her just as she was leaving the doctor's office where she found out she had miscarried. I had not heard my sister cry in probably 10 years. It was devastating.

Now, she is pregnant again, has (hopefully!) passed the danger zone, and we're planning a big family trip for 2012. Unless we just can't wait and move it up to 2011.

Do it! A re-do will put the bad trip in perspective or let you forget it. Go, go!

 

[FergieTCat]

When I turned 40, I had plans to visit Italy. However, my father was very ill and my mother asked that I didn't leave the country. So ... I went to WDW, and spent my 40th birthday at Italy in Epcot.

It was awful! I was upset about my dad, and upset because I wasn't in the real Italy. The "highlight" of my day was sitting on a bench crying. A CM asked me if I was OK, and I blurted out the entire story, adding "No offense, but this really sucks!" I don't remember what the CM said.

For my 45th birthday, I went on a cruise to Italy and Greece. It was much, much better than my 40th. And, as a comparison, much better than Epcot.

I went to WDW again after that and the first day I fell and gashed my finger. It was swollen and icky the entire time.

I am going in December. Wish me luck!!

 

[mousefanmichelle]

I planned a trip for just me and my kids in 2007 and my older sister invited herself and her son along. My whole plan changed because of her. That trip sucked for me and my kids BUT my sister had a great time - so I guess it was more about her than me and I was lucky I got to go back in 2008 and do it right (without my sister ).

Go ahead have a re-do and enjoy yourself!!

Michelle

 

[disney_mommy]

I say go for it! Have an amazing time and forget all about the last trip.

 

[Ephany]

Go for it! I'm currently planning a quick trip during DD's fall break to make up for our last trip. It was with an old friend I hadn't seen in years and it was most definitely not a good experience. We talk regularly, but she remembered how I was 5 years ago, and wanted a girls shopping trip (but didn't mention this until after DD and I picked her up at the airport). She didn't understand that I'm not that person anymore and since I had my DD, we couldn't just go clubbing. She didn't like the characters, the rides, the shows, the fireworks, the parades, nada. I'm not sure why she wanted to even go to Disney in the first place and it was all her idea.

Anyway, I figure I owe DD (and myself) a good trip to take the bad taste out of my mouth so we'll run down for Halloween. I wasn't able to get MNSSHP tickets, but otherwise it'll be great. One good thing is, that it showed me I'm not good at traveling with difficult people who are indecisive, so there's no way I'm ever taking my extended family.