Parents, would this offend you?

[MushyMushy]

Just a little background info:

My DS (15) goes to school where I student teach, so I already have a relationship with many of the kids there. I'm very comfortable with them and we get along GREAT. It wasn't hard to make the switch from friend's mom to teacher.

One of DS's female friends is in one of my classes. One night at home, I had joked around with DS that he better be nice to this girl and that if he and his gf ever split up, maybe someday that other girl could be a future daughter in law. She's just a sweetie.

DS told her! I am SO embarrassed! She came up to me in the hallway and was laughing about it and asking if I really said that and I just laughed it off and told her to fuggedaboudit.

My teacher is really upset about it now and is worried that the girl will tell her mother and I'll have to explain it in a conference.

If this was your DD, would this offend you to the point of complaining?

 

[TheDisneyTraveler06]

No, if it were my DD, I wouldn't complain, I'd just take it as a compliment towards my DD.

 

[Aneille]

My DD's are still very young but I would also take it as a compliment towards my DD.

 

[Stitchfans]

I personally wouldn't, but some people are so weird.

 

[Al and Kate's Mom]

No way - innocent comment to your son, not the girl anyway!

 

[twoprincesses]

My DD's are still very young but I would also take it as a compliment towards my DD.

I agree.

 

[disykat]

I wouldn't be offended. Even if I was for some reason, you said it as a "mother", not as a "teacher". I know lots of parents who teach at the same schools as their kids and, while they do have to watch what they say about their students, none of them have ever had issue with just talking to their kids about their friends.

 

[Aidensmom]

I don't see how it could be offensive.

 

[Sherri]

Just a little background info:

My DS (15) goes to school where I student teach, so I already have a relationship with many of the kids there. I'm very comfortable with them and we get along GREAT. It wasn't hard to make the switch from friend's mom to teacher.

One of DS's female friends is in one of my classes. One night at home, I had joked around with DS that he better be nice to this girl and that if he and his gf ever split up, maybe someday that other girl could be a future daughter in law. She's just a sweetie.

DS told her! I am SO embarrassed! She came up to me in the hallway and was laughing about it and asking if I really said that and I just laughed it off and told her to fuggedaboudit.

My teacher is really upset about it now and is worried that the girl will tell her mother and I'll have to explain it in a conference.

If this was your DD, would this offend you to the point of complaining?

I would not complain. You didn't do anything wrong. You were having fun with the kids that you have a relationship with and that in no way crossed the line. I can not believe that a teacher would actually get mad over that.
She sounds a little uptight. I wouldn't worry about a thing.

 

[MerryPoppins]

No way! I'd be pleased if someone said that. It was meant as a compliment, right? I honestly don't see how it could be taken any other way. It's not like you were trying to play matchmaker. He's got a girlfriend.

I wouldn't worry about it. If a parent asks, just say you were talking with your son and it was meant as a compliment because the girl is so nice. You could even throw in that your son already has a girlfriend.

 

[cats7494]

Not at all...I would not be offended. I think it is a little silly of the teacher to be so worried about it.

 

[Patricia]

I also teach in the same school that my children attend. It is not that big of a deal and a wonderful experience for the most part. That comment is totally a compliment and I would be honored to hear it from someone who sees my daughter in her social settings. That is the place where kids are not on their "Sunday Best" behavior.

 

[daisyduck123]

I'm a teacher & as the girl's mother, I would not even think anything about it (except to take it as a compliment toward my daughter). If your cooperating teacher is upset about this little thing...well, then good grief! She needs to relax. I don't see how she can think the parents would mention that at a conference....there are more important things to discuss then.

**But I wouldn't discuss students anymore to, or even around your DS.

 

[wdwmom2]

I would take it as a total compliment!!! I would feel like a did a great job of raising her that someone else would think so highly of her.

 

[JAA'smom]

I have three daughters and I would not be offended at all. I would also take it as a compliment.

 

[MushyMushy]

Thanks for the input. I'm feeling a bit sensitive after being reprimanded for something so innocent and positive. She was really upset about it.

 

[wilderness01]

She needs to lighten up. You did nothing wrong.

 

[Daxx]

No, if it were my DD, I wouldn't complain, I'd just take it as a compliment towards my DD.

What she said!!!!!

 

[NMAmy]

I agree with everyone else--as the mom of a 15 yo girl--I'd definitely take it as a compliment and be happy that someone who saw her daily at school thought so highly of her behavior. (You know--they can be so awful at home sometimes, that it's nice to know they remember their manners outside the house, at least!)

 

[JunieJay]

The teacher needs to lighten up. Geez. I joke around with the mother of one of DS' classmates all the time that we're going to be Mothers In Law. When I tell her that I say it meaning I can't think of a nicer girl for my son when the time comes. I know she doesn't take it any other way.

I don't think you have anything to worry about with the other mom. I'm sure she will think its cute and not at all offensive.