We have a friend at church whose 13 year old daughter (I'll call her Callie) has Down syndrome. The mom sings in the adult choir and also sings professionally. Callie sang in children's choir until she aged out of it last year. Her mom has now put Callie in the youth choir. The church youth choir is good - quite a few advanced singers. They all read music well, use four to eight part harmony, etc, sing their songs from memory. When Callie sings with them, she can always be heard. My daughter keeps track of her...make sure she stands and sits at the right time, etc., but can't keep Callie on key. The director is marvelous with Callie. But parents, help me understand why Callie's mom has put her in a performing group, with which she cannot keep up. Whenever the group performs, Callie's off pitch singing will always be heard. There are other church youth groups that Callie could be a part of. I try to put myself in the mom's shoes, and I don't think I'd want my daughter to be in front of the church, obviously being the one always off pitch. I know it's "only church youth choir" , but the group is going to sound off pitch for the next 6 years. Please don't flame me, but instead, help me understand the mom's point of view.