I don't understand why parent would not want to go. We went for both of our children all the way through to senior and including senior year. I knew that my child's grades were good and their mannerism were to be good in school. I can not think of a year that we have not had something to discuss about our child in those 15 minutes. You can have the smartest kid in class who is sweet and kind, helps others but still have problems. WE always asked questions. Made sure they were socializing, not overly quiet etc.
I don't think my 15 minutes should go to a parent whose child may be struggling. That is an appointment that the teacher should be making during those 15 minutes so they can address the problem during a meeting of appropriate time. The teacher and parent would know. That definitely should be done at a different time.
I really am finding the answers in this thread interesting and have opened my eyes to how other parents feel about this situation.
Your poor kids! You asked the teacher about their socializing skills when they were seniors in high school? Cut the cord already! Do you have meetings planned with their college professors too, to make sure they are socializing well? And if they are not, what do you expect the teacher to do, force friends on them?
School is about academics, independence, and productivity. Why parents want to make it a social therapy circus is beyond me.
Of course the big issue is that the parents who go to the meetings are invested in their children, and usually those kids are doing well. The teacher really wants to see the parents of the kids who do not do homework, perform barely at grade level or slightly below, and act out in class. Those parents rarely show up.
I don't remember ever going to a parent-teacher meeting for my girls. Kindergarten was set up for the teacher to have a lot of daily contact if needed, and I volunteered in the elementary school and kept in contact that way.
Middle school was weaning time. As long as conduct and grades were in an appropriate range, and my girls felt safe and unthreatened, I let them deal with the school issues. I only got involved once, with a safety issue.
High school was awkward because I work there. I tried to stay away from my daughters' teachers, but they came to me with info sometimes. Unless it was a safety issue, I didn't intervene there either.
Imagine this, both girls graduated and went on to college, where they are making excellent choices without my intervention. They are invested in doing well all on their own! I haven't seen one grade from college either. They own those grades, not me. I'm not going to tell them they have to do better, or go questioning the professor as to why my kid got a certain grade. (Parents do this!)
Now, if my child was struggling in school, or I saw a sudden drop in grades, or a grade that just didn't make sense, then yes, I would go to the parent meeting. One poster mentioned seeing 'samples' of the child's work. Don't you see that when they do homework? Don't they bring home papers? That's one of the things I always did (and still do) - talking to the kids about what they discussed in school, expanding on that at home. That's our job as parents, IMO. I find the college topics very interesting and stimulating.