OT:When you help someone get a job

[momofsamandeden]

I have a friend who for months has been unemployed. When I found out I was being moved to days I recommended her for my position. She interviewed and my boss offered her a possible position based on background check and TB test evaluation.
She interviewed for this position last Monday. Yesterday my boss called me and asked if my friend took her TB test because she has not gotten the results yet and my boss is interviewing other candidates on Tuesday and wondering how serious my friend is about the job.
So I talk to my friend and she says that due to family issues she was not able to do the test but she will on Monday. I stress to her that my boss gets about 45 candidates for one position right now and that she will not be viewed as eager for this position. My friend says not true and she will prove it to my boss.
I guess I do not understand the mind set of sit back and not put effort to out shine other candidates. My dh was laid off for two weeks before he jumped through several hoops to get an entry level position somewhere. When I was offered this job I went and got the TB test the next day and told my friend that the reason I was chosen is because my boss told me she admired my hustle.

 

[hereyago]

This is why I NEVER help someone get a job.

 

[momofsamandeden]

I am clearly seeing that now as I am worried that this is going to reflect on me with my boss

 

[digitaldevice]

I Second that. I will not help after the last 2 people I got hired into my company. Both were fired and it makes you look like an a$$. I had someone ask me just the other day too.

 

[meghanlea]

i too went through heck to get a unemployed friend a job who was getting ready to loose her house. did she show up? nope. they didn't even interview her since i am in management and they were taking my word. last time i do that.

 

[momofsamandeden]

This person is losing her house also. My dh was just laughing at me being all upset and said "I told you!" This is what stings the most is that he was right lol. I guess it is not important but this is a cake walk job I mean no thought involved and fun. Oh well. When I talk with my boss tomorrow I feel like telling her to walk away fast!
When we were struggling I got a job after being a stay at home mom for five years. I left a two month old baby because I knew that her having diapers and a roof over her head was important.

 

[ohlas]

Next time you see that boss just do the im sorry for wasting your time and i learned my lesson cannt help someone unless they really want it...


Now you know that if people really want something they will make it happen not just sit there and whine....

If it was my house i would be making beds, flipping hambugers anything for the short time.. to save the house..

 

[kellyg403]

I honestly think this is one of the hardest lessons to learn! I helped a friend get a job, she ended up being, well less than a stellar employee, and I really felt like an idiot. Here I was thinking I knew this person and I can assure you it was ALL surface. Now, I just don't bother. I have a friend who hired a relative...they can be worse. Her relative ended up destroying company property in the middle of a 'fit' because he wanted to go home but was scheduled until a certain time. The main boss asked if he was ill, the guy said no just wanted to go home. So the boss said hey, finish your tasks for the day and bug out when you are done. Evidently he didn't want to finish his tasks, he wanted to go home. By the time the fit was over he had destroyed 3000.00 worth of property by throwing boxes onto the concrete backroom floor. But, he got to go home via police cruiser My friend was so thoroughly embarrassed and then had to listen to the sil discussing how the company was at fault and he was treated poorly so now family functions were a real riot. Just to let you know it could be way worse..way worse.

Kelly

 

[Mathfailure]

Seems as if the people who want a job are finding them on their own.

I helped one woman, she was fired too.

Never again.

 

[ajh88]

Oh, that's so tough. I do hope it all works out and that it doesn't effect your relationship with your boss.

OTOH, I personally think it is weird that your boss is asking you to be the go between. They interviewed her, you would think this type of communication would have happened between HR or your boss and her directly - even though you recommended her, I don't really think he (or she) should be putting you in the middle of the hiring situation. JMHO.

 

[bettymae1121]

This exact think happened a few years ago when I noticed an opening in another department of my company. My good friend had been out of work for ages and needed a job with health bennifits, and our company has fantastic bennies. Plus we pay really well even for entry level. This job would have been PERFECT for her.

I took her almost a month to get her resume in, by then they had already filled th position. I was totally confused (still am, really).

I guess it all worked out for her...now she's a house wife and spends her days taking care of her sister's child while her husband works two jobs to support them. I suppose deep down she never really wanted to work at all.

 

[Muushka]

I had a co-worker one time not believe me when I told her the manager wanted her to do something now, not later. She said "oh come on, it can wait!" Later that day they fired her. I was kind and did not say "I told you she wanted you to do it now!"

I can't believe your friend did not believe you. You tried.

 

[momofsamandeden]

This morning my dh ran into her dh (they both work together). Her dh thanked my dh for me recommending his wife. my dh said it is not a done deal as she has not gotten the required testing done. Her dh just shook his head and said I am starting to think she is hopeless. The ironic thing is this job pays more than the one she was laid off for and you basically just have to sit there and make sure homework is done etc. I mean I got paid to sit at movies for crying out loud!
I don't think my boss was putting me as the go between but rather giving me a heads up that she is lagging and my boss will start interviewing on Tuesday to fill the position. Whatever I will send her post cards from my three Disney vacations this year

 

[Sgt Mickey]

That sucks.

 

[crisi]

It does often work out. My husband has had great luck recommending or hiring friends, but in his case its usually recruiting in people he knows really well that are a good professional fit - often friends he's met through work to start with.

But there are plenty of other folks we haven't helped, even when asked.