A lil background information: A young man who thinks of us as his parents (he lived with us from the time he was 16 until he joined the Air Force) is stationed in N.D.. He and his adoring wife had a son in October (here in Ohio) so everyone got to be at the hospital (biological parents, aunts, cousins, friends) when their son was born. Well they are expecting again!!! They are excited as is everyone else. His wife's mother died when she was a small child so she as asked me to come out to stay with their son when the new baby is due. YEA ME!!! She is definitely like a daughter to me and I am mom to her so it is quite an honor for me. She is due in October (silly silly kids-their babies will be 1 year apart) and I will be flying out a week prior to the due date to help her, stay with my Godson when the new baby comes, and staying for a short time later so DDIL can get her much needed rest. Anyhow...they recieved a call from his entire family that they are going to be there when the baby is born(Flying in from Ohio). Entire family consists of his dad, his 80 yo aunt, his 60 yo handicapped uncle, his other uncles, a step-sister, a half sister and a cousin or two. Plus his mom and other half sister (his parents are divorced). They are also planning on coming out before the baby is born, staying with them until the lil one comes home. So the arguing has once again started. FIL wants to be in the room when the baby is born...so does MIL but they hate each other. My adopted son's wife doesn't get along at all with one of the half sister and she is insisting she be there too. The poor kids are now arguing between themselves as DDIL doesn't want all of them at the house prior, during, and immediately after the birth of the baby. She isn't going to have the energy to cook for everyone before the birth...worries about her son because the biological grandparents have different ideas on how he should be raised plus they both want quiet time with the new baby, their son, and themselves once they come home. (I will be at a hotel at that point as I feel it is very important for them to be a family alone without me there) So we got to talking and I told her I know some very wise ppl so here I am. I'm hoping someone here on DISBOARDS can help me. To keep the chaos to a minimum for them, we were thinking of "meet the new addition to the family" party preferrable two/three weeks after the baby is born. But we haven't a clue how in the world to word it so it doesn't hurt anyone's feelings. I know, as well as most of you, they should just out and out ask them not to come but they are just rebuilding their relationship with his family and don't want to destroy what has been built up. Thus the reason for the party..to make it an extra special occassion for his family yet keep them at bay for a couple of weeks. Any suggestions on how to word the invitations? How about budget friendly ideas for the party? Any HELP will greatly be appreciated as I really want to help the kids.