OT: party question - presents

[JodyLynC]

My DDs are 5 and are in Kindergarten. They are in different classrooms, but often have recess together so although my DDs have their own friends, they usually clump together at recess.

One of DD's classmates invited both girls to a birthday party, which was very sweet. Other than close friends or family, this will be the girls' (and my) first birthday party. My question is about gift-giving.

Would it be more appropriate for the girls to give 1 bigger gift together or should they each give their own gift? Does it even matter?

I would appreciate hearing any experiences both positive and negative from parents of siblings or parents of party givers.

Thanks!!
Jody

 

[puffkin]

I would do just one gift from both girls. I am a B/G twin and on the rare occassions we both got invited to a party we just did one gift.

 

[zoemurr]

the parents will appreciate less "stuff". I would make it a bit more $ than an average gift though. Unless this idea upsets your girls.

 

[irene_dsc]

Ds is friends with a set of boy/girl twins. They have each given him small gifts at his parties, fwiw. I'm not sure if he would've really even noticed if they had given a joint gift or not! It did work out well this year since they gave him squirt guns - since we didn't have any, this means he can use it with someone else, rather than it being completely one-sided. But, the family knew we didn't have any, so was able to plan.

 

[HGD24]

I would ask them what they would like to do. They may love the idea of giving individual gifts that they can each help pick out, then again, they may love the idea of getting together to think of one gift to give.

 

[mjkacmom]

We usually do one gift, and I spend twice and nice, so it's usually $40 - $50, depending on the relationship.

 

[poohfriend77]

I'd also vote for one gift (though I'd probably spend a little more), but I'd have each girl make a special card/picture for the birthday kid.

 

[dougsmom98]

We usually give two because that is what my boys want to do. They are very different and want to give different things. I don't think anyone at the party will think twice either way.

 

[SmallWorld71]

While I don't think it really matters, DS9 has friends who are twins and every year they always give him 2 gifts. They each like to be able to pick out their own. The gifts are usually similar in cost/ style, but they are wrapped separately. Sometimes kids like to be able to give their own gift. I would ask your DD's opinion.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

I have twins & I always give a gift from each child to the birthday child.

 

[rt2dz]

When my kids are invited to birthday parties of siblings (twins/triplets/quads/just friends with both kids), they purchase each a gift. My first time, I was confused, but then I realized that they were two separate kids with separate interests (I have 3 boys and they have rarely had the same interests, even at the same age), especially in the case of b/g siblings. I just figured this was a good policy to follow.

As far as when multiples have been invited to my kids' parties, they have each generally brought a gift (even when my child has had their birthday party first). Then each child has their own chance to give and get a thank you. My friends of multiples have told me this way they each get the same experience and say and job of choosing, which they find important.

 

[hopesmommy]

My DD has always received 2 gifts from her friends that are twins.

From my point of view, I think it is only appropriate to do 2. If my DD was invited to your twin's birthday, I would not buy just one gift. They ARE 2 separate people.