OT - Kid reward chart...

[adventure_woman]

DD5 has always been a perfect child. I have never really had any real discipline issues with her - she has just always been good. (Don't worry - I'm getting payback with DD#2!). Anyway....we've been having some issues lately. So, I'm thinking of starting a reward chart as an incentive. Can anyone share their reward chart/strategies with me? What does it look like? Ideas for rewards, etc. Thank you!!!

 

[msdroz]

We use the Melissa and Doug one and it works well (amazon). My son is 5 and he was pretty much perfect up until this school year. There are some rambunctious boys in his class and I'm noticing changes in him Anyhow, the chart works pretty well. We give him "stamps" at the end of each day for different responsibilities (such as no whining, cleaning up, getting dressed, etc). At the end of the week he can earn a prize if he has enough stamps. The number varies each week and basically I just give him a reward if he has a good week- he doesn't count them all to notice a difference. We buy cheap rewards from the Target dollar section. Best of luck to you!

 

[phred52]

With my dd's we had a big chart on the back of the bathroom door. I listed 10 'chores'. I ignored whether or not the chores were done until bedtime then we reviewed and a 'success' got a stamp. Not doing something.... just ....didn't get the stamp. No yelling, just no stamp for that box on the chart. (I liked those chores getting done without me nagging!) At the end of the week 60 stamps could be exchanged for a DISNEY PIN! And let me tell you my kids were big BIG pin traders from a young age. They usually earned at least one pin a week, their choice out of my pin book. Sometimes they earned two, because they could keep any extra points not 'spent' the week before.....

 

[nchulka]

Reward charts can work great as an incentive, but do not use it as an alternative to discipline. For example a reward chart should be used as an incentive to do new or extra things like, empty trash cans, brush teeth and get in PJ's without having to be told, stop chewing fingernails etc. You should not use an incentive chart as a way to stop behavior problems. I don't know what kinds of problems you're having with your DD, but an incentive chart should not include things like not hitting your little brother or not yelling at mom or not telling lies. If your DD is doing wrong behaviors she needs discipline not rewards. If your problem is DD is not getting herself ready or being lazy about clean-up and things like that then a reward chart will work wonderfully