OT: How important is it....? (potty training question)

[NJR]

Direct quote from Elizabeth Pantley's "The No Cry Potty Training Solution" -

"Toilet training has nothing to do with nighttime dryness. Nighttime dryness is achieved only when a child's physiology supports this. A child wets during sleep because of a number of reasons: his kidneys aren't sending a signal to his brain when he's asleep to alert him he has to go, his bladder hasn't grown large enough to contain a full night's supply of urine, his bladder overproduces urine during the night, or he sleeps so deeply he doesn't wake up to go to the bathroom. As children grow, all of these conditions are self-correcting. This usually occurs between the ages of three and six. This isn't something you can teach, and you can't rush it."

 

[aidtrismommy]

I knew my son was ready to be trained because he was very interested in the toilet and wanted to try. He was not even 2 yet!!! I never used pull-ups, just nudey-butt or regular underwear. It made it a breeze. He is 100% day time trained but he still wears a diaper at night. Sometimes he is soaked (my fault for juice at night) and sometimes he is dry as a bone. That part just takes time.

 

[bellebud]

i will just echo other posters... being dry at night has nothing to do w/ being ready to potty train or being dry during the day. 2 very different things.

 

[fireflymedic]

I dont think the dry diaper thing at night is right.

I have a all most 4 yr. old that still wets the bed at night and he has been potty trained druing the day for all most 2 yrs now

I have a all most 3 yr. old that does stay dry at night and has only been totlly potty trained (going #2 took for ever) for a few months now

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

My younger DD was potty trained during the day by 18 mo but she didn't stay dry at night until nearly 3 years old.

My older was right at 2 years old and day and night occurred at the same time.

They're not in control of their bladder muscles when they're asleep, they just have to get to that point where the bladder can hold itself shut all night.

 

[Mrsdennison]

My dd has been potty trained since before her second bday during the day. Night time training is another story. She is now three and starting to wake up during the night when she has to go to the bathroom. However it is not everynight, she is a heavy sleeper and we have not limited drinks after a certain point at night.

I think that extended dryness is a sign. However it does not have to be at night. It could be during the day. Like naps .

Mrsdennison

 

[ilandrazdsw]

I went by if my kids showed an interest in the potty. DS showed interest just before 2 yo, unfortunately I was about 8 mos pg and would be in the States for 3 weeks to have the baby (I'm American) so I didn't really make a steady effort until we were back home. It took him a few months even with interest, and probably nearly a year before no pull-ups at night (sometimes dry, sometimes not). Even at 5 he sometimes still has accidents...he is a sound sleeper so if I don't monitor he beverage intake and make sure he goes to the bathroom before sleep we take the chance of a wet bed...sometimes if he starts to go it will wake him up so he just has to change his underpants and PJ bottoms.
DD, on the other hand, was potty trained by 25 months. She really wanted to go to "school" and had to be potty trained, so she trained within 1 week. The only night accidents she has are if she drinks a lot before bed or is sick.
Let your child be your guide, but once you start be consistent.

 

[LisaNJ25]

My 3 1/2 is not dry at night at all... but he is fine during day. Wore pull-ups for maybe a month and he has had no problems. Its been like that for over 6 months now.

 

[Relish]

Ds finished pt day at 18mo but still is wet at night. He'll be dry someday.
I also don't believe in withholding liquids so Ds drinks if he is thirsty before bed.

 

[kim_o]

I know of a lot of children that are day trained and then night trained quite awhile later. I wasn't ready to push potty training at all, and only did it because I realized DS was going through the night and waking up dry (he was a big milk drinker before bed too). At that point, I realized if he can hold it for 13+ hours, he can make 2 hours during the day. Although, he was resistant to potty training, he was completely trained within a week because he did have that bladder control. (DS was a month or 2 shy of being 3 years old when this happened).

 

[scootch]

My dd was potty trained at 2(shortly after her second birthday)... but wore pullups to bed till she was FIVE. We just couldnt' get her bladder trained at night. Ped said, dont' worry about it. Thus we didn't. She finally got out of the pullups at bedtime at age 5.

 

[disneybridetobe]

I don't have any suggestions-- we're in the same boat. DD is 20 months (21 months on the 1st of April), she's also had the potty around since 12 months. We're also trying to get rid of the bottle at bedtime, which is sometimes an exercise in futility. Some nights she gets water, some nights she cries until she gets milk. She's had a few mornings where she's woken up dry-- then we put her on the potty, she sits, we read, we sing... no pee, she gets antsy, we take her off. Then she pees. She's doing a little better with pooping, she gets grunty and sometimes has a hard time going, and we then put her on the potty, and she goes. She's done it two days in a row, but I know there's a long road ahead of us. If you want a potty buddy, let me know. Our DD's are the same age and probably similar in development if we're both PT'ing. We can get through this together!

 

[tam626]

I have'nt read any of the other posts but the answer to your question is, it has nothing to do with it! I have 3 kids. The oldest was dry at night at 3, potty trained during the day by 2. The next two were trained for daytime by 2 & my dd wore pull ups until she was 7 & my 3 1/2 year old still wakes up with a very wet pull up but can go for 4 hours during the day without going to the potty. It's a totally different thing for most kids.