Sorry this is OT, but this is the place I frequent most and I want some impartial opinions. How do you not care what people think of you? I never thought of myself like this, but apparently I really care about whether or not people like me. Make no mistake, I've never assumed that everyone likes me, but I sort of try not to do things that would give others reason to dislike me either. KWIM? I have recently become a manager at my job. I am a pharmacist. For a couple of years, I worked as a tech/intern alongside pretty much the same staff we still have. I pretty much got along with everyone during that time. As a pharmacist, I was by default in charge when I was there (even though I did not have any sort of management title). I have the responsibility, even if the technicians and clerks do not report to me for personnel purposes. When I returned to the pharmacy after graduation, I sensed a bit of tension at first, but it sort of eased off - I expected some awkwardness as I transitioned from peer to "manager". Over the past 7 months, we've had some management changes and I was recently promoted to pharmacy manager. So, I am now *officially* over everyone in the pharmacy. I know that as a manager you cannot take things personally - but I find that I am dwelling on one person in particular who actually seems to hate me now. We worked together and tolerated each other before (I wouldn't say we liked each other though), but now the tension is almost unbearable. I know I have to nip it in the bud, but anytime I ask for advice, I get "Oh well, that is just how that person is with everyone." I really want not to care what this person thinks of me, but I can't stand having unresolved conflict, especially when I spend 40 hours a week in a tiny area with this person. I also can't fire someone just because we don't get along (though IMHO it has gone well beyond that). Any thoughts??? TIA!