OT-Adopting

[misslissa]

Has anyone here adopted within Ontario? DH and I plan to have our children both biologically and through adoption. There is one particular child that recently came to our attention... it is a little sooner than we had thought of having kids, but she touched our heart.
Does anyone have anything to share?

 

[dancin Disney style]

If you can do it, just do it. Believe me, there is never a 'right time' to have kids. The children just present themselves.

You already know you want kids so go for it!!!!


Best of luck

 

[Disney_Mama]

I can't help with any adoption information... Other than to say that I was adopted almost 40 years ago and it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I was only 2 months old at the time. My mom could not have children of her own so my parents adopted my brother first and then 3 years later adopted me. Both from different birth mothers. My only advice is not to keep it a secret. I don't remember when I was told. I just remember that I have always known. Good luck

 

[two*little*birds]

Hey Melissa,

I know quite a few people who have adopted, and in the Durham Region. Feel free to send me a private message and I'll send you some info.

Kathie

 

[Lisa Anne Colling]

Hi Melissa!

I am a mom of three beautiful adopted children all from Ontario. We adopted them from birth. Our oldest is almost 9, 7 and 5. I am also a foster mom for an adoption agency. I can tell you after going through the adoption of my own children and witnessing the joining of the birth and adoptive families of the babies I have cared for, there is "no Mistakes" in life. The children we have in life are the ones God has meant us to have. My children even look like us and thier cousins, so much so that my middle son and his cousin you can't tell them apart in pictures. With my youngest son we have maintained a close relationship to his birth family, which has been a blessing not just to us, but them as well. I can't reveal the details of the babies I have cared for, but at times it has been absolutley unbelievable how thier Families have been chosen. Just as a mom who has carried a baby for 9 months and looks at him/her for the first time and knows that this is her angel. The same is true for adopted and birth familes. Most times a birth mom looks at the profiles of possible familes and knows this is the family for her child. When I saw each of my kids for the first time. I knew they were mine.
Listen to what your heart says! If it is telling you there is a little one that needs you, then don't ignore it!
Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions! Adoption has blessed our lives greatly and I wish the same for you and your family!
God Bless
Lisa Colling

 

[misslissa]

Hey guys!

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. I am a little concerned because DH and I are pretty young, but some parents are younger than us. But, we feel we might as well go ahead and see "how far" we get. The little girl that interested us is actually quite a bit older, and I can't imagine how it would be to be that old and not have parents.

I was raised by my biological (paternal) grandmother and actually never knew until I was about 8 or so... but I felt like I "always knew". My biological mother left me at about 3 weeks and I never met her until I was well into my teens. I know what a blessing my grandmother was to me, and how my life would have been so different without her, and not for the better! I just want to be that blessing to someone else.

So, thanks again for the words of encouragement

 

[Narnia]

I'd go for it. I'm 27 and have an 111/2 year old! I would try through facs if money is an issue as they will help with the adopion fees and give you.

 

[trivial]

My wife and I were 24 and 27 when our twins came along, and to be honest, I have a lot more faith in our parenting skills than the vast majority of parents we come across. The only experience I have with adoption is with my sister. She was adopted when she was about 3, and although I'm 7 years older than her, it's like she was always here. I would love to adopt some day, if we're able to afford it.

It would no doubt be an extra challenge to adopt a child more than a few years old, where you didn't have any input on their most formative years. But I can think of few more noble things that one can do in life. All the best if you decide to go for it!