Omg...my friend's dad hit on me

[JerseyBallerina]

So, I went out to dinner with my friend and her dad last night. I thought he was a nice guy. We'd met several times and him and his wife have gone out a couple times with my parents. Right after we ordered my friend had to make a phone call so she left the table and this is the conversation that followed:

Him: How was your spring break? (A group of us went to Cabo last week)

Me: It was a lot of fun.

Him: Did you do any wet t-shirt contests?

Me: (laughing uncomfortably) No.

Him: Why not?

Me: That's not my thing.

Him: (glancing at my chest) It looks like it should be.

Me: Well, it's not.

Him: Did Eric (my BF) go?

Me: No, he had work.

Him: Were you lonely at night without him?

Me:......

Him: He's a lucky guy.

Me: Yeah....

Then I made my phone ring in my purse and I pretended I had to take the call. The rest of the dinner was so awkward because he kept trying to start conversations with me but I kept just talking to my friend. I can't even look at him without feeling really gross.I told my roommate about it and she said not to talk to my friend unless it happens again and I'm really uncomfortable.I guess that would be best because how do you tell someone that their dad is a pervert?

I was just really grossed out by the whole thing and don't know what to do about it.

 

[mssocks]

He was inappropriate. If you happen to see him again, look very prim and assertive. Tell him you want a word with him. Tell him his conversation that night made you uncomfortable and it WILL not happen again. Say you were shocked that (insert friends name)'s father would do that and you hope that you misunderstood his intentions. If he's a regular guy, he will feel scolded and embarrassed. If he is a true pervert, he will probably smirk. Then you look him square in the eye and say " I mean it. Never again or I tell my parents and your wife. " Walk away head held high.

 

[NC State]

Ewww! I know that was a long dinnner.

 

[ilovejack02]

I wouldnt tell her unless it continues to happen, but it prob wouldnt happen because i would never be around him again.

My high school boyfriend's dad tried to kiss me one night. GROSSSS, i told my boyfriend and he didnt believe me.
I ran into the old boyfriend recently.... been 13 yrs and he told me he was sorry he didnt believe me, guess his dad did it to other girls he knew

 

[Narnian_Princess]

That is really creepy. I would say DEFINITELY NEVER EVER be alone with him again, EVER. In fact, it would probably be best never to be in his company again.

I wouldn't tell your friend about this though. Who do you think she would believe, you or her father? Most likely her father. Just avoid him as best you can and if it happens again, tell him to stop. If he does it again, get a restraining order.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

Oh, I forgot to mention I had class with my friend and she told me that her dad wanted to know if I needed work during the summer. He's a lawyer and I want to go to law school and he said he could get me an internship where I could get paid in his firm....

I told her I'd think about it but I'm giving it a day before I tell her no.

 

[oxfordcircus]

Oh, I forgot to mention I had class with my friend and she told me that her dad wanted to know if I needed work during the summer. He's a lawyer and I want to go to law school and he said he could get me an internship where I could get paid in his firm....

I told her I'd think about it but I'm giving it a day before I tell her no.

Lawyers are scum. Don't work for him and don't go to law school!

 

[agnes!]

Ewwwwwwwwww. That is beyond creepy.

Rehearse the possible situations in your head so *if*(let's be optimistic and not say "when") he starts making inappropriate comments, you can say...

"I'll be sure to tell my folks/your wife/your DD(MY friend)/Eric(my boyfriend) how you feel"(and getting up and leaving wherever you are) and THEN TELL THEM.
or
"I have no interest in you. This conversation is over."(just like the previous line...and getting up and leaving, no matter what the circumstances are, even if you are at a party & your friend might get upset & want to know what's going on...and then you should probably tell her)

If he calls, do not answer the phone. That's what voicemail or answering systems are for.

You get the idea. DON'T be polite, DON'T be nice...be BLUNT. If you are "polite", he might be so deluded that he won't get your nice hint and will then continue to try to pursue some kind of a "relationship"(?) with you.

I would also consider going ahead and telling Eric, he'll probably need to know why you don't want to be around Creepy Dad, especially if all of you run in somewhat the same circles.

agnes!

 

[KristiKelly]

Okay first - EEEEWWWWWwwwww!!!

Now that I got that out of my system. I honestly don't know what I would do. I would try to avoid him if possible and definitely not take the internship. If your friend asks why, tell her that you would hate for it to somehow interfere with your friendship if it doesn't work out.

If you see him again, I would do as mssocks suggests.

 

[agnes!]

Under no circumstances should you take that internship at Creepy Dad's law firm. Then he'll *really* think you're interested in him.

agnes!

 

[allie&mattsmom]

Lawyers are scum. Don't work for him and don't go to law school!

No. He is a scum. Not all lawyers all scum.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I just got off the phone with my mom. He called my house and talked to my mom about the internship. She called me to tell me about it and how it sounded like such a great thing.

She gave him my cell number so he could give me more details! I couldn't tell my mom what happened because the whole state would know by the end of the day, she has such a big mouth.

Now, I'm freaked he's gonna leave gross messages or call constantly.

 

[daisyduck123]

All I can say is ...and I think I'd get my cell phone # changed.

I think I'd also tell my parents.

It is just something I think they should know about...esp. before your mom goes & invites this guy to the next family barbecue or something!!!

 

[CJMickeyMouse]

I am apparently in the minority here, but I would talk to the friend about it. Tell her exactly what happened and be as accurate as possible. Tell her it made you uncomfortable. This way she won't ask you to be in his company anymore. If she does not believe you and turns her back, then she was not much of a friend to begin with.

JMO.

 

[BuckyFan04]

I also think I'd tell my parents. If he does call you, I think it would be a good idea to change your phone number.

 

[dolcezena]

If you do have to talk to him again, ask him what his office's harassment policy is, & if they have a respectful workplace code of conduct.

Maybe he'll get the point.

 

[JerseyBallerina]

I don't think he will. I was pretty rude to him last night I thought. I was really short with him, basically ignoring him. When he offered to pay, I just tossed $20 on the table and refused to take it back. And when he tried to hug me good bye, I just stuck out my hand to shake his.

And he still offered me this internship...he didn't get the hint.

 

[janette]

If he calls just make sure you firmly tell him that you prefer not to be around him and are not interested in getting to know him better. The internship sounds like a trap, make sure he knows that you will mention his comments to your parents and his family if it continues. If he gets the message it could stop there, just never be alone with him.

 

[MushyMushy]

Absolutely tell your mother! If he's involving her like that, there's no telling how much farther he'd go. What a scumbag.

I'm ambivalent about telling your friend. There's a part of me that thinks she should know, but then another part of me that says there's really no reason for it at this point.