Okay...I've called the Late Night DISers, now I'm calling the SINGLE DISers!

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by Scratch42
Have you ever thought about checking out your local "Parents without Partners" chapter? That's what my married friends keep telling me!LOL

just a thought.

Scratch

Yes, I've thought of that. As a matter of fact, about five months ago my sister found a GREAT guy through them.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by worm761
{{HUGS}} to you all. thanks for the advice even though it wasn't meant for me.

That's the great thing about these boards...they're meant for everyone!

 

[CarolAnnC]

It took me a good month before I could even say I am single. My DH died just 3 months ago. I loved being married!

My condolensces House of Princesses on the loss of your beloved DH. You sound as if you are coping as best as can be expected. I lost my DH when my girls were 14 and 17 and Daddy can never be replaced. But one day you will find companionship again. It sounds like you had a wonderful marriage, and that is much more than many can ever say. {{{Hugs}}} to you and your children.

For everyone else, I wish you all happiness, whether as a single or part of a couple. Timing is everything in this world. My sister who is 37 had almost given up on finding the right man. But lo and behold he came along when least expected and they are now happily making plans for the future. One never knows what the next day may hold for them.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by house_of_princesses
It took me a good month before I could even say I am single. My DH died just 3 months ago. I loved being married! Someone to share private thoughts, jokes, happenings with. Someone to snuggle with without any hitches. Someone I could just rest on. We have 4 dd's and shortly after daddy died the girls wanted to know if I'd be dating again. The 5 yo wanted to know if we could go to the 'Daddy Store'. Broke my already broken heart.

I just want someone to laugh with again. Not now. Eventually. As for the present, I've taken up horse back riding, continue my karate, and keep very busy home educating my 4 dd's. Although, that may change. Seems I will probably have to go back to work. Just another heart break for me.

The Lord must be trying to teach me either humility or flexibility. Whichever it is, I wish the lesson were over.

PinWizard....will keep you in my thoughts.

BTW, anyone notice...only women answered this thread?

Exactly, Vicki! And 11 years of widowhood has been more than enough! It breaks my heart when DS asks for another dad. About five years ago I came across a guy that I knew in high school online. We've been talking ever since. Let's just say that he's the one that got away. Lately we've been talking on the phone occasionally, and I just feel wonderful when we do! But he's married, so forget anything ever happening. But it made me realize how much I miss sharing life with someone! He tells me to go to a gym to find someone healthy! (DH died from a massive heart attack at 38.)

 

[tater bug]

I'm single and loving it. 5 months ago a 12 year relationship ended. At first it was really tough having to deal with being without him, but now I wouldn't trade my freedom for anything. Of course, I may feel differently with the holidays coming up but somehow I think it will be okay. I am certainly not wanting someone to be tied to. I keep telling people that I want atleast 8 men on my "call list". One for every day of the week and a spare just in case I want to change things up! The men that have come into my life in the last 5 months are very special to me. Each one filling a particular need. And every one of them has helped me realize things about myself. With everything positive that has happened to me in the last 5 months, I guess I should tell my ex-SO thank you for leaving!

 

[DisneyCP2002]

Single here and happy. I'm am hoping that the right man will come into my life eventually but if not I'll be happy. Being single means I don't have to worry about other people's wishes as well as my own.

 

[Astrid]

Wow! Well, I have to admit it, I am in awe of the majority of you. You are all so brilliantly adjusted to being single and are dealing with it in a way that I wish I could.

I hate the way I feel. That I really want a guy in my life.

I take my hat off to you all and if you've got any hints and tips for me then I will gratefully receive them!!

Astrid x

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tater bug
I keep telling people that I want atleast 8 men on my "call list". One for every day of the week and a spare just in case I want to change things up! The men that have come into my life in the last 5 months are very special to me. Each one filling a particular need. And every one of them has helped me realize things about myself. With everything positive that has happened to me in the last 5 months, I guess I should tell my ex-SO thank you for leaving!

LOL! And where have you been fortunate enough to meet these wonderful men? Please send some down to FL!

 

[tmq2766]

Pin Wizard:

I understand completely what your talking about...... I have enjoyed being single for all the reasons already stated and I have completely thown myself into my DD8, but my biggest fear is that as she gets older and has a life of her own I am going to be the one left behind again......
I don't want to turn into the crazy lady with the plastic on the windows and 20 cats.......(Do not mean to offend anyone with 20 cats or plastic on the windows.....)
I really miss the warm fuzzy feeling you get when your around someone you really care about......

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tmq2766
Pin Wizard:

I understand completely what your talking about...... I have enjoyed being single for all the reasons already stated and I have completely thown myself into my DD8, but my biggest fear is that as she gets older and has a life of her own I am going to be the one left behind again......
I don't want to turn into the crazy lady with the plastic on the windows and 20 cats.......(Do not mean to offend anyone with 20 cats or plastic on the windows.....)
I really miss the warm fuzzy feeling you get when your around someone you really care about......

THANK YOU, SK8 MOM! ROFL...that is too funny about the cats and plastic on the windows! I have to say "exactly" again! Just a few more years and DS will be running off with his friends all the time. I don't want to be sitting home alone! Geez...some nights I prefer to sleep on the sofa. That big bed alone doesn't feel much different than a surgical table.

 

[tater bug]

Pin Wizard - they are in Florida. I think one of the reasons they are so wonderful is that I don't have to deal with any of them on a regular basis. At the moment there are 3, I'm still working on the other 5.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tater bug
Pin Wizard - they are in Florida. I think one of the reasons they are so wonderful is that I don't have to deal with any of them on a regular basis. At the moment there are 3, I'm still working on the other 5.

Good luck! If they're in FL, I must be hanging out in the wrong places...school, church, college.

 

[tmq2766]

You know the thing is, is that I don't think I am being overly pickey either. I want someone who will love my daughter as much as me, does not have to be stripper material just not butt ugly, and have a great sence of humor. (Looks are not as important as someone who can make me laugh). They should also love Disney and if not at least put up with my infatuation.





WHERE ARE YOU HIDING??????????

 

[jamsmom]

Well, as many of you know, I have been in a 9 year relationship, but we have decided it will be better if we go separate ways. (Wel, he initally decided in April) Well, since my name is on the house, and I am not in a finanical position to move out...I am still here.

But, from different things I hear, apparently the dating scene is VERY different.

 

[KatelynnsAuntie]

I'm single and hating it. I have no idea where my Mr. Right is. I have, however, been with many Mr. Wrongs. I keep thinking my Mr Right has either died or is in a completely different state and I'll never meet him. It's difficult to meet quality people who want the same things out of life that I want, especially as I get older. And even though I live in a big city it's still hard to meet others.

I love this thread though. It's very comforting.

 

[Scratch42]

DO NOT COMPROMISE WHAT YOUR IDEAL MATE, IS OR WHAT YOU WOULD LIKE HIM TO BE!

Also, the dating scene is different but the male mentality really has not changed that much. At least from what I hear at work all the time



A lot still want their cake and eat it to! No way do I want to put up with what I'm hearing!

Scratch

 

[tmq2766]

I am leaving for Disney in 11 days and this time I am convinced that I will meet my Prince Charming or at least my Goofey on this trip....... Who knows stranger things have happened.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Boy, do I agree with all this. I have a male friend I talk to about this stuff. There's not a whole lot of specifics I'm looking for, just a few. I told him the guy has to be responsible. His comment was...Sandy, guys aren't responsible! As I grew up, my Dad was always responsible, and this friend of mine is also. Must be others out there! He also has to be intelligent, have common sense, a sense of humor, love me and DS unconditionally, and accept DS as his own. Don't want to be someone's mom!! Could be a little difficult to find! But he doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous or rich! I'm flexible on those and other things! I don't want him working in Burger King, but a decent, respectable job would be nice. Good luck, ladies!! I've also thought that maybe this person exists in another state. After all, eight years ago I moved from FL to VA. And moved back to FL within a month! Maybe he's in VA!!!!!!

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by jamsmom
But, from different things I hear, apparently the dating scene is VERY different.

What's so different about it? If it's that different, I would think that particular person isn't for me.

 

[house_of_princesses]

I am convinced that I will meet my Prince Charming or at least my Goofey on this trip

LOL! I wish you luck, Tmq! It could happen!!

I think I'd like to meet a responsible Goofy. I could use a pick me up in the emotions department right about now.