OK, 7:30 am and DD's 1st temper tantrum is un full swing!

[Mskanga]

All over her telling DH and I that she's having a math test today. She says she's having a bit of trouble with something so dh and I told her to tell the teacher so she can spend a few minutes with her to explain it or get one of the instructional support teachers , she refuses.
Dh was on his way out to work and when it comes down to Math , it becomes very frustrating to explain anything because I learned a different way than they use in school these days.
So now she's in a full blown temper tantrum because we told her to ask the teacher for help. Geez I never knew this was such a shame or crime!
What time do you start arguing with your children?

 

[Serena]

Try 1:00am this morning. Her bf called. I demanded to know what was so important that he's calling her at that time of the night and she told me it was none of my business.
Well, after I walked away rather than do what I wanted to do, she's grounded again, still. She wasn't over the first grounding yet.

 

[ltldeb]

OMG, I am not looking forward to those teen years! Our DD (11) isn't too bad YET, but what's going to happen when those hormones really start raging? I guess I'll be coming here like you guys for support.

 

[browneyes]

My dd and I start arguing about 2 minutes after I tell her it's time to get up (she'll argue she's already up, I go in to check and she's in bed with the covers over her head ). My ds and I start arguing at 2:50 pm (the time I pick them up from school).

 

[Mskanga]

Serena, I would ground her too but I would also take that phone away.
DD has been asking me if she can hook up the phone in her room since she does have a jack there, I said no way. Then again she's only 10 and not allowed to get or make any phone calls past 7:30 pm.
ltldeb, I'm on the same boat as you but I think those raging hormones already started on dd , the mood swings that she has already cost her birthday party next month. She was arguing with me at Walmart the other day over the kind of cake she wanted, I said it's still 6 weeks away, she keeps going on and on, I told her to stop it twice, the third time I told her shut your mouth , and you know what she tells me? I don't have to.
I told her at that point that she wouldn't need a cake because there will be no party now and I'm dead serious.
Even dh is getting tired of the way she treats her sister and the moods she gets in, and when I told him she's punished without a party and why , he agreed.

 

[ltldeb]

So much fun to look forward to.

 

[Serena]

Since I was half asleep at the time, I didn't think about the phone. But you know, that's a good idea.

She's still asleep, but today is going to be a fun day at my house.

 

[Keli]

It's not all bad. Teens are old enough to understand what will can make you really happy and when they are on that hormone high they will do them. On the flip side, of course, they also know what will really tick you off and when they are on a hormone low they will also do that, lol. Teens are just better at pushing your buttons, both good and bad, lol.

 

[FOJMO]

When I read your thread title, Mskanga, I thought you were going to talk about a toddler having a tantrum. It looks as though your DD is 10? That's a shame that she's having tantrums at her age.

It sounds as though she is very stressed out. Evidentally, she's been having trouble for some time now with math and for some reason is hesitant to approach this particular teacher. It looks as though she's at the end of her rope now with the test coming up today. It's too bad she wasn't able to approach the teacher before it was time for the test. It may be too late for this particular test, but maybe you could contact the teacher to ask for suggestions to help her. But, if you do, I would check with your DD first, because it may cause her MORE stress if you approach her teacher and she doesn't want you to for some reason.

Good luck with those tantrums. I guess I'm lucky because my DD (17) hasn't had one since she was about 3, I think.

 

[disneygals]

Temper Tantrums in older kids...is this the secret behavior that no one talks about?

My oldest, very intense, type A+ personality, started having them in fourth grade. I can see them coming, too tired, has always fought sleep from birth, but am unable to stop them. She pressures herself, I am fairly laid-back with her. She is now turning 11 in June, in fifth grade now, and has them about once a month (hormonal?!?!), down from about 2 times a month or more in 4th grade.

I have 3 daughters and she is the most intense. My 2nd had toddler tantrums, but stopped. I have disagreements with my 8 and 6 year old, but they will "give in". My oldest, never!

Meanwhile, she is a teacher's dream and all my friends think she is the greatest. Luckily or Unluckily (lol), she saves her rage for me.

Vivienne

 

[grinningghost]

Must be a hormonal morning. My DD got all huffy this morning when she realized she had no clean jeans. I was just putting the washed load of them into the dryer at 7:20, when she figured out she had no jeans. Of course she goes to the bus stop at 7:30. I wasn't into arguing the finer points of preparing the night before, so I threw one pair in the dryer and ended up driving her to school. Her pants were still damp when she put them on. Oh well, I can't play laundry police all the time.

Those teenage hormones are crazy.

 

[4greatboys]

My oldest ds and I used to fight in the mornings due to the fact he is not a morning person and is a hormonal teen. The solution to my problem (only in the am) was not to speak to him or look at him. Ita very hard I do want to talk about school or whatever but I know huge fangs will shoot out from his mouth and my head will be gone so I just avoid it all.
BTW kanga both of my odest are famous for waiting til the last minute for help or school items needed at school. Then I want to scream and bite off a head or 2.
With ds #2 you never know when there will be an attack but since he has huge difficulty controlling his mouth you are assured of having one.

 

[Mskanga]

Fojmo you got some good points there but I assure you that dd is not struggling, she's an A's and B's student but this new concept was just recently introduced.
The problem with her is that she's shy and she has to learn to speak up for herself, if she doesn't understand something she should ask for help. I have called the teacher and let her know but dd won't know that I called.
But you see, this is not the only thing, she will argue over anything, I had to separate both sisters back to separate bedrooms now after the two of them insisting on sleeping in the bunk bed in the same room.
Sometimes I really wonder, was I like that growing up? If so, I'm really surprised my mother didn't kill me, LOL.

 

[Mjasp]

My DD 11 also won't speak up to adults. Can't wait till she starts to. I also have to call the teacher.

BUT... My DD 7 is a talker, when I asked her in first grade if she wanted me to write a note,because the teacher marked a math problem she got right wrong, she said no way, I can tell her.
Of course the 100% was huge on the page with all sorry and way to go stickers.

But what do I do with her when something doesn't go her way, she screams and cries. Tonight she has NO TV and is screaming everytime she thinks of the show thats on, that she really wants to watch. To get her in the shower is a chore, everything is a fight with her. HELP!!!!! How can one be so calm and passive and one a wild woman. Although I must say DH is calm and passive and i'm the outgoing one.
So as the saying goes the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

 

[Pop Daddy]

congratulations

 

[Mskanga]

You people are freaking me out, LOL . I'm looking at the thread before I opened it and I thought, when the heck did I post this? not today...then I realized I posted it a few months ago and someone just bumped it up, ROFL. I thought I was loosing my mind!

 

[Saffron]

I was getting freaked out too, 'cause I was wondering why a little girl was in school, on a Sunday, in July!