Oh dear Lord....

[mickeysaver]

So, you all know by now about the long drawn out saga/epic Jerry Springer meets Maury Povich feature length drama that is Gabby's family. Even I didn't see this one coming.

So, the baby came home from the hospital earlier today. She is doing fine now. Thank God!

F came home to find that her mother, B, Gabby's sister has gotten married yet again. She has known the guy for 6 years, but has been dating him for 3 whole weeks and decided to marry him. He is a relative of B's drug dealer, or so I have heard, and for the sake of our newest tale, we shall call him R. R told F that he wants to spend lots of time with Baby M and will babysit anytime. So, that is why F has been going over to baby daddy's house because she feels safer there than she does at her mom's.

Now, Gabby's mom has offered multiple times to let F move in with her, but F doesn't like the rules that will be applied if she moves in there. So, F finds it to be easier to live with baby daddy. She knows that he is a physically violent jerk but she doesn't want to do anything to violate her parole. Let's just all forget that Baby M is also at risk while F is in his house.

According to the good sister, last night, B got so wasted at Outback that she was thrown out of the place. She has been abusing Soma too. B passed out again today while the baby was there in the house with her and R, but R had to leave for work and that meant that Baby M was left alone in the house with her passed out grandmother. Gabby's mom's housekeeper was out with Gabby's mom today and when they got through shopping, , they went over to B's house to pick up the baby for the night, since F finally went to the doctor today, or at least that is what she said that she was doing today. Who knows.

It's just such a mess. Gabby is supposed to be home Thursday and we were going to work like heck all weekend to get this place as packed up as possible, but now, it looks like Gabby is headed back down to FL to try to have a one on one sit down with F and baby daddy to see if she can reason with them about Baby M and offer them both at the same time the option of us taking custody before their option is no longer an option, but a necessity.

Can I just say that it never ceases to amaze me how messed up this stuff gets. Oiy.

 

[glenpreece]

that's crazy, never a dull moment huh? Good Luck thoughts and prayers for you

 

[Mathfailure]

My heartfelt sympathies over this never ending series of bad choices.

Really, I would begin to think about lawyer time, and a real come to Jesus meeting with the mother about alternatives to her bad decisions. I do not know all the dynamics, but I certainly would understand if you two got a bit more proactive in removing this prescious little one from people who may love her but are clueless on the harm she is in because of their addictions.

Bless you

Kathleen

 

[mickeysaver]

Another can of worms has been opened. F's parole officer has called her in for a meeting and a drug test. It seems that they found out what's going on at her mom's house and that she has been staying at baby daddy's house. I was unaware of it, but it seems that baby daddy is also an ex-convict, so her staying either place is a violation of her parole.

 

[C&G'sMama]

Well it all stinks, but maybe someone in authority will get a clue and get her in to yours and Gabby's safe and loving arms. Where she'll have stability, safety, etc.??? keep us posted. Man...

 

[cm8]

Another can of worms has been opened. F's parole officer has called her in for a meeting and a drug test. It seems that they found out what's going on at her mom's house and that she has been staying at baby daddy's house. I was unaware of it, but it seems that baby daddy is also an ex-convict, so her staying either place is a violation of her parole.

,wow, it seems that she was trying to do the right thing and it is not working out for her at this time. She needs some help for herself and her daughter. Is she able to afford a hotel since she has no where to stay that is safe? I would recommend a shelter, but I would not feel safe there myself. F needs someone to look up to and at this point it seems that she has no one to model herself after. I know the things that she has done (from what you said) but have you and Gabby thought about taking them both in? I know that you both want to be able to provide and shelter and nurture her daughter, but maybe it could help put her on the right track too and you both get to have the precious daughter of your dreams. I like the idea of Gabby wanting to sit down and offer them the opportunity to get the baby before it is mandated. I hope that they both have the guts to go through with it

 

[mickeysaver]

Very positive update from the sunshine state!

I had a call from someone with DFACS this evening. F gave them my number. DFACS went to the B's house and got to see what a mess B is and told her that under no circumstances would she ever get Baby M if F has to give her up. F, Baby M and baby daddy all came over to B's place and the DFACS lady had a come to Jesus meeting of sorts with them. She told them that their fighting and neglectful behavior was not going to let them keep that baby. F immediately popped up with, "Oh, if you take the baby, let me tell you who to call." So, in some part of F's mind, she knows that this isn't working and isn't going to work. The DFACS lady said to send Gabby down there and she will do her best to mediate an agreement to give custody of Baby M to Gabby.

The DFACS lady says that she just doesn't feel that either F nor baby daddy has it in them to pull their stuff together and provide the stable healthy environment that Baby M needs. Which is not news, but at least we have DFACS on Baby M's side.

So, I am waiting for Gabby to call home from TX to tell her to get ready to head south because there is a baby down there that needs her to come take her away from the chaos. I am very excited and relieved about this turn of events.

I called my Dad to thank him for being a good Dad as I drove home from work. I told him about us taking the baby. I told him that at some point, once we can get Baby M adopted officially out to Gabby that I will present him with a grand baby. He said "No you won't." So, my Dad is still being a racist pig, but I expected as much.

Oh and as to taking in F, while I would entertain the idea, I know that much like the offer that Gabby's mom has made to F, that F would refuse to live with us. F likes living without rules. Gabby doesn't trust her because she lies all of the time. Gabby doesn't trust her because she steals. Gabby doesn't trust her because she feels that most likely she is using again. Gabby has major trust issues anyway, so F has kind of pooped in her nest on ever getting a move in with no rules offer from anyone who would be safe to live with.

 

[cm8]

Very positive update from the sunshine state!

I had a call from someone with DFACS this evening. F gave them my number. DFACS went to the B's house and got to see what a mess B is and told her that under no circumstances would she ever get Baby M if F has to give her up. F, Baby M and baby daddy all came over to B's place and the DFACS lady had a come to Jesus meeting of sorts with them. She told them that their fighting and neglectful behavior was not going to let them keep that baby. F immediately popped up with, "Oh, if you take the baby, let me tell you who to call." So, in some part of F's mind, she knows that this isn't working and isn't going to work. The DFACS lady said to send Gabby down there and she will do her best to mediate an agreement to give custody of Baby M to Gabby.

The DFACS lady says that she just doesn't feel that either F nor baby daddy has it in them to pull their stuff together and provide the stable healthy environment that Baby M needs. Which is not news, but at least we have DFACS on Baby M's side.

So, I am waiting for Gabby to call home from TX to tell her to get ready to head south because there is a baby down there that needs her to come take her away from the chaos. I am very excited and relieved about this turn of events.

I called my Dad to thank him for being a good Dad as I drove home from work. I told him about us taking the baby. I told him that at some point, once we can get Baby M adopted officially out to Gabby that I will present him with a grand baby. He said "No you won't." So, my Dad is still being a racist pig, but I expected as much.

Oh and as to taking in F, while I would entertain the idea, I know that much like the offer that Gabby's mom has made to F, that F would refuse to live with us. F likes living without rules. Gabby doesn't trust her because she lies all of the time. Gabby doesn't trust her because she steals. Gabby doesn't trust her because she feels that most likely she is using again. Gabby has major trust issues anyway, so F has kind of pooped in her nest on ever getting a move in with no rules offer from anyone who would be safe to live with.

Wow what wonderful news!!! I hope that you all get baby M ASAP. I hope that F knows how blessed and fortunate she is to have someone that wants to care and love her daughter the way she is not for what ever reason is not able to. I understand that F living with you all would not be a good thing now that you have explained it the way you have.

I am sorry to hear about your Dad not wanting anything to do with your daughter. I pray that it will not be a factor in how she is raised. Some people never change, but prayer does work and maybe just maybe his heart will melt when he sees her and feels so full of love and joy that he will not reject her but invite her in his life. Sounds like baby M has been through and needs lots of .

I can almost hear the excitement in your post and can almost envision you prancing around like a kid in a candy store. I would be crying and carrying on because of all the love in my heart I have to give, and knowing that it is not going to be wasted would make my heart burst with joy. Congratulations, your baby seems to be headed your way

 

[mickeysaver]

Yes, it is wonderful news! I am very happy about the light at the end of the tunnel. I actually slept last night, which was the first really sound night of sleep that I have had in months. Of course, I realize that it might be one of my last too.

As for my Dad, I hate it for him, because he is the one who will be losing out. While I would love to see his eyes light up with Baby M, like they used to light up for me when I was little and had him wrapped around my little finger, I am not holding my breath. I will do my best to pass on the best parts of my father's teachings to her, but I refuse to let him say anything to her that would ever harm her.

Gabby needs to stay home this weekend so that we can start doing the whole baby proofing thing. We need to pack up the collectables in our "Disney Room" and turn it into Baby M's room until we get moved to FL. There is lots of work to be done this weekend. Come Monday, I expect to be tired, but at least it's for a very good cause and Gabby will head to FL to hopefully get the baby.

 

[cm8]

Yes, it is wonderful news! I am very happy about the light at the end of the tunnel. I actually slept last night, which was the first really sound night of sleep that I have had in months. Of course, I realize that it might be one of my last too.

As for my Dad, I hate it for him, because he is the one who will be losing out. While I would love to see his eyes light up with Baby M, like they used to light up for me when I was little and had him wrapped around my little finger, I am not holding my breath. I will do my best to pass on the best parts of my father's teachings to her, but I refuse to let him say anything to her that would ever harm her.

Gabby needs to stay home this weekend so that we can start doing the whole baby proofing thing. We need to pack up the collectables in our "Disney Room" and turn it into Baby M's room until we get moved to FL. There is lots of work to be done this weekend. Come Monday, I expect to be tired, but at least it's for a very good cause and Gabby will head to FL to hopefully get the baby.

, so does that mean that you might have baby M by this coming Monday. I know you must be so excited!!!, well, that means that there will be no dissing for you this weekend (except for updates about baby m's gps locations) Hope to hear that she is finally in the arms of the ones who love her

 

[mickeysaver]

Still playing the stinking waiting game.

Found out tonight that F is about a month pregnant. The same baby daddy is behind this. She is going to have to terminate the pregnancy. The oncologist told her that it was most likely that the baby would be miscarried. If not, then even if she were to go to term it would most likely kill her and she would have a huge chance of the baby being stillborn anyway.

On the good side of things, Baby M turns 10 months old tomorrow and grows more beautiful every day.

 

[cm8]

Still playing the stinking waiting game.

Found out tonight that F is about a month pregnant. The same baby daddy is behind this. She is going to have to terminate the pregnancy. The oncologist told her that it was most likely that the baby would be miscarried. If not, then even if she were to go to term it would most likely kill her and she would have a huge chance of the baby being stillborn anyway.

On the good side of things, Baby M turns 10 months old tomorrow and grows more beautiful every day.

, wow, I hope that she (F) is okay. Baby M turns 10 months tomorrow, she looks so much bigger than 10 months! She is a beauty from the pictures you showed

PS thanks for the update. Sending prayers for F and the rest of the "family"

 

[mickeysaver]

Gabby sent me these pictures a couple of nights ago. How can you look at that grin and not just melt?

See what I mean about beautiful?

 

[KathyTX]

What a cutie! That baby has a gorgeous grin.

 

[cm8]

Gabby sent me these pictures a couple of nights ago. How can you look at that grin and not just melt?

See what I mean about beautiful?

Yep, she's gorgeous