Odd situations you find yourself in

[lucyanna girl]

Maybe I'm just a magnet for strange situations or maybe it's just having such a large family, but I seem to attract the oddies.

I handled this situation as best I could. Maybe you will have some better ideas as to what I should have done.

Our youngest DD is 15. I don't know how things are where you live but here a young teen considers themselves to be "going together" if they stand together at recess, maybe talk on the telephone 2 or 3 times a week, etc. Sarah and her friend have been to the movies once in the last year. They went with another "couple". The other boys mother drove them to an afternoon movie and then home. This was before Christmas last year (2005).
For their one year anniversary as a couple Sarah's friend asked her several times what she would like to do. She finally told him a movie.
They settled on a Saturday night. When the big night came her friend and his mother showed up at the appointed time. After a few moments of small talk his mother said she had to hurry as her DH and younger son were waiting in the car. I told DD to hurry and grab her sweater. The other mother then said "Well, you all have a really good time!"
I know my face must have shown the surprise I felt. A quick look around the room showed me DD's red face as well as her friends. Other mother then looked at me and said, "Oh, were WE supposed to take them?" To save DD any more embarrassment I said "oh no, I'll be happy to do it." Of course I didn't mind at all changing my plans to do this for DD. I did find it a rather odd situation.
I suppose in a way this was my fault as I did not call the other mother and check with her like I would have if it had been another girl's mother. He had asked her several times what she wanted to do and I wrongly assumed that meant his parents were taking them. Sarah had a friend staying at our house unexpectedly because her father had been hospitalized so she and I took them to the movies, went and did some Christmas shopping, picked them up and took them to Chilies for dinner after the show. I paid for everything except their popcorn. I didn't mind doing this either, it just seems strange to drop your son off at a girl's house and expect her mother to take them out, pick up the bill and take him home. I am not questioning the boy, he seemed to be as embarrassed as Sarah and certainly had no control over his parents.
I have mixed feelings about Sarah even having a "boy-friend". He is a very nice, extremely respectful young man. On the other hand, I really think she is too young. Of course, like I said earlier, for them going together doesn't mean a lot. They really act more like good buddies than anything, not much hand holding or anything else.
So, what would you have done in my shoes?

Penny

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I think you handled it very well. I would have reacted the same way. I would have also assumed that when the boy asked her to do something, that his parents would drive them. I guess the boy's mother was surprised too. You were very nice about it though.

 

[MagicalMom]

I'd say you handled it well. Here we do it different. One parent drops off, the other picks up. It's always planned in advanced who will be doing what. At this age, because they are young & broke (my DD is 15 too) I always make sure she has enough money to pay her own way.