Not Happy!

[Lisa1976]

Had a text message from my best friend last night (who was also going to be my maid of honour) to say that she has had a long chat with her dad (who as coming with her) and various other reasons that she is now not coming to Florida to be at my wedding.

Im extremely fed up and hurt.

Sorry just needed to moan.

Lisa

 

[LUVTGR]

I'm so sorry! That's a rotten thing to do. You don't want someone like that as your maid of honor, you want someone who is as excited as you are. Everything will be ok don't let her bother you.

 

[Teri Zolman]

Lisa I am very sorry for you. I am going through the same thing with my sister and I am very hurt. She only needs to come from California not over seas. Hopefully things will work out for you. Much pixie dust coming your way.

 

[140905]

Don't be sorry about moaning Lisa, that's terrible, I'm not surprised you feel hurt - I bet you have everything organised for her too!

Any bride would be annoyed even it was a year in advance but it's less than 3 months. Maybe this is just me but I would have been annoyed that she did it by text and didn't speak to me by phone or in person.

Hope you sort something out.

 

[Lisa1976]

I kinda knew it was coming as since she cancelled her original booking (she was messed about left right and centre by the travel company), i just expected her to book another, with Virgin or someone else just as reputable.

She had her dress on order but was paying for that herself so she is the one which will loose out, good job i hadn't bought her flowers.

My wedding party is small enough as it is with only my mum and dad and two friends from another forum so was looking forward to having my best friend there.

 

[StuartMI]

So sorry to hear

 

[sarahhrrsn]

I would just like to comment of Lisa1976 post.

I was the best friend and matron of honour to be. My reasons why I am no longer coming have all been explained to Lisa. It is not easy sorting plans out, as we live hours away from each other, so its email or text message or I call Lisa at home.

So, just rebook hey. My Dad is 70 and was paying for this for me. I have been told that I will get the refunds back, but according to a letter last night, it is doubtful. I don’t earn much money and my partner doesn’t either. We had sacrificed our joint holiday this year, for us to pay my Dad some back for the wedding.

I have been back on my medication for depression, and during the past few months, been having a really tough time, and have not even felt able to talk to my best friend about it. I used to be able to talk to her about anything, this has not been the case recently. If I am being honest with myself, the way I am feeling, it is major task to get up each day, and go to work. Spent the last weekend away, it was hell. Battleing alcohol, Panic Attacks, severe headaches, stomach cramps, suicidal thoughts and voices. So to go to America would be too much for me.

Lisa doesn’t realise how much she means to me, and how bad I feel letting her down. I have not slept for weeks now out of worry about this. But to travel all that way, and with all that cost and with the way I am feeling, would be impossible as I am problems with my head and jaw, and flying would cause added pressure and considerable pain.

As per Lisa’s email yesterday, ‘You are my best friend. just because you can't come in December doesn't mean i don't ever want to speak to you again’

If Lisa chooses to break ties with me over this, that is her choice and with the help from her friends on here, I am sure that will be the case

 

[Lisa1976]

I would like to apologise to you guys on the boards, this is between myself and Sarah.

Im not cutting ties with you, far from it, you are still my best friend but you can't expect me to just forget it, just need some time thats all.

You shouldn't have booked the holiday in the first place. Everything you have just said you knew when you booked it all, you dad, money, your health, all of it, so its not new.

Once again, im sorry to the people on the boards for having been dragged into this.

Lisa

 

[keswick1uk]

I would like to say something to each of you. Lisa try to obtian from your doctor if necessary more information on your friends illness before you make a full judgement and to Sarah, now you are on medication might you be better delaying the decision for a few weeks to let your medication start working?

Having had depression around me for years its not a simple illness and its not possible to say how a person will feel on a daily basis let alone some time in the future. I agree it would be for the best for you to take this matter now into private and good luck to you both for the wedding and to a full recovery in time.

 

[LUVTGR]

Lisa there is no need to apologize. You are upset and you have every right to be. I'm sorry Sarah is having so many problems in her life, but that does not excuse her from treating others the way she would like to be treated.If the situation were reversed she would be just as upset as you are. Hang in there and have a beautiful wedding day!
Sending you happy thoughts and pixie dust!

 

[Sharon/Mark]

Not wanted to jump on the band wagon - I think this is a private matter than none of us who aren't involved should start passing judgement on either party

My partners family (parents) can not attend and my other half is desperately unhappy but for me to do anything other than to support him 100% is monsterous no matter how I feel

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Yes this is a private matter but as a main support source for many Disney Brides we are always here to give support to all of our members and to give our own opinions of matters as we are told of them.

However in light that Sarah has chosen to join the forum in order to give her side to the story means that we now have to take her feelings into consideration as a member of the DIS and therefore we have to ensure that we are fair to both members.

Therefore I am locking this thread so that Sarah and Lisa can indeed keep this matter between the two of them without any further public input from other DIS members.