Please don't flame me either.
I'm with njcarita & imsayin. My DD will almost only eat PB & J, PB & Banana, PB & Raisin or just plain PB sandwiches at school. She is a peanutaholic! In my DD's preschool, they send home any food the child does not eat so the parents can see what they ate. Whenever I have packed anything else, the ENTIRE lunch comes home. I have even "bribed" her with her favorite snacks. The teachers won't let them eat the snacks until they have eaten most of their main meal. She won't eat it. I have tried everything in several different ways: cooked, uncooked, "hot", cold. My DD will eat a whole jar of PB with a spoon for her meal if you let her! Once in a blue moon, she will ask for mac & cheese as a "warm up" (they have a microwave at the preschool). Even then, she only takes a few bites. In the fall, she starts kindergarten. I do not think they have microwaves there. So for her it will be PB in some form 99 % of the time. Anyway, as much as I can empathize with the allergy thing, why does that mean that children like my DD should be forced to starve at school? I don't want to think of how hard it would be if I had to tell her (or any other 5 year old) "Sorry honey, you are not allowed to eat for the next 5 days during the majority of your waking hours because 1 child has an allergy. You just sit there & watch that 1 kid eat. No you can't have anything to drink either, some kid might be allergic to that too."
As a mother, I would rather see my child eat something rather than nothing - even if that means PB! I don't even stop her from eating bananas. They make me nauseas (even the smell of them still in the peel!!) & I can not eat them. That doesn't mean my DD is not allowed to eat them. I encourage her to eat them.