But what I don't understand is, why was the phone not answered the first time and the dad told nicely.......we are busy....eating watching a movie......whatever......I'll have him call you back as soon as we get home.
The less controversy for the child the better.
Actually, I think that boom did say that the child said this to the father when he called while they were out, and the father kept talking. So, he ignored what the kid said and kept talking even though it was inconvenient for everyone else. I am not sure if that is fair either.
So, let's say the mother answers the cellphone when they are in a restaurant and says "We are out to dinner, I will have him call you back later", does the father then have the right to go back to court and say "She is limiting my access to my son"? Because based on most divorced people I know, that is exactly what might happen. Those of you who have had parents who had "good" divorces are lucky.
And truthfully, I don't think the father has the right to call continuously, send e-mails and so forth if he doesn't get an immediate response. I think he has the right to expect a response within a reasonable period of time...reasonable being within a couple of hours, but not necessarily a few minutes.
You know boom, you married a woman with a child, so there will be times when you are going to have to spend some money and do stuff
for the good of the childwhich won't be "fair". I also think you and the wife might be more cognizant of the fact that if you are going out, have DSS call his dad before you go out, let him know you are going to be out for a while and that his DS wanted to talk to him beforehand so he wouldn't miss the call. For example, "Hi Bill, this is Mrs.Boom. We're going to be going out in a few minutes but little Billy wanted to talk to you, so I am going to put him on. Also, what time is good for us to call you up until tonight? 10 PM. Good. So if we get home before 10PM I'll have Billy call you to say goodnight, OK? In return, I'd ask that you not call us for the next couple of hours unless God forbid there is an emergency so we can have dinner. Now here's Billy". Now, if he then calls in a 1/2 hour with a non-emergent thing, then you'll know he's just breaking them off on you. Perhaps part of the reason he is being annoying is because he feels like he is losing control. And yes, he just started the calling thing, and yes he maybe has been an annoying PIA and yes to all the other annoyances and irritations about him that you can post about...the bottom line is that you have to deal with the man for the rest of your life, so you may as well try to deal with him in a civil manner. Yes it's a pain to have to always think about this 3rd party, but it is what it is. Hopefully he will begin understand that you are not trying to push him out, but that all of you need to work together for everyone's convenience and for the good of the child, this will settle out a bit.
A cell phone...well, if I got a cell phone for a 6 year old he wouldn't be carrying it. I would be keeping track of it and carrying it when we went out. I don't necessarily agree with the fact that when a cell phone rings we need to answer it, nor do I agree with the fact that a parent can't wait a bit to speak to their child. We do not all need to be completely accessible all the time. I am sorry, but if you do divorce, you need to get used to the idea that there may be moments in your life when your child will not be accessible to you. It's part of life.
Of course boom, I am saying all this assuming that your wife does not expect immediate access at all times to her son when he is with his father.
And I agree that your posting of these kinds of things seems to get a certain group of people up in arms boom, and I don't know why. To me, it just seems like you are asking questions because you are in a situation that is new to you. You don't really strike me as the devil incarnate.
