Non-custodial parent phone calls to children

[MosMom]

#134 is only you saying he won't pay when you haven't even given him the chance and asked! You completely shot down the idea and I can tell you aren't even considering it when it is the BEST solution for all parties involved...even though it may cost you $30/month.

 

[boomhauer]

#134 is only you saying he won't pay when you haven't even given him the chance and asked!

And as I stated, he doesn't pay for anything extra. He pays child support.

 

[bananiem]

And I thank you.

Show of hands - How many DIS members are mind readers? I've lost count.

What's the question about mind readers about? Who's mind are we supposed to be reading?

 

[boomhauer]

#134 is only you saying he won't pay when you haven't even given him the chance and asked! You completely shot down the idea and I can tell you aren't even considering it when it is the BEST solution for all parties involved...even though it may cost you $30/month.

Well of course you can tell.

 

[LadyShiva]

I'm not emotionally involved. Let the dad talk to the kid when he calls and don't make a mountain out of a molehill. Really. He has cited ONE time when it got out of hand and bio dad called too many times (CPR class) but it is the day to day calling that is really annoying him. Get over it.

I think the emotional blackmail that was being spouted (if you don't do what I say you'll be a horrible father) is over the top.

It's one thing to bring up questions for someone to think of, but to judge them on the basis of someone in your past's faults is kinda squirrely!

Brandie

 

[MosMom]

You haven't asked. If it involves being able to talk to his son daily without you getting in the way he may happily pay half. You are so bullheaded but you wonder why your posts get nowhere here. I also will happily stand by your decision to stop posting these types of threads constantly.

 

[boomhauer]

What's the question about mind readers about? Who's mind are we supposed to be reading?

Look back at all the judgemental posts stating how much is known about me or how they knew I would say this, or knew I would do that.

 

[boomhauer]

You haven't asked. If it involves being able to talk to his son daily without you getting in the way he may happily pay half. You are so bullheaded but you wonder why your posts get nowhere here. I also will happily stand by your decision to stop posting these types of threads constantly.

Noone's forcing you to reply.

 

[MosMom]

Noone is asking you to post! You did ask for opinions though by posting so take what you get or quit posting.

 

[boomhauer]

Noone is asking you to post!

OK then.

 

[bananiem]

Look back at all the judgemental posts stating how much is known about me or how they knew I would say this, or knew I would do that.

I don't want to read all the other posts and could give a rat's patootie about what they said about you or what they said you'd say.
I gave you a suggestion to solve your problem. You glazed over it and said something totally off beat to stir the pot. If you wanted a solution you would have said, "Oh! That'll work! Thanks!"

 

[boomhauer]

Noone is asking you to post! You did ask for opinions though by posting so take what you get or quit posting.

I love this philosophy. Post, BUT ONLY if you are willing to agree with every single response you receive.

Surely, I can't be the only one who sees the lunacy in that.

 

[boomhauer]

If you wanted a solution you would have said, "Oh! That'll work! Thanks!"

I did say that - To the opinions I thought were good ideas.

Is there some rule that I have to agree with every reply on a thread I start? If so, please copy and paste because I must have missed it.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

"Ever-so-little" issues become great big giant issues when you perch them on top of an oversized drama llama.

You rang?

 

[Kath2003]

Boom, the problem is you sit here and want answers, yet no one's response is good enough. People have already told you what you need to know:

• It is perfectly reasonable for your step-son's father to talk to him on a daily basis
• It is not acceptable for your step-son's father to expect you to drop everything to facilitate this
• If you want a long-term solution to the problem, your wife needs to sit down with her son's father and discuss their frustrations and come to a reasonable compromise
• If you want a short-term solution, buy the cell phone, even if you have to pay for it

 

[MosMom]

Here is my last piece of advice: Stop going to Disney 3X or more a year so you can afford a $19.95 cell phone and a monthly card of 90 minutes for $19.95. An investment of $20 a month. If your son goes over the minutes with his dad, dad can pay for more or that is it for the month. $240 a year to not have dad calling YOUR phone. It might be cheaper to get a $14 basic landline too! Give your stepson a way to have free access to his dad. Itzaz simple az dat!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

I love this philosophy. Post, BUT ONLY if you are willing to agree with every single response you receive.

Surely, I can't be the only one who sees the lunacy in that.

She didn't say you had to agree with every single response, she said take what you get.

 

[boomhauer]

Boom, the problem is you sit here and want answers, yet no one's response is good enough. People have already told you what you need to know:

• It is perfectly reasonable for your step-son's father to talk to him on a daily basis
• It is not acceptable for your step-son's father to expect you to drop everything to facilitate this
• If you want a long-term solution to the problem, your wife needs to sit down with her son's father and discuss their frustrations and come to a reasonable compromise
• If you want a short-term solution, buy the cell phone, even if you have to pay for it

Who said I wasn't listening to that advice? This is what I don't understand. I don't know exactly what is gonna happen. My wife has to talk to the father and they have to work it out.

At this point, I'm only trying (stupidly) to defend myself.

 

[crazyme5kids]

I don't think him calling everyday is excessive. I do think calling repeatedly asking where your wife is or why she isn't answering the phone is excessive. A simple have my son call me later is all that is necessary.

I think the idea of calling at bedtime is a good one. If that doesn't work, maybe an early morning before school call should be made to his dad.

 

[SereneOne]

*sigh*

No matter what a stepparent does or does not do they are ALWAYS wrong.


BTDT for over thirteen years custodial dealing with a borderline personality disorder narcissistic addict...

I just find it astounding how the moment one becomes a stepparent they lose ALL rights, but yet people outside the family think they have a say in it all and make assumptions.

I think calling in the evening is sufficient...when he gets older a cell phone would be an excellent idea. If it was taken to court the constant calling would not be allowed.

Best Wishes to you and your family.