*Nevermind*Fired over a holiday party?

[Tinkerbelle9980]

Never mind, DH just came home for a late lunch with a solution. Apparently when the HR department found out the location they nixed it. Apparently when they did something similar a few years ago some one was pulled over for a DWI. So now they are having it at a local place after work so they can drink and it's their own risk. Ugh...I knew I should have waited to ask. Thank you for the responses though, I really appreciate them!

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

You are not asking the right question. If you defy the CEO over something like this, your time is short. They will find a reason to fire you.

 

[FireDancer]

You are not asking the right question. If you defy the CEO over something like this, your time is short. They will find a reason to fire you.

Ding ding ding.

They might not be able to fire you for not attending the party but if you are perceived as not being a team player they will find a reason to get rid of you. I'd just suck it up and go, objections and all.

 

[Disney Doll]

If the CEO feels it is a team-building event and should be attended, then your DH should attend.

I'm not sure what his moral objection is to a holiday party at a colleague's home???Does he not drink alcohol? If so, then he can just drink soft drinks. Does he have an issue with the person who owns the home where the party will be? Well, can he put it aside for a couple of hours? If the CEO is condoning leaving during work hours to attend, then I don't think your DH needs to worry about what if something happens at work...I am quite sure that someone would know how to reach the management team in the unlikely event of a major catastrophe at work.

Realistically, it's a holiday party...you're not deciding whetehr to pull the plug on a loved one. Suck it up for a couple of hours and go.

 

[npmommie]

Can a person be fired over not wanting to attend a holiday party? The situation is this... a management only party held at a private residence during work hours with alcohol. Dh does not feel it is appropriate to have a party like this during work hours. Roughly 90% of attendees will be women who just want to not have to work. The CEO feels it is a team building experience and should be attended. DH feels that a coworker's house is not an appropriate venue and it should be in a public place or at the office. What if they are needed at the office among other things? He says it has been implied that you will be let go if you do not attend. Is that even legal? I feel so bad for him because it is a moral objection that he shouldn't have.

why are 90% of the attendees women? are 90% of the employees women?
why not just make an appearance and bow out somehow. he doesn't have to drink alcohol, they can't force that on him!
I don't know if its legal to fire him for not attending, but if the ceo wants to fire him he will find another reason.
i say go, don't drink, leave as soon as the opportunity arises.

 

[LuLuO]

Can a person be fired over not wanting to attend a holiday party? The situation is this... a management only party held at a private residence during work hours with alcohol. Dh does not feel it is appropriate to have a party like this during work hours. Roughly 90% of attendees will be women who just want to not have to work. The CEO feels it is a team building experience and should be attended. DH feels that a coworker's house is not an appropriate venue and it should be in a public place or at the office. What if they are needed at the office among other things? He says it has been implied that you will be let go if you do not attend. Is that even legal? I feel so bad for him because it is a moral objection that he shouldn't have.

I can only post my experience with this, but I used to work for a company that required all of us to attend a holiday party that was after work hours and at a location that was a good distance away from my usual workplace. If we didn't attend it would result in disciplinary action. I was an hourly employee at the time and told them that if they were going to require me to attend then they would have to pay me for my time and mileage. They wound up paying all of the hourly employees to attend and reimbursed for mileage if the place was a certain distance away from your regular work location.

I don't know if I could have put up a stink like that if the party had been during regular work hours. I don't think the situation you are describing is appropriate, but I don't know if it is illegal.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

No, you shouldn't be fired for not attending a party. On the other hand it seems a little silly to make a big deal out of this and not go. If he doesn't want to have alcohol, then don't drink, it's unnecessary to make this a morality issue.

 

[Acklander]

If the CEO feels it's a team building experience, then you go. Some bosses like to have social occasions as a way to bring a team together in a non work situation. If that type of thing bothers your husband then the company he works for probably isn't a good fit for him. There are plenty of companies out there that frown on any outside activities during work hours. Maybe he'd prefer to work for one of those type companies instead.

 

[LuLuO]

I can only post my experience with this, but I used to work for a company that required all of us to attend a holiday party that was after work hours and at a location that was a good distance away from my usual workplace. If we didn't attend it would result in disciplinary action. I was an hourly employee at the time and told them that if they were going to require me to attend then they would have to pay me for my time and mileage. They wound up paying all of the hourly employees to attend and reimbursed for mileage if the place was a certain distance away from your regular work location.

I don't know if I could have put up a stink like that if the party had been during regular work hours. I don't think the situation you are describing is appropriate, but I don't know if it is illegal.

I wanted to add that though it seems petty, I put up a fight because that company was not calculating pay correctly, constantly shorting up on our pay, not keeping records, not paying us overtime and not withholding taxes properly. The place was a mess. If they weren't such scammers, I never would have forced them to pay us for attending the party.

 

[Hannathy]

Ding ding ding.

They might not be able to fire you for not attending the party but if you are perceived as not being a team player they will find a reason to get rid of you. I'd just suck it up and go, objections and all.

100% correct and with things the way they are all over the country NOW is not the time I would be rocking the boat about anything. I'd be there with my red tie on!

 

[Dax]

I agree, just go, suck it up, pretend for a while, then try to get out as early as possible..

Can they fire you for not coming to the party, NO. Can they make your life at work miserable afterwards and either FIND a way to fire you, or make you want to just quit...YES!

Just go, put on a smiley face, drink a few Pepsi's, eat some snacks and just add it to the crappy day at work column..LOL

 

[NMAmy]

Dh does not feel it is appropriate to have a party like this during work hours.

The CEO gets to make that call, not your husband. Getting together socially can help bring people together.

Roughly 90% of attendees will be women who just want to not have to work.

I don't understand what that means. As in they'd rather attend a party than work or they just don't want to work at all? Most people, male or female, would rather attend a party than work, I think.

 

[hereyago]

Since it's during work hours, it would be a good idea to go. As for the drinking, hope no one gets drunk and leaves and drives "on the clock".

 

[GoofyforDisney3]

I'm thinking there is more to this than attending a holiday party. Do you not celebrate Christmas and that makes your husband uncomfortable? Is it the drinking? Has there been an issue with inappropriate behavior with the "hostess" or another female employee that will be in attendance? Most people wouldn't fuss to much about getting paid to have a social visit with co workers on company time unless something else is wrong.

 

[sparklynails23]

I'm sure one of those lazy, drunk management chicks won't be trying to corner him in the bathroom and sexually harass him. Relax. It's one day. I hope that you are not giving him a hard time about attending a required work function.

 

[Allison]

If the CEO feels it is a team-building event and should be attended, then your DH should attend.

I'm not sure what his moral objection is to a holiday party at a colleague's home???Does he not drink alcohol? If so, then he can just drink soft drinks. Does he have an issue with the person who owns the home where the party will be? Well, can he put it aside for a couple of hours? If the CEO is condoning leaving during work hours to attend, then I don't think your DH needs to worry about what if something happens at work...I am quite sure that someone would know how to reach the management team in the unlikely event of a major catastrophe at work.

Realistically, it's a holiday party...you're not deciding whetehr to pull the plug on a loved one. Suck it up for a couple of hours and go.

I don't get it either.

 

[Kathi OD]

I agree that the CEO gets to make the call on the party. However, if I were the CEO, there wouldn't be any alcohol served at a work party during work hours. That's just leaving the company open for a possible lawsuit.

 

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[RadioNate]

This one leaves me shaking my head. There is a moral obligation to attending a holiday social function at the bosses house? No one is going to pour alcohol down your throat if you attend. If having alcohol present is an 'issue' then you are working for the wrong company. Lots and lots and lots of times social functions like this are part of business.

My old employer had "beer friday" where the boss brought in kegs. While I think THAT was slightly inappropriate, drinks at a holiday party, not so much.

Most people would be thrilled to have their company parties during work hours instead of giving up an evening unpaid to attend the party. Of course DH's last employer had some pretty awesome holiday parties so people liked to attend and my former employer did too. Heck both of them gave out bottles of alcohol as "awards."

 

[okeydokey]

What a nice idea of the boss to have the party during work hours instead of making people stay after work. I honestly can't think of a reason that someone would object to this unless there was more to the story.

It sounds like your DH isn't a good fit with this company.