I'm a long-time DIS-er, and frequently lurk & sometimes post on the Coping & Compassion Board. Everyone here is soooo supportive & wonderful to help, and to just listen sometimes. I almost didn't want to post here, because there are so many others with much much worse situations than mine, but I'm just really having a down day. My mom was diagnosed with ******l (DIS will block it out so I'll go with V for now) last week, and we just came from her first oncology appointment. It wasn't any better or any worse than we suspected, but it's just so real now. She does have a cancerous tumor in her V that has grown since her last exam 4 weeks ago. He said V cancer after a total hysterectomy is uncommon. She had a full hysterectomy 22 year ago due to pre-cancerous cells in her cervix. She also had a small bout with breast cancer 5 years ago, they got it all with just a lumpectomy & it hasn't been back. The good news is that her cat scan seems good - they only saw the cancer in the V. He ordered a PET scan to get more definitive answers. If it hasn't spread, they will discuss radiation & chemo vs. surgery. I know my mom is practical & would opt for the surgery, but after hearing that it will not only involve losing most of her V but also parts of her colon & rectum, possibly resulting in a bag, she doesn't know what to do. She's now having to face the reality that her life is going to have some major, unpleasant changes. So I guess we wait til we get the PET scan results, and take it from there. I just needed to type it all out to get it straight in my head. If anyone is the praying type, if you have room for one more, could you send one my mom's way? Thanks. The DIS is a great place to vent when it feels like no one else understands. Hugs & positive thoughts to all of you out there experiencing similar things.