need some good vibes and prayers...OT a bit

[littleladykaty]

My DF's ex is now wanting to move the kids an hour away and she doesn't see how that will effect his relationship with them...this is very frustrating for us and he will be devastated not to be with his kids as often as he has been. Now we may have to go to court which we never wanted and really can't afford at the moment...she only wants to move b/c she can't stand up to her parents and they won't quit spoiling the kids so won't behave for her. This move is pure selfishness on her part.

we are just aching over it. DF is afriad that b/c he is the dad his rights to the kids do not measure up to hers as their mom, even though he goes above and beyond in being a good dad and a good ex husband. I don't know what to do and sort of need to stay out of it, but when he hurts I hurt. And I love those kids too.

just send prayers out that this woman will see how wrong and selfish this move would be. There are a lot of places she could go to be away from her parents and not move them so far that we are taken out of the picture aside from weekends.

this just sucks so much

 

[Jax]

I am sorry to hear about what you and your DF are going through.

I am sending all the pixie dust I have your way

Hang in there I am sure it will work out.

 

[Janet2k]

Littleladykaty, <<hugs>> to you, your DF, and the families involved. I hope a resolution can be reached that is acceptable to all.

 

[Cinderella2006]

I am so sorry to hear that. It is very hard when people split when they have children. I am a step mum and i can relate to what you are saying. We have had many problems in the past; i wont bore you with the details but i am very concerned for my step sons well-being. It is very sad when a man has to go to court to get rights over his children. We are in the process of taking it to court; i wanted to avoid this at all costs; being dragged through the courts myself as a child i know what it is like but there is no alternative. It is a shame that the mother is like that; being a mother myself, i want the best for my child. I would never put barriers between my partner and son. I cant understand these women, my partner has supported his son from day one and we never have a quiet life. My step son cries his eyes out everytime we have to take him back, there are many occasions when we are stopped from seeing him, phone calls at 2am in the morning when her and her husband are drunk and have had an arguement, attitude everytime we need to speak. It is pathetic. Well i have babbled on for too long but i have an idea on what you are going through. We live 30 mins from my step son but if he needs us, we will be there in a flash!

 

[littleladykaty]

thanks all...it is hard...their mom isn't a bad mom, she's just very impulsive. Her parents ARE overbearing and the kids are learning that they can get whatever they want from Grandma and Grandpa. I do feel for her, but moving them an hour away from us would remove us from their daily lives...and when that happens, everything changes. My DF and his ex did not grow up as children of divorce. I did...I was dragged through court, horrilbe custody battle...it changed me. I do not want that for my DF's kids, and neither of them really know what taking one parent out of the daily picture does. It's so awful. I guess this is just really touching a lot of sensitive spots for me and it's really got me down. I want to be more supportive for my DF but I felt totally floored today...just drained completely. It doesn't help that in a moment of spite his ex brought up that she "heard" that I was in an abusive relationship before DF and that I had an eating disorder...and maybe that wasn't so good for the kids. Now she knows full well that all she heard was gossip, but to even say something like is so hateful and totally uncalled for and it makes me want to hate her, but I can't b/c that is not good for the kids and I don't ever want them to be in the middle. They didn't ask for this.

this sucks. being a step mom is wicked hard...we have no rights to kids that we love, who love us...makes a girl feel really out of control.

thanks for the support...just feeling blue today...I'm sure they will work it all out.