Hi guys! I'm a longtime member of these boards, unfortunately wanted to post this under a different name for various reasons. Anyway, a little about myself then to my issue. I'm a divorced mother to my DD8, tried the dating thing for about 2 years and decided to take a break. I have never been in any type of relationship with another female, even as a teen, never experimented, not even a kiss. I was raised very religiously, grandfather is a preacher. Never had a problem with gay friends, not intolerant of anyone really, just wasn't ever my "thing".
Anyway, I met this woman about a year ago through her cousin who is my friend, she is openly gay, we became fast friends, eventually best friends, my DD loves her, all my friends like her, etc. From the time we met, she had a crush on me and didn't hide it, lol. But she knew I was straight. It was never an issue, didn't bother me at all, we got really close. Well, a few months ago, I realized that I was fighting these feelings that I had for her and finally told her. One thing lead to another, we got physical, yada yada, and pretty much we have been together since.
She has told me that she doesn't mind if I date other people (guys) because she understands that this is all new to me etc, I can't get her to understand that I don't want to date anyone else. I really don't think she means it though, because the other night we were watching a movie and an ex of mine, who I'm still friends with, called just to talk and she got really jealous.
We tell people that we are just friends, but all of our friends know that we have been intimate and some have even asked why we aren't exclusively dating. She says that she doesn't want things to get confusing for me and my DD so it's best to just say we are friends. We spend the night together almost nightly. We took my DD to the movies and she sat in between us and grabbed our hands and made us hold them in her lap, it was really cute! She has seen us kiss, although my friend doesn't like that, it doesn't bother me, or DD. DD has asked us if we are gonna get married, she asked me that about the last 3 BFs I had too.
My friends family love me and DD, they all pretty much know that we are basically together, her parents have even asked her how serious we are she tells them we are just BFFs but yes, we've been intimate.
So I guess my issue is, what is the problem??? I want to get serious, she doesn't, she tells me to date other people but she's not (and I would be really pissed if she did) but she gets mad if I talk to anyone else, she says she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, but that's a worry about any freindship/relationship right? She says she doesn't want to make things complicated for me with my family or job or ex husband, I say I don't care what anyone else thinks, she doesn't make things complicated for me, any problem people may have is their problem not mine/ours. She says she doesn't want to confuse my DD, I doubt there will be any confusion.
So, what do you guys think?
Anyway, I met this woman about a year ago through her cousin who is my friend, she is openly gay, we became fast friends, eventually best friends, my DD loves her, all my friends like her, etc. From the time we met, she had a crush on me and didn't hide it, lol. But she knew I was straight. It was never an issue, didn't bother me at all, we got really close. Well, a few months ago, I realized that I was fighting these feelings that I had for her and finally told her. One thing lead to another, we got physical, yada yada, and pretty much we have been together since.
She has told me that she doesn't mind if I date other people (guys) because she understands that this is all new to me etc, I can't get her to understand that I don't want to date anyone else. I really don't think she means it though, because the other night we were watching a movie and an ex of mine, who I'm still friends with, called just to talk and she got really jealous.
We tell people that we are just friends, but all of our friends know that we have been intimate and some have even asked why we aren't exclusively dating. She says that she doesn't want things to get confusing for me and my DD so it's best to just say we are friends. We spend the night together almost nightly. We took my DD to the movies and she sat in between us and grabbed our hands and made us hold them in her lap, it was really cute! She has seen us kiss, although my friend doesn't like that, it doesn't bother me, or DD. DD has asked us if we are gonna get married, she asked me that about the last 3 BFs I had too.
My friends family love me and DD, they all pretty much know that we are basically together, her parents have even asked her how serious we are she tells them we are just BFFs but yes, we've been intimate.
So I guess my issue is, what is the problem??? I want to get serious, she doesn't, she tells me to date other people but she's not (and I would be really pissed if she did) but she gets mad if I talk to anyone else, she says she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, but that's a worry about any freindship/relationship right? She says she doesn't want to make things complicated for me with my family or job or ex husband, I say I don't care what anyone else thinks, she doesn't make things complicated for me, any problem people may have is their problem not mine/ours. She says she doesn't want to confuse my DD, I doubt there will be any confusion.
So, what do you guys think?
I would also be worried that me being your first relationship that eventually you start thinking that maybe you jumped into this too soon. I guess I would also want you to make sure and probably see other people. Then again, I am far from a jealous type so for me that works. 
