Need Gift Idea!

[dbelmo]

DH and I are invited to a wedding this Saturday. Here are the details.....
this is a second marriage for both of them, they moved in together probably 8-10 months ago, now they are preggers and getting married. The invite specifically said Wedding Luncheon and NO GIFTS PLEASE.

Here is my problem--- I can not go there empty handed, I understand that the requested no gifts, but really I can not do that.

SO budget board friends what should DH & I get the newlyweds?

TIA
dbelmo

 

[dawnbu40]

I would tuck a gift card inside a pretty card. You could give them one to their favorite restaurant or store.

 

[carj]

I would write them a nice letter and include it with a nice card. I am assuming that you are close with this couple and you could think of some lovely things to say about them and your hopes and dreams for their future together. You could tuck a gift card in there is you want.

I really and truly believe that when someone asks for "no gifts" that you should honor their wishes. Maybe they have strong feelings about this. Perhaps they want to make sure that those closest to them do not feel like they should provide another gift for a second marriage? Perhaps they feel as if by finding their spouse and now with the upcoming birth of their child, they have all the blessings that they feel they want. Perhaps the burden of writing thank you notes was something that they want to avoid. Whatever their reasons, they have made their desires clear.

I am sure that you have the best of intentions but if you do the thing that they specifically asked you NOT to do, then you are ignoring their wishes on what should be their day.

 

[Piecey]

i think i'd do gift certificates for babysitting.

It's not technically a gift [so they wouldn't feel guilty about you spending money] and it's something they'll definitely appreciate.

 

[pearlieq]

No gift. Walk in with a nice card in your hands. Write a lovely note in it and wish them well.

 

[Belle5]

I went to a wedding (2nd marriage for both) last summer and they requested NO GIFTS--our presence was present enough. However, the reality of the situation was that most folks put a gift card into their card. I think no one likes to go to these events empty-handed--yet they don't want to be CONSPICUOUS about a gift--so a gift card slipped into a wedding card seems discreet.

 

[wall*e2008]

A gift card to a favorite restaurant or store inside the card.

 

[StitchFanZ]

Do they have a favorite charity or group they support? What about making a donation in honor of them and putting a personal note in the card letting them know that this was how you honored thier wish.

 

[natnelliesmom]

If they asked for no gifts, then you should honor that request. Bring a card with a special sentiment written inside for them to read and enjoy.

Just wait till the baby is born and get them an extra special gift for the child. This will cover your feelings of obligation and put your money where they would probably prefer it to go at this point!

-Sarah

 

[horseshowmom]

I would tuck a gift card inside a pretty card. You could give them one to their favorite restaurant or store.

That's what I would do too.

 

[ontariomonkey]

I personally would not bring a gift. If you feel that you must, I would either give a date-night type gift card (dinner, movie or whatever), or make a donation to charity in their name.

 

[micheleq]

If they asked for no gifts, then you should honor that request. Bring a card with a special sentiment written inside for them to read and enjoy.

Just wait till the baby is born and get them an extra special gift for the child. This will cover your feelings of obligation and put your money where they would probably prefer it to go at this point!

-Sarah

I agree. We recently attended a friend's second wedding and they were adamant about no gifts. A beautiful card would be appreciated.

When the baby is born, you can buy them something special for the child, a gift cert. to Babies R Us, or a check to go toward the baby's college fund.

 

[Justsyd2]

I agree with the OP. I would never go to a wedding empty handed. I'd tuck a restaurant gift card inside a nice wedding card.