Need Advice/Support on How to Deal with my Mother

[Rora]

Wishing on a Star- thanks for being honest. I feel like this is a giant decision that has really hit me fast. I know no one can tell me what to do/what's right but I certainly wish someone could!

I just can't imagine my life without this man.

 

[HeatherH]

Okay, you JUST got married, you are about to take off on your honeymoon, and you're already worried about the future of your marriage? That is truly sad, this should be such a happy time for you.

Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. I know you love your husband to death, and want him to be happy, but in order for this to work you BOTH have to be happy.

If you didn't do pre-marital counseling...heck, even if you DID...I highly recommend seeing a counselor when you return from your honeymoon, to help you both work through these issues...his career choices and your controlling mother.

The first year of marriage is tough enough...you don't want to start out with so much hanging over you. You two need to COMMUNICATE and learn to work things out now.

Good luck to you both. And PLEASE, try very hard to put all this aside while you enjoy your honeymoon. I hope you are going someplace where you both can relax and remember why you got married in the first place.

 

[OceanAnnie]

You are going through an awful lot right now. The biggest issue (outside of your challenges) I see is one of boundaries. So many have been crossed. I agree with pps, especially TMM about closing down information. Shut it all down. It isn't helpful for your mother to spout off to any and everyone. I'm sure she means well, in her way but it isn't good for the relationships.

One day at a time. Deep breaths. Work it through for yourself and with your DH. Try to enjoy your honeymoon!

 

[Rora]

Thanks everyone.. I really do need to just try to let this go for the remainder of our Disney MOON- it's just so on my mind. UGH.

Thanks again.