my son got the cops called on him

[bambii]

my son 10 was playing at our playground at our apartment..

and these two kids ( i will call them kid 1 and kid 2) took my son scooter away started to call him names and then throw rocks at him... so my son told me and his dad about it so my husband went down to find out what is going on and those kids took off...

then about an hour later there was a knock at the door. and the boy upstairs says that kids 1, grandma wants to talk to us.. so we go down stairs.. .. and she says that she called the cops.. which is fine so we ALL stand outside for about an hour still no cops so my husband called the cops to see what is going on. come to find out no call was ever made..

my husband told grandma of boy 1 that his just called the police and grandmas boyfriend takes off

grandma, stated that he has a warrant out and didnt want to be there when the cops arrive



two cop cars speed through the parking lot ... they talked to my son and then to the other to kids

this is what the cops told my son if you are at the playground and you see kid 1 or 2 just go home

some how that is not right so that made my husband mad.

.. the cops started yelling a my husband ..my husband asked the cops why are you punishing my kid, is there anything more you can do?... the cops said they were just small pebbles ..my husband said well did you look at the rocks.. the cops said no.. and the cops then says to my husband do you and i have a problem cause i can take you in...

the cops said that throwing rocks is not an assult but if the kid had a bat.. it would be a different story



come to find out kid 1 has broken like 5 windows in our building

chased a kid with a bat..

has throwing rocks before at kids

he is the apartment bully..



I go down to take my kids to the bus and someone wrote on our mailbox **** you in marker. . i took pictures of it


kid 1 is 12
kid 2 is 8
and my son is 10..

 

[TinklednPants]

OK , it's Monday morning and all but I read that three times and am still confused.

 

[Robinrs]

Time to move....

 

[saratogadreamin09]

looks like you have some bullies in your neighborhood

 

[chesterpdt186]

Hmm so if throwing rocks is not illegal, then well save up some rocks and pelt the kid 1 from time to time. Just rember the officers names, when you get arrested.

 

[starwood]

Sounds like you need a restraining order.

 

[DisneyMomOK]

Next time grandma's bf is there, make an anonymous call to police. Maybe, if he gets arrested, the whole crew will move. (I am making this assumption, based on the possibility bf might be contributing towards rent.)

 

[Stitchfans]

Next time grandma's bf is there, make an anonymous call to police. Maybe, if he gets arrested, the whole crew will move. (I am making this assumption, based on the possibility bf might be contributing towards rent.)

surprised I didn't think of this myself.

 

[minniecarousel]

Time to move....

ditto

 

[OceanAnnie]

my son 10 was playing at our playground at our apartment..

and these two kids ( i will call them kid 1 and kid 2) took my son scooter away started to call him names and then throw rocks at him... so my son told me and his dad about it so my husband went down to find out what is going on and those kids took off...

then about an hour later there was a knock at the door. and the boy upstairs says that kids 1, grandma wants to talk to us.. so we go down stairs.. .. and she says that she called the cops.. which is fine so we ALL stand outside for about an hour still no cops so my husband called the cops to see what is going on. come to find out no call was ever made..

my husband told grandma of boy 1 that his just called the police and grandmas boyfriend takes off

grandma, stated that he has a warrant out and didnt want to be there when the cops arrive



two cop cars speed through the parking lot ... they talked to my son and then to the other to kids

this is what the cops told my son if you are at the playground and you see kid 1 or 2 just go home

some how that is not right so that made my husband mad.

.. the cops started yelling a my husband ..my husband asked the cops why are you punishing my kid, is there anything more you can do?... the cops said they were just small pebbles ..my husband said well did you look at the rocks.. the cops said no.. and the cops then says to my husband do you and i have a problem cause i can take you in...

the cops said that throwing rocks is not an assult but if the kid had a bat.. it would be a different story



come to find out kid 1 has broken like 5 windows in our building

chased a kid with a bat..

has throwing rocks before at kids

he is the apartment bully..



I go down to take my kids to the bus and someone wrote on our mailbox **** you in marker. . i took pictures of it


kid 1 is 12
kid 2 is 8
and my son is 10..

I don't think the police officer was too far off the mark. If it were my kid, I'd tell him to avoid those 2 too. It isn't punishment. It's just smart. They are trouble. It sounds like one of them has trouble living with them (and you don't know what kind). It's a jumbled up mess. The less you deal with it, the better.

I don't know what the answer is to this problem, but avoidance would definitely be a start.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

I don't think the police officer was too far off the mark. If it were my kid, I'd tell him to avoid those 2 too. It isn't punishment. It's just smart. They are trouble. It sounds like one of them has trouble living with them (and you don't know what kind). It's a jumbled up mess. The less you deal with it, the better.

I don't know what the answer is to this problem, but avoidance would definitely be a start.

I think that's just wrong. Sorry. But the child has to basically live in fear of these kids and can no longer enjoy being outside without fear of being assaulted.

Wrong, Wrong, Wrong.

There is a history of these kids causing problems. The cops should have done something. This is part of the reason why kids can no longer enjoy playing ouside in safety. Adults of these children no longer care what those children do and obviously, many cops also don't care that other kids and adults have to live in fear of other people.

Also, anyone throwing rocks at me, even just tiny pebbles, I'd consider that assault.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I think that's just wrong. Sorry. But the child has to basically live in fear of these kids and can no longer enjoy being outside without fear of being assaulted.

Wrong, Wrong, Wrong.

There is a history of these kids causing problems. The cops should have done something. This is part of the reason why kids can no longer enjoy playing ouside in safety. Adults of these children no longer care what those children do and obviously, many cops also don't care that other kids and adults have to live in fear of other people.

Also, anyone throwing rocks at me, even just tiny pebbles, I'd consider that assault.

Well, the cops can't be there all the time. The kids don't have guidance at home. There is only so much you can do, other than to be present.

 

[cteddiesgirl]

Well, the cops can't be there all the time. The kids don't have guidance at home. There is only so much you can do, other than to be present.

The kids were assaulting the OP's child. The cops should have done something.

 

[Camicar]

Do you have an apartment manager? Perhaps you need to talk to her/him. If these kids have broken out windows, I'd doubt their lease will be renewed.

 

[bambii]

says if we have a problem to contact the police...

it is a new manager... she has really let this place go down hill we have trash in the halls for over a week now and broken emergency lights... we also have a new mantiance man who doesnt do any thing i have never seen him pick up trash the old one kept this place clean..

our lease is month by month so it would be no problem to get out of it

we are thinking about moving to a town 45 miles away spearfish south dakota.. even thought that means moving my son who is high school to another one. he makes friends easy...

 

[cteddiesgirl]

In that case, I'd say it's time to move on.

 

[aprilgail2]

Time to move....

I agree!!

 

[minkydog]

Has your son had run-ins with these boys before? What did you expect the police to do to the boys? they're only 12 and 8. I think the cops hands were tied.

I'm guessing the bullies don't have much supervision. People learn to be bullies at home. It sounds like grandma has her head in the sand and you can't change that. I foresee this situation turning into all out war now that the police are involved. You've already had some retribution. You're renting, you don't have to stay there.

If you can't be present to supervise your son at the playground, then I think you'll have to tell him to avoid these kids. It's sad that he has to change his behavior because the bullies won't. But if he keeps putting himself in harms way, that's not too smart either. They will lay in wait for him and they'll get him eventually.

 

[maelstrom]

If someone threw ROCKS at me, you can bet I'd call the police and file charges. How is it okay to throw rocks at people? Also not cool to be throwing them at buildings and breaking windows. If these kids are acting like this at such a young age, imagine what they'll be like when they're older.