My Mom went down hill ...... and......

[A Mickeyfan]

My mom went down hill fast and went from the hospital to a nursing facilty on 9/29, then to hospice on 10/6. She passed away on Friday 10/10. I was able to stay with her from Wed 10/8 on. She knew that we were with her.

I feel like I lost my best friend. I keep wanting to pick up the phone to call her like I usually did... it is like a part of me is missing
My youngest DD's birthday is 10/28. On Thurdsay, my mom called out my DD's name, she wanted her to sit next to her. When she went over to her, she wished her a Happy Birthday... That was her way to let us know that she knew she was not going to make it and she was ready. She went to sleep Thursday night holding me and my sister's hand and never woke up from that sleep.. then at 1:40pm she took her last breath....
she was surrounded by her family.. and I do think she knew it....


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[mommasita]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Elfstar]

Please accept my sympathies for your loss. I'm glad you and your family were able to be with her at the end, and I'm sure she was glad, too.

 

[kimis]

I know what you are going through! My best friend----my mom-- passed away two years ago and I still dial her number once in a while. You take all the time you need to grieve. Just know that myself as well as others will keep you in our prayers.

 

[frdeb1999]

So very sorry on the loss of your mom.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I am so sorry to read this.. hugs to you, take it one day at a time..

 

[A Mickeyfan]

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers..

kimis.. I guess old habbits never go away.. I know my DD has said the same thing as well. She wants to call her too. She use to call her every day in between her college classes just to say HI and check on her.....

 

[kaffinito]

I am so sorry for your loss. I does take a while for the urge to call Mom to pass, and then it will still sneak up on you and take you by surprise from time to time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

 

[safetymom]

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can take comfort in your memories.

 

[wuv tigger]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

My Mom's phone number is still in my brain, sometimes I think about calling it to see who answers but she has been gone 22 years. The weird thing is every so often when I am down or feeling a bit sorry for myself, something happens to snap me out of it always related to her. Whether it would be the radio is on and a song that only reminds me of her, an old song, comes on the radio out of the blue. Or someone says something the way she would....or a person walks by me and looks like her.. I always take those things as signs and it bucks me up..

Right now, it is so fresh for you, it will take lots of time and effort on your part to get through this. You will remember her with the memories that make you smile. I thought I would never get there, but I did.. it did take time though.

 

[A Mickeyfan]

A friend at work told me yesterday that it will never get better, only easier. I think she hit it on the nose. I know I lost my Dad but I was not really close to him. My parents were divorced. I lost my step-dad and that hurt, but my mom was always there for me .. for everything (good & bad).

A week has gone by and I sort of feel as if I may be slipping into a depression. All I do is go to work, come home, shower and go to bed. I was suppose to be going to HHN this weekend. I did cancel my hotel since I was checking in on Friday the 24th & my mom's service will be on the 23rd. Her house is only an hour from Universal. I am going to be staying at her house for the service. I will be there the entire weekend. I am thinking of maybe still going to HHN on that Sunday night... I have to play it by ear. My DD's don't want to go but my DS does (my DH wasn't going anyway). My sister and her family do not want to. I want to go for some normalcy.... I think we need that now. I am afraid that if I don't do something soon, I will fall into a depression. At least today I have sat on the computer.. at first I did not even want to get out of bed.. I told a friend of mine that I would go to her house tomorrow.. so I am forced to get out of my house... it is like taking baby steps.