Keep up your faith and don't give into the "my mom's gonna die".. My mom was dx' with lung cancer in July 1999. She was given about a year to live. She died Oct 10th 2008

Yes, I am sad she is gone but I thank God for every extra day, month & year he gave her to us. We had faith and my mom had a super strong will. My mom said she was
not going to die yet, and she didn't. She had things in her life she wanted to see and do. While Cancer must be medically treated, one's outlook also plays a part in it as well. My mom's body finally gave up and Cancer took over what was left of the bad lung, took over the good lung and from what the doctors said, they beleived it matastised (sp) to the brain.. there was some conflicting results at the end & we did not have an autopsy so we have no definate proof. I will say the day before she died (she was in a hospice) she held her head & kept saying "brain ...brain..." so she may have known something we all did not.
You cannot start dwelling on the fact that she is going to die.. you need to focus on her life, she is alive and here now. Celebrate her life. Don't let silly fights get into your way.. I did.. I am speaking from experience

My mom lived 4-4.5 hours away, she lived next to my sister.. she was nasty to me (I do think it was from her cancer treatments). She always told me I wasted my money on Disney (yes, going to Disney too much). There were times I went to Disney & she was mad that I didn't go to her house. I am just about 3 hours away from Disney (south) and my mom's house is about 1 and 15 minutes from Disney (give or take). I would get mad at her for not coming down to the hotel and staying with me.. lots of silly things that I cannot take back now.. so when I say don't fight over meaningless things, I have been there done that. I know my mom knew I loved her. I was with her day & night for the last 3 days of her life.. Yes, I spent time with her, but I should have spent more.. I called her every other day... maybe I should have called every day.. now I cannot call at all.. so.. please.. don't let anger get in the way of spending valuable time with your mom.. bite your tounge, don't fight back.. and don't give up on her life.. she is your only mom... and eventually you and your sister will stop the fighting as well... me and my sister are the best of friends now. We have seen all the time we lost...

There are no enemies that you have to worry about when talking to your family.. remember that, they are your family... I hear what you are saying thou.. it's like going behind ones back to talk to the other, again, been there done that.. and that did take time away from us.. don't let it happen to you. If you cannot be there in person for your mom.. call her all the time..