My mom blew me off today!

[Marseeya]

I'm not mad, but I am surprised! Okay, I'm a little mad, but not too much.

Every year since I was a kid, we've gone with my mom to this particular restaurant every Mother's Day. Last year we didn't go because she had gotten really sick a few months before and became homebound. This year I asked her if she wanted to do anything and she said no. I offered to come cook for her, but no, she didn't want anything. My sister had to work today too, so she wasn't going to be able to join in anything.

Well, I went to take her a hanging basket and a card and she wasn't home. (Homebound, remember? For the most part anyway.) I left the basket on her porch. We noticed that my dad's truck was still home, so we realized that my mom's brother must have come to get her. When I called her a few hours later, I came to find out she'd gone with HIM to the restaurant we'd always gone to on Mother's day! Just as a little aside, nobody in the family really cares for this uncle. We always knew growing up if my mom had to save one of her kids from drowning or my uncle, she'd drown us quicker to get to him.

I'm just left shaking my head.

 

[chris1gill]

Sounds like someone in my family I'm sorry you were blown off today... I hope you are okay...

 

[Marseeya]

Sounds like someone in my family I'm sorry you were blown off today... I hope you are okay...

I'm actually fine other than being a little surprised and hurt. I was joking about it with DH, but I don't want to think about it too much!

Did your mom do something like that to you too?

 

[chris1gill]

I'm actually fine other than being a little surprised and hurt. I was joking about it with DH, but I don't want to think about it too much!

Did your mom do something like that to you too?

Uh, yes... this would typically be her way to try to guilt me for whatever transgression she felt I had committed in the recent or not so recent past You have to learn to tell yourself it's nothing you did! She made her choice, don't you feel bad about it...

 

[Pooh67_68]

 

[Evil Queen]

I'm sorry. I didn't answer my Mom's long distance call and not sure I'll call her back. Nothing against her, I just don't feel like conversing with anyone today (I don't mind typing-I did send her an email), and don't want to bring her down.

Right now, I'm trying to avoid my kids, is that not bad on Mom's Day?

 

[chris1gill]

I'm sorry. I didn't answer my Mom's long distance call and not sure I'll call her back. Nothing against her, I just don't feel like conversing with anyone today (I don't mind typing-I did send her an email), and don't want to bring her down.

Right now, I'm trying to avoid my kids, is that not bad on Mom's Day?

That is bad Evil Queen, why are you trying to avoid your kids?

 

[Evil Queen]

That is bad Evil Queen, why are you trying to avoid your kids?

Well, DS23 only wants to talk Sims2, which is cool, I love Sims but not today.

DS10 has been moody, tee'd off I won't play Monopoly (I've played 3 times this week-he can't handle it, if it goes against him) and now id tee'd off about dinner. Plus, he only wants to play video games. I tried getting him to swim, nope, tried a walk, nope, even low cost shopping, nope. I think he's having a "day".

Neither one has even said "Happy Mother's Day" to me.

 

[chris1gill]

Awe, I'm sorry Evil Queen My son went through a period about that time with Monopoly & I hate monopoly!! I told him to play with his father... I mean could we play ANYTHING other than monopoly???

Well, maybe they will remember to say something before the end of the day.... one would hope!

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I'm sorry, Marseeya

 

[Evil Queen]

Awe, I'm sorry Evil Queen My son went through a period about that time with Monopoly & I hate monopoly!! I told him to play with his father... I mean could we play ANYTHING other than monopoly???

Well, maybe they will remember to say something before the end of the day.... one would hope!

thanks

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

We always knew growing up if my mom had to save one of her kids from drowning or my uncle, she'd drown us quicker to get to him.

Do we have the same mom? My mom told me that if I didn't invite my uncle (who is a controling manuplative [beep]) to my wedding (whenever it was) then she wouldn't come. I didn't speak to her for two weeks until my dad made her call and apologize.

I'm sorry that anyone has to experience that, even though you're OK a for you.

Evil Queen. It's Mothers Day. If you want to hide from your kids GO FOR IT!

 

[Evil Queen]

Do we have the same mom? My mom told me that if I didn't invite my uncle (who is a controling manuplative [beep]) to my wedding (whenever it was) then she wouldn't come. I didn't speak to her for two weeks until my dad made her call and apologize.

I'm sorry that anyone has to experience that, even though you're OK a for you.

Evil Queen. It's Mothers Day. If you want to hide from your kids GO FOR IT!

Thanks. and BTW-I loved Captain Kangaroo...................

 

[Nala56]

Marseeya, I wondered if you would be at the Sunporch today. I'm sorry your mother hurt you, I thought my family was the only strange one. Happy mothers days, anyway!!

 

[Marseeya]

Marseeya, I wondered if you would be at the Sunporch today. I'm sorry your mother hurt you, I thought my family was the only strange one. Happy mothers days, anyway!!

I would have been if she'd told me!

I can't imagine how ticked I would have been if my DH had taken ME there, only to run into my mom by surprise.

 

[Marseeya]

Do we have the same mom? My mom told me that if I didn't invite my uncle (who is a controling manuplative [beep]) to my wedding (whenever it was) then she wouldn't come. I didn't speak to her for two weeks until my dad made her call and apologize.

I'm sorry that anyone has to experience that, even though you're OK a for you.

Evil Queen. It's Mothers Day. If you want to hide from your kids GO FOR IT!

Oh Geez, we must have the same mom! My mother did the same to me with my uncle when I went into the hospital to have my DD. She informed me that he was coming and that was that.

Thankfully, I had a morphine drip.

 

[Marseeya]

Well, DS23 only wants to talk Sims2, which is cool, I love Sims but not today.

DS10 has been moody, tee'd off I won't play Monopoly (I've played 3 times this week-he can't handle it, if it goes against him) and now id tee'd off about dinner. Plus, he only wants to play video games. I tried getting him to swim, nope, tried a walk, nope, even low cost shopping, nope. I think he's having a "day".

Neither one has even said "Happy Mother's Day" to me.

I hope your day got better.

I remember one year I sent the kids to my mom's and just spent the day by myself on Mother's Day. I felt bad, but the kids had fun and I had a peaceful day.

 

[Evil Queen]

I hope your day got better.

I remember one year I sent the kids to my mom's and just spent the day by myself on Mother's Day. I felt bad, but the kids had fun and I had a peaceful day.

Actually, the moods of all evened out, so that was good. It never really crossed my mind, that might had been the way he dealt with he didn't really get to go out and get me anything.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Marseeya, join the group. My Mother would have sacraficed me anyday to help her Mother or siblings. She always says blood is thicker than water, but I guess kids must be more like water.

 

[rie'smom]

Dear Marseeya, I know your pain.My uncle once took my brothers @ knifepoint and made them drive around with him-yes,it was a "mental" episode.My mom's reaction the next day:"Well,your brothers aren't perfect"!!!!!!. My mom's always been a lunatic about her family for some reason.Same uncle sexually abused me once as a child and when I finally told my mom several years ago,she didn't believe me until he told her at the request of his shrink. Then,she continued to have him over-hate the sin,not the sinner. Finally,my little brother left his wife and has custody of his kids and she knows the court appointed family therapist would never let him visit if she still had a pedophile over-so she has forbidden him from visiting. I'm 48 years old and stll don't get it except there must be a deep dark dysfunction there somewhere. Still,it hurts.