My husband doesn't 'Get' why i Love disney world

[bobchwalek]

Hi, my name id heather and i have a question for you all. My husband, myself and our 2 girls (1 & 3) will be going to disney world in the fall and his not really excited. I would like to go every year to two years and he asked Why?. Does any one else have this problem? I will just go with the kids next time if he doesn't want to go ( like when he goes snowmobliing for a week!) But how do i take two kids with me on rides and all that. Is there a group or something where you can meet other people to make friends to meet down there so you have people to hang out with? I have one friend up here that i thinkwould go with us next time but no one i know shares my LOVE for the world. Thanks for you help!
Heather

 

[Pink Princess]

Hi Heather

I have exactly the same problem. My partner doesn't share my love of Disney & cannot understand why I am getting excited now for a trip I'm planning for October 2007, when I'll be celebrating my 30th birthday at WDW with a family holiday

 

[Harvest02]

Hi, my name id heather and i have a question for you all. My husband, myself and our 2 girls (1 & 3) will be going to disney world in the fall and his not really excited. I would like to go every year to two years and he asked Why?. Does any one else have this problem? I will just go with the kids next time if he doesn't want to go ( like when he goes snowmobliing for a week!) But how do i take two kids with me on rides and all that. Is there a group or something where you can meet other people to make friends to meet down there so you have people to hang out with? I have one friend up here that i thinkwould go with us next time but no one i know shares my LOVE for the world. Thanks for you help!
Heather

I know exactly how you feel! My DH is not a Disney lover either. Says it costs too much money! We just got back June 15th from a week long trip to the world, and he did go along. I think he really did have a good time while we were there, but he won't admit it. I can truly say I am addicted to Disney and would love to go often. I am trying to plan a trip for sometime in 2007 or 2008 and my parents said they would love to go with us. Do you have any other immediate family members that would be interested in going(grandparents, siblings, etc)? I don't mind if my husband doesn't want to go next time as long as I have other family with me. Although, now that we have done Disney and stayed on site, I would have no problem taking my two DS 9 and 5 down by myself. For you it might be a little more difficult going with kids that are younger. One thing I can say is stay on-site. There were several mornings where my husband was not too keen on getting up and getting moving, so with the wonderful transportation system(we did not get a car) at Disney I was able to take the kids out to the parks on my own. I just carried my cell phone in case my husband needed to get a hold of me. I am trying to convert my husband into a Disney fan, but I am not holding out hope on that one!!! I am driving him crazy by being on these boards all the time and already saving money for our next trip! Just know that you are not alone in your feelings! Good luck!!!

 

[tink4ever]

Hi: I have the same problem. In 1996 my husband and I went for the first time together and he really liked it but I fell in LOVE with everything Disney. Lets just say I became OBSESSED. I made him buy into the DVC, I now have an entire hallway of my house dedicated to the mouse, Teapots in my DR, Tinkerbell Cookie jars in my kitchen, Disney CDs in my SUV, a tinkerbell watch, Cinderella checks, Disney clothing, etc. He looks at me like I am crazy. I will be turning 40 this Jan. and I am taking my extended family. He keeps asking me "Why Disney" and I just tell him there is no place I would rather turn 40! Our kids now are 19,17,13 so they too are getting a little bit " Been there done that." But not me, I always feel excited. My DH even decided since we went twice this year that he would drink thru the countries of Epcot.( he's really not a drinker) But I ignored him and had fun with my yougest child while he did his thing. Anyway I know 2 times a year is too much for him but I am sure I can squeak out atleast 1 Disney vaca a year and if I let him golf and hang out at the pool he will be ok. In your case I would try and find a companion to grab and go with until your kids are older. I am jealous of the people who say their spouses or partners are just as crazy about Disney as they are. That will never happen for me. But that will not stop me. Good luck!

 

[Idroveallnight]

Same situation with my DH! My mom - who got us hooked - always goes with me! Do you have a teenage niece, cousin, etc...? They might be willing to go with you & help with thekids?

 

[kerry34]

Hi Heather,

Welcome to the Dis! Your post caught my eye and I just had to post. My husband came with me to Disney last April for the first time. I had gone down several times before that with family and he never really had an interest in going. When I was planning our April 05 trip he basically was like "whatever". Had no interest really in hearing anything about my planning, just basically said do whatever you want and I will go along with it.
Well we got there and at first he seemed untouched by the magic, but then after about 2 days I started to see a little change in him. By the last half of our trip he was getting in on having his picture taken with some of the characters which I never would have expected. The final shocker was when he took my little ones on Goofy's Barnstormer. I had stayed behind with one of the kids that didnt want to go. We were standing there watching the coaster and lo and behold there is my husband hooting and hollering and I think having more fun than any of the kids on the ride. All of my kids were sitting around him just staring at him in shock. My kids dragged him back on again and that is when I knew that he finally got it. Three months later my mom and I were joking around saying wouldnt it be nice to go for Christmas.
He overheard this one statement and said "Yeah lets do it....can you start planning it now". He was totally serious. He made it known that this time he wanted to stay onsite and then further convinced me to really go all out and stay at the Poly. We did and again he had a great time. We are going back again next April, and now he has been trying very hard to try and convince me to stay Lagoon View Concierge which I told him is not in our budget. How the tables have turned.

So your husband may go and decide it is not for him, but dont completely rule out that maybe he will love it too and totally be for the idea of going more often. Wait and see what happens on your trip, there may be hope for him yet.

 

[westbrush]

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[DizGeek]

I have the same problem except for one thing...the husband wants to go and the wife doesnt. Fortunatley, I'm the husband and I'm the one that does the research and books the trips etc....so guess where I book all the time?

 

[Ava's Mommy]

My DH, keeps saying i'm not excited i don't really care to go.. Then ever once in a while i see him sneak a peak at my disney books or watch a disney special on tv. He says he can't get excited about it, because I am excited enough for the whole family... All i can say is once they get there , they turn into little boys. Especially mine on Buzz Lightyear. LOL good luck and maybe don't push it so much... I know its hard but that is what the disboards are for.. we are all excited.

 

[ObsessedwithWDW]

And I thought it was just me. I am absolutely obsessed with Walt Disney World. I did the college program gosh almost 10 years ago and haven't been the same since! Though the issues were there before since my family took us lots as kids too. My husband and I have been together 6 + years married for almost 3....and we have been every year including our honeymoon (with an extended stay in Aruba after) and he just doesnt get it. Though I will say he LOVES to be there with me says he loves to see me SO HAPPY. But I am sure he doesnt understand the obsession and undying love. He makes fun of me (in a kidding but serious way) to our friends and family BUT I have to say we have a trip planned AGAIN for this September going with our baby (10 months) and our two friends that are as good as family and they were just saying Saturday night....from the disboards I SAVED us around $1000 per couple from flight deals to the meal plans!!!!! If an obsession saves that much money its well worth it to me

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Add one more to the list. My DH (I call him Grumpy Spouse) just does not get it.....If it weren't for my constant planning of the next trip (I try to hold off until the current one is over ), we would never go. We now live 5 hours away, so it is really tempting to book ever other month....LOL....

He goes because he knows that the boys and I love it. And once he gets there, and sees the boys having such a great time, he gives in to the magic(a little, it may just be for show .) After our St. Pat's day trip, he made me promise not to book another one for awhile...I agreed, knowing all the time that I had already booked a week before Christmas at the CB..I am so deceiving, but I am willing to go just me and the boys-even though they are wild animals at WDW!!!

I even got to go for a weekend by myself. It would have been great, but my mom (who watched the boys when DH couldn't) kept telling me how DS4(at the time) was crying in school because he missed me...she meant well, I guess, but it sure put a damper on my good time!!

You are not alone.

 

[GoofyNKansas]

I'm a husband who loves Disney. I can't wait to get there, and I miss it once I've gone back home.

 

[bobchwalek]

Thank you all for all your help! i used to go with my mom but she past away this year. I have a friend that might be interested in going on future trips!!!
thanks heather

 

[byoung]

My DW doesn't have that problem.

 

[Disneyrsh]

Hi, my name id heather and i have a question for you all. My husband, myself and our 2 girls (1 & 3) will be going to disney world in the fall and his not really excited. I would like to go every year to two years and he asked Why?. Does any one else have this problem? I will just go with the kids next time if he doesn't want to go ( like when he goes snowmobliing for a week!) But how do i take two kids with me on rides and all that. Is there a group or something where you can meet other people to make friends to meet down there so you have people to hang out with? I have one friend up here that i thinkwould go with us next time but no one i know shares my LOVE for the world. Thanks for you help!
Heather

Divorce the bum!

No, just kidding.

Seriously, I had to drag my husband KICKING AND SCREAMING to WDW 15 years ago to meet up with my parents who were vacationing at the Wilderness Lodge.

Let's just say the magic worked on him and now we are DVC members at, of course, with marvelous synchonicity, Villas at Wilderness Lodge.

Once he gets there, he might like it. Just make it easy for him to admit he's wrong by not putting to much pressure on him to like it.

 

[disneyde]

There are ways to get them hooked. Or at least it worked for me. The first time I took DH I made sure that it was the best disney experience possible for HIM. And for him that means good food and time alone with me, as well as, with the kids (at the time the same ages as your two). We hired fairygod mothers and had one whole day at the parks just the two of us. This worked out great. This year when we were talking budget (it was so sweet that I cried) he said "please can we go to disney world"?

 

[dizydreamer]

Sounds like I have the same family as most of you. My DH had suggested WDW for our Honeymoon and I thought this is GREAT he is just like me. Now he complains if you don't try some palce else. Then when we do ..... "WHY DIDN"T WE GO TO DISNEY!!??" Closet Disney lover! I think he is just as bad as I am because he always finds something for me from Disney. Dishes, Night Clothes, Nick Nacks, etc. So best of luck to all with the slow to catch the magic. It will come soon.

 

[Mr._The_King]

I'm a DH that is totally hooked on Disney. Make sure you take him to some manly things first