My husband can be SUCH an idiot!

[LauraR]

Why is it my husband turns into a moron when he's at home? He has a master's degree and a good job where he constantly gets raises and promotions, but when he's at home it's like his brain is turned off.
He's at home all this week, so I asked him to take our son to the orthodontist appointment. I gave him specific directions, THREE times I said "it's the second right), but of course he takes the first right. Then when they get there late, my son ends up in the back waiting for the orthodontist for half an hour. I say to my husband, "Weren't you back there with him?" He says, "No."
Doesn't it kinda make sense to sit in on the appointment? (I always do) I thought this would be his opportunity to talk to the orthodontist about how our son's treatment is going. Besides, our son is only 10 so I don't always expect him to recount things in the most accurate way.
Of course, I can't say much to my husband since I don't want to start a fight three days before Christmas. But the whole thing irritated me, my son having to wait because no one's back there looking out for him, and my husband totally missing any feedback from the orthodontist. GRRRR!!!!
Thanks for the vent!

 

[punkin]

I know how you feel. I am married to the world's smartest most educated idiot.

But he loves me and I love him. His mind just works kinda sideways.

 

[minkydog]

where's that popcorn icon when you need it...

 

[jfulcer]

Pet Peeve: Calling your husband/SO degrading names like moron. It's quite a show of disrespect, IMHO, even if it's online and not to his face.

I'm just glad you don't ever make mistakes so he comes here to post about how YOU never listen to HIM.

 

[aka-mad4themouse]

I swear that they screw up on purpose so that you never ask them to do it again. My DH can never remember where any of the kids' friends live just so that he doesn't have pull taxi duty on the rare instance when he's home in the evening. My dad calls it being "dumb like a fox".

 

[Marseeya]

I'd hate to hear how mad you'd be if he really did something bad!

I have a 10 yo DD and she doesn't want me with her at the dentist's office. They always come out and talk to me when they're done.

 

[chrissyk]

I wouldn't think that this was too big of a deal. My dad never took me to the orthodontist, but if he did I don't imagine that he would have been back there asking questions of my orthodontist. Men and women just handle things differently. My dad (and probably my husband too, to be honest) would figure that if there was anything important to report, the Dr. would come out and speak to them.

 

[LoveWDW]

I've found that if something matters to me, I must tell my husband and not assume that he'll consider it equally important.

 

[Christine]

My husband does odd things too. If he goes grocery shopping, he always has to call me ask about a particular cut of meat and what it is. He usually always gets lost going places locally. Sometimes I feel like I'm talking to one of the kids!!!

As for the orthodontist, do ALL of the parents go into the room? At my kids' ortho, none of the parents go back unless they are called back and just sit in the waiting room. Back in the day, when I went to the ortho, my parents NEVER came back. If the doctor needed to speak to them, he would find them. I'm assuming your DH went there and followed the lead of all the other parents? As for getting lost, he probably wasn't paying one bit of attention to you when you were giving him directions.

 

[diznygirl]

Pet Peeve: Calling your husband/SO degrading names like moron. It's quite a show of disrespect, IMHO, even if it's online and not to his face.

I'm just glad you don't ever make mistakes so he comes here to post about how YOU never listen to HIM.

Hey, that's HER idiot/moron - she can call him whatever she wants!

Yes, guys do think differently, don't they?

 

[mudnuri]

Pet Peeve: Calling your husband/SO degrading names like moron. It's quite a show of disrespect, IMHO, even if it's online and not to his face.

I'm just glad you don't ever make mistakes so he comes here to post about how YOU never listen to HIM.

I have to agree. My children are not allowed to call others names, such as idiot, moron, etc.. why in the world would i call someone I love something like that? It is very degrading....and rude to boot??

Brandy

 

[kristen821]

My dh and I don't agree on what is important very often. It probably gets a lot more things done that way! At my kids dentist they request the parents don't come back.

 

[PlutoPony]

I've found that if something matters to me, I must tell my husband and not assume that he'll consider it equally important.

I hear ya - this single thought could save a lot of marriages IMHO.
It took me several years to come to this conclusion...
Sounds like the OP has the concept but execution is an issue - don't know what to recommend for that but I understand your frustration

 

[LauraR]

Yeah, I know it's not such a big deal---probably holiday stress talking. Which is why I'm glad I didn't go with my first impulse which was to get mad at him (or at least show that I was mad at him!) You'd think I'd know he doesn't really listen to me, after 19 years of it, LOL! I agree it's not very nice to call him bad names behind his back, but I don't complain about him to my best friend or mother, so this was the only place I could think of for a proper vent. And actually, I did feel better afterwards and avoided a pointless argument, so I think it served it's purpose.
This is why my preferred method of getting mad is the silent treatment. I think a lot of what you would like to say right off the bat, you end up regretting!
As for the orthodontist, most people at this practice go back with the kids, but I see it is a variable thing, so thank you for the perspective.